What are the best ways and experiences for parents to educate their children?

I like this passage very much: No one is born to be a parent. Everyone needs to learn and restore themselves to a seed and grow into themselves again. Let go of authority and treat your children as equals; let go of perfection and get along with yourself truly. Only after I became a parent did I deeply realize the profound connotation of \”raising children means raising oneself.\” As the child grows up, it can be said that it looks different every day. If you only use your past life experience to discipline your children, you are likely to get nothing but feathers. It not only affects the parent-child relationship, but also delays the child\’s growth. In the process of raising children, as long as parents seize these three golden periods, they can raise an excellent child! 0-3 years old. Emotionally raising children at different ages has different needs. Parents must give them the right upbringing to help their children grow better. So what do children aged 0-3 need most? Italian educator Dr. Maria Montessori pointed out that the development of a child in the three years after birth exceeds any stage in a child\’s life in terms of extent and importance. 0-3 years old is a critical period for children to establish a sense of security. Whether parents can establish a sense of security for their children during this period determines his lifelong emotional connection with the outside world. Therefore, the focus of parenting for children aged 0-3 years is the emotional upbringing of children, and parents must give their children a sufficient sense of security. Psychologist Professor Li Meijin also pointed out that children aged 0-3 years old have the strongest emotional needs. If there is a lack of emotion during this period, it may cause estrangement between parents and children. Therefore, before the age of 3, parents must personally raise their children and give them positive attention and responses. Whether a child is crying or losing his temper, parents must accept their child\’s emotions unconditionally and respond positively to help him establish a sense of security and lay the foundation for a stable mood and personality later on. During the critical first three years of life, every child develops a special ability. Whether it is learning a language or developing habits, it is the best time. Once missed, there will be no chance to make up for it. We can call this special ability the \”absorptive mind.\” Dr. Montessori once compared the \”absorptive mind\” to a sponge absorbing water: children are like sponges absorbing water, absorbing various information from the surrounding environment, and thereby establishing their connection with the outside world, and thus forming a own personality. We can compare a child\’s \”absorptive mind\” to a video camera. He absorbs everything he sees and hears into his brain and internalizes it as part of himself. This is what we often say: \”Three-year-olds look older, seven-year-olds look older.\” How parents should educate their children: A complete set of 10 children\’s education mobi+epub+azw3 Therefore, what kind of person a child can become in the future depends to a large extent on what kind of family education the child receives when he grows up. 3-6 years old, character development. Research from Harvard University pointed out that 3-6 years old is the most critical period for the development of children\’s character and behavioral habits. It can be described as the \”wet cement period\”. 85%-90% of a child\’s personality, thoughts, and behaviors are formed at this stage. Children of this age are very energetic and like to exploreSearch and discover. Many parents enroll their children aged 3-6 in many interest classes. In fact, the most important thing for children at this stage is not to learn various abilities, but to develop their character and habits. Teacher Li Meijin pointed out: Children’s character education is more important than ability education. Children between the ages of 3 and 6 are the golden age for developing habits. The good habits a child develops when he is a child will affect his behavior over time and eventually become his character. As adults, we always feel that our children are still young and we worry about everything, fearing that they will knock or get hurt. In life, many parents like to make the decision and take care of everything for their children. This is not allowed, and that is prohibited. This can easily destroy the child\’s physical and mental development. As children grow up day by day, they can crawl, walk, and jump step by step. They are eager to get rid of the control of adults, use their own hands to touch the world, and use their own feet to go where they want to go. This is not only a child\’s yearning to \”become\” an adult every day, but also the inherent power of the natural development of all living things. This is the \”law of independent growth\”. Dr. Montessori pointed out: \”If one cannot be independent, there is no freedom.\” When we say \”the theory of independent growth\”, it actually contains two meanings: (1) \”Independence\” ” is the main goal of growth-to become an independent person, you have the ability to develop life. (2) \”Independence\” is a necessary condition for growth─it represents the maturity of various physical and psychological functions. For example: able to walk on their own, able to breathe freely… Children\’s growth follows the laws of nature. All adults need to do is to follow the \”laws of nature\”; assist children to develop freely and help them complete the mission given to them by nature. Therefore, sometimes parents know how to let go, which is actually a kind of parenting wisdom. When a child has space for free activities, opportunities to make independent choices, and can do and try many things on his own, he will develop an internal drive. As long as the child\’s inner drive is ignited, he will naturally burst out with huge learning potential. 6-12 years old, ability development. After the age of 6, a child enters the first important stage in his life, becoming a primary school student and starting his learning career. There is an essential difference between preschool education and school education. The preschool stage mainly allows children to experience and perceive; while the school stage focuses on methodical learning and the accumulation of knowledge. In a child\’s learning career, what really plays a key role is the guidance of parents. Before the child is 12 years old, if parents let the child learn these three abilities, the education will be more than half successful. 1. Develop good habits. A reporter once interviewed Kapitsa, the winner of the Nobel Prize in Physics, \”Where did you learn the most important things in your life?\” He said: \”I personally think that the most important things in your life are The stage is not in university or laboratory, but in kindergarten.\” He continued, \”Here, I learned a lot, such as not taking things that are not your own; washing hands before meals and resting after meals; You must do what you promised others; you must put things back where you took them…\” There is a very thought-provoking saying in the education circle: If the first and second graders don\’t work hard, the third and fourth graders will be far behind.distance! The first and second grades are a critical period for children to develop their learning attitudes and habits! It is more effective to pay attention to it seriously for a month in the first grade than to pay attention to it for a year in the sixth grade. The so-called \”catch\” and \”staring\” do not mean that you really stare at the child, but that you stare at the child\’s study habits. Outstanding children are inseparable from the silent dedication and support of their parents. If a child does not develop good habits, it will be difficult for him to improve his academic performance. 2. The earlier these three abilities are developed, the more beneficial they will be. The earlier these three abilities are developed, the more promising the child will be in the future. The first is self-discipline. U.S. President Theodore Roosevelt once said: \”There is a quality that can make a person stand out from the mediocre people who do nothing. This quality is not talent, education, or IQ, but self-discipline.\” Self-discipline is a Children\’s advanced soft power, self-disciplined and unself-disciplined children lead completely different lives! Some people say that life is like a piggy bank. Every effort you put in will be rewarded to you one day in the future. The second is thinking ability. Einstein said that it is more important for children to learn to think and judge independently than to acquire knowledge. Independent thinking is an ability that children will use throughout their lives. Children with the ability to think independently will not blindly follow the crowd when things happen. The third type is self-control. There are too many things in today\’s electronic products, online games, and colorful society that attract children. If you help your child quit playing games, there are still countless attractive \”things\” waiting for him. Unless children learn to control themselves, parents cannot be good gatekeepers for their children throughout their lives. A child with better self-control development can make reasonable decisions among a bunch of choices. Self-control generally involves three components: controlling one\’s emotions, controlling one\’s behavior, and controlling one\’s desires. Children with strong self-control are more likely to succeed in the future. Whether a person can succeed depends on self-control far more than intelligence. To truly wait for the flowers to bloom is not to really let the children go and not care about anything, but to develop conscious habits when the children are young. When parents raise their children, they should not only keep their children healthy and well-fed and clothed, but also consider what kind of person they want to cultivate! In the process of raising children, only if we continue to learn, improve, and grow can we truly grow with our children. Let’s encourage all parents.