What can parents say to cheer up their children who are tired of studying?

Parents, think back first, have you ever been motivated? Have you ever been hit? Recall a memory that left a lasting impression on you. I once received encouragement from a classmate\’s father. I was in Beijing at that time. After graduation, I shared a house with my college classmates. At that time, I quit my job at Baidu and went to the newspaper office. But my days at the newspaper office were also very unhappy. Others thought it was a good career, with stability, freedom, and lots of money, but I just lived a very unhappy life. Because I was in pain, I started exercising and reading. At that time, I went to the Ming City Wall Ruins Park for jogging every day. At the beginning, I couldn’t run even one kilometer. Later, I kept running, from 1km to 2km, and then to 8km. I must run eight kilometers every day, unless it rains. It’s very windy in Beijing in winter, so I insist on going out for a run. My classmate and her father would often call each other and talk about what I was doing. When his father knew that I insisted on going out for a run every day, he said: She will become a great person in the future. After my classmate told me about it, I was very happy and suddenly felt so powerful. I have never met my classmate’s father, but his words really inspired me. At that moment I felt like I could accomplish a lot. So I later quit my job and started my own business, starting a media company, doing consulting, opening a fight club, etc. This sentence has always given me a lot of courage. It has been more than ten years, but I still remember this sentence. Of course I was also deeply shocked. When I was a freshman in high school, I was tired of studying and lay flat. I didn\’t dare to go out at home or go to school. I was under too much pressure and couldn\’t learn even if I went there. I couldn\’t keep up with my classmates and teachers. At that time, a relative said: Sure enough, it is said that girls cannot keep up after high school, and this is still the case. It\’s normal. If you can\’t keep up, you can\’t keep up. Just go to any university after high school. But if you lie at home like this now, won\’t your whole life be ruined? I was really angry at the time, and I thought to myself: Why do you say that I can just go to any university? How do you know I\’m useless? How do you know that I will always lie down? But out of dignity, I didn\’t refute or respond. But such words are too shocking. At that time, I was already in a bad mood. After hearing this, I felt like I had been slapped again, and my heart became even more blocked. Of course, with the help of my mother, I went back to school. In my senior year of high school, I ranked first in Qingdao, which completely slapped my relatives in the face. But a kind word warms you for three winters, and a bad word hurts you for six months. If you hurt someone, you will remember it forever. As parents grow up to this point, they must have experienced some blows and received some encouragement. Now that the child is lying down at home, he does not have to study or do homework. He seems to be happily playing mobile phones and games every day. But do you think he is really happy on this kind of day? It must not be the case. He has many emotions in his heart, complaints, pain, even hatred of the world around him, self-blame, guilt, and hatred of himself, but he has not expressed them. I don’t know how to express it either. So in this case, parents should come first. Don\’t talk to your children from messy relatives. This is of no use at all. It will only make the children feel more annoyed and resist you even more. Second, stop nagging and reasoning. Nagging and reasoningBehind the truth are criticism and blame. That wouldn\’t be the case if criticism made him feel better. Third, encourage and motivate, and do not put negative labels, such as lazy, stupid, undisciplined, ignorant, etc. Appropriate motivation can give people courage and strength. I still believe \”I will become a great person\”. What kind of person do you want your child to become? You need to provide more guidance in this regard, instead of just seeing what the child does poorly. Find a bright spot in your child every day, just a small one will do. Then express it in an appropriate way, with specific behaviors + shining points. For example, I insist on running eight kilometers every day. My classmate’s father knows about this behavior and praises me based on this behavior. Never praise someone without specific actions. If you come up with forced praise, first of all, it is not credible, and secondly, the children will find it baffling. No matter what state the child is in now, there must still be something shining. If you are his parents, you will definitely be able to discover it. If you can\’t find it, it means you are incompetent and have seriously neglected your children. You need to reflect on yourself first before you can help your children. It is not a bad thing at all for a child to be tired of studying and lie flat for a while. The important thing is to see the child\’s suffering and tiredness, and never give up on him. Don\’t think that his life is useless. As long as you can help him get through this difficulty together, Blessings lie behind.