What about preventing sexual assault? Why do you let your children dress so casually when the weather is hot?

A group of pictures on the Internet of a grandma taking a little girl wearing only a pair of shorts on the subway made people go crazy. Some people said: \”You should wear short-sleeved clothes for your child, after all, she is a girl.\” Others said: \”This grandma must not know about \’pedophilia\’\”! Others said: \”I told you not to let the elderly take care of the children, don\’t let the old take care of the children, let\’s see!\” Although a few people said that this situation is nothing, and that all the little girls in their hometown are like this. But what needs to be noted is that the little girl wearing only a pair of shorts is not in the countryside, nor in her own home, but in a public place like the subway. Therefore, this approach is very inappropriate both from the perspective of the little girl\’s own safety and from the perspective of civility in public places. This little girl reminds me of a time when I was \”bold\” when I was a child. When I was about the same age as a girl, my family lived in the dormitory of my mother’s hostel. In the summer, I couldn’t take a shower because of the water outage, so my mother took me to the public bathroom. In old-fashioned guest houses, the men\’s and women\’s toilets share a washing space. There I was stripped down to my shorts and took a bath with water in a basin. To be honest, I was very reluctant at the time and just wanted it all to end soon. But luckily, a shirtless young man came to the bathroom halfway. He saw my mother bathing me. He paused for two seconds, turned red and left. I was already 8 years old at the time, and my gender consciousness had already been solidified. I felt extremely insulted inside, and I was so ashamed that I wanted to find a crack in the ground and crawl into it. But my mother calmly said to me who was struggling, \”Children are afraid of something.\” It is precisely because there are parents like my mother and grandma who are very big-hearted, so we have worn crotchless pants since we were young. It is also considered normal to urinate and defecate in public and expose one\’s genitals at will. The culture we have grown up in has no concept of the boundaries of nudity. No one has taught me which parts of the body are allowed to be seen and which parts are not. This is why mothers who \”lead four-year-old boys into the women\’s locker room\” and grandmothers who \”take a little girl wearing only a pair of underwear on the subway\” emerge in endlessly. Parents and parents themselves don’t even know where the boundaries of the body are, so how can they protect their children and prevent sexual assault? \”Children are still so young, what do they know?\” Maybe many parents have the same idea, but if you think sex education is too early, bad people will never think your child is too young. In this regard, Japanese parents do a better job. Not only do they educate their children from an early age not to expose their private parts, they also ask the children to take off their tops and put on a small cloak when changing clothes in a public place like a swimming pool. Take off your underwear and put on swimming trunks. Teacher Hu Ping, who has been engaged in sex education for more than 20 years, introduced in \”Good Understanding of Virginity 1\”: Children begin to understand their gender from birth, and most children have a stable understanding and identity of their own gender around the age of 3. . The development of children\’s gender awareness and roles comes from the parenting style of their parents and the children\’s own learning. In layman\’s terms, no matter how young a child is, they still have their own privacy, and the child\’s development and understanding of his or her own gender completely depends on the family\’s upbringing. colleagueOur baby boy is only seven months old. Now that the weather is hot, he usually doesn’t wear a diaper at home. However, when my colleague was held by grandma and went out to play, his buttocks were also bare, so he stopped him in time. After her patient persuasion, grandma finally agreed that children should have their own privacy, and now she wears small underwear even if she doesn\’t wear diapers when going out. Therefore, it is not that children cannot be left to the care of the elderly, but when parents leave their children to the care of the elderly, they still cannot be absent from the issue of child-rearing responsibilities. If 3-year-old children only recognize their own gender, then 6- and 7-year-old children have to mention the concept of \”body shame\”. Children will develop a sense of gender when they are 6-7 years old. At this time, the child begins to refuse to expose his body in front of others. Although this shyness seems to be stronger when facing the opposite sex, it also exists for the same sex. But when a child feels body shy, it also Parents need correct guidance. For example, in the hot weather now, many fathers only wear a pair of shorts, and mothers only wear a small sling without even underwear underneath, walking around the house. This destroys the child\’s sense of physical shyness. , and even breaks the physical boundaries that the child has just established. The usual clothing patterns of parents will also be remembered by the children, and children of the same sex will imitate them, and children of the opposite sex will form an identity in their hearts. This is invisible. Give those sexual predators (or pedophiles) with evil intentions an opportunity to take advantage of. Also, don’t think that “weirdos” will only attack girls. Chester Bennington, the lead singer of the famous American band Linkin Park The examples tell everyone that little boys can also become the target of being violated, and the physical and psychological damage caused is no less than that of girls. Most importantly, I would like to remind parents: 1. No matter how hot the weather is, even in your own home, Don\’t let yourself and your children dress too casually. You must know that your temporary convenience may harm your children\’s life. 2. Pay more attention to whether your clothes are appropriate in public places. Men and women are different, and children also have privacy. and self-esteem, so wear what should be worn to protect the safety of the child and save one\’s own face. 3. Parents should avoid their children when they are intimate. I once saw a short video saying that after the child was born, the couple turned out to be very They had not been able to sleep in the same bed for years, and every time they had sex they had to have sex in all kinds of unexpected places, so they actually gave birth to three children in ten years. Although this couple\’s approach is a bit exaggerated, it is very necessary to avoid children when they are having sex. . Otherwise, if you are bumped into by a child pushing in the door, there is no way to explain the saying \”Fairy fight\”. Normal hugs and kisses can allow children to participate in it, share your sweetness, and tell him that kissing can make the person you love happy. Love each other more. 4. Do not store indecent videos and pictures in electronic products. Dads are particularly reminded to note that as long as it is a computer or mobile phone that children may have access to, please do not store similar videos. Otherwise, you will The child is sent to the arms of the big bad wolf! Remember the \”Top 10 Child Safety Declarations\” promulgated by the UK, because it also applies to your children: 1. Safe growth is more important than success;2. No one is allowed to touch the ground covered by vests and underpants; 3. Life comes first, property second; 4. Little secrets should be told to mother; 5. Do not drink drinks from strangers or eat candy from strangers; 6. Do not interact with others. Talk to strangers; 7. When in danger, you can break the glass and destroy the furniture; 8. When in danger, you can run away first; 9. Do not keep the secrets of bad people; 10. Bad people can lie!