What determines a child\’s life is not the college entrance examination, but the fourth and fifth grades! It\’s not too late to see it now

In a child\’s learning career, there are always several nodes that require our focus. Generally, parents are more concerned about their children\’s entrance examinations, entrance examinations and college entrance examinations. In fact, there is another critical period that determines the development of a child\’s life, and that is the fourth and fifth grade. Because children during this period are undergoing great physical and psychological changes, it is a critical period for cultivating children\’s various abilities. This article provides a detailed explanation of most of the problems that arise in children in fourth and fifth grade. I hope parents will take a good look at it. Many parents do not understand when their children are in the period when their children are tired of learning. When they were in the first to third grade, their children were very obedient in school, completed the homework given by the teacher on time, and listened to what the parents told them. Why did their children become so obedient in the fourth or fifth grade? Do you start to hate studying and doing homework, and also start to show resentment towards some of the words your parents tell you? In fact, when a child becomes tired of studying, it also shows that he has begun to think about the meaning of learning. If a child cannot find the reason why he or she wants to study, he or she will naturally be unwilling to persevere and become tired of studying. When children are in lower grades, their independent thinking has not yet formed and they cannot actively think about problems. Therefore, they will rely more on teachers and parents, thinking that everything teachers and parents say is right and should be listened to. When children enter fourth grade, their thinking skills begin to develop rapidly and they have the ability to think independently. When encountering a problem, the child no longer wants to ask his parents what to do first, but he will think to himself: Why is this happening? what do I do? When it comes to learning, it becomes: Why should I study? So what if I don’t study well? Children at this period are still very sensitive. Some inappropriate behaviors by parents can easily make children confused and become tired of learning. How to alleviate children’s aversion to studying? For example, when a child enters fourth grade and his grades start to fall behind, the parents next to him become anxious: \”Why are you so stupid?\” \”Can you study with snacks?\” Some even beat their children. Please, can parents understand the reason behind it before blaming their children? When children reach fourth or fifth grade, in order to prepare for entering junior high school, the learning content increases and becomes more difficult. It is normal for children to be unable to accept it for a while. If parents only know how to blame, then children who cannot understand can only direct their \”grievances\” to their studies. There are also many parents who like to reward and punish their children\’s achievements. If you do well in the exam, you will be rewarded; if you do not do well, you will be punished. The consequence of this is that it is easy for children to study in order to get rewards. Over time, learning is no longer the child\’s intrinsic interest, but only a pure material reward. If children are punished for failing to achieve a certain learning goal, they will be more stressed in the future learning process, and will be anxious and fearful of punishment, and may even lose their ability to learn, and the effect will be contrary to parents\’ expectations. . Therefore, when a child enters fourth or fifth grade, the first task of parents is to let the child know that learning is his own business. He can not learn well, but he has to work hard. During the critical period when children’s academic performance is finalized, many children willThis situation occurs: the first, second and third grades are still among the best, but in the fourth and fifth grades, the results begin to be unsatisfactory. The main reason is that more than 70% of primary school top achievers have not fully adapted to their learning methods after entering fourth or fifth grade. In addition, parents do not realize that their children have entered a critical period when their academic performance is finalized. If this period is not grasped, the child\’s performance will likely plummet, and parents must pay attention! If your child’s grades in grades one to three are mediocre, don’t worry, forget about it. From the time your child enters grade four, parents must pay more attention to their child’s learning. Of course, this does not mean that you should rush or force your child, but that you should try your best to teach your child Put more energy into learning, help children overcome some difficulties, build confidence, and make children interested in learning. The reason why fourth and fifth grade is a critical period for children to set their academic performance is because children are most likely to become interested in learning at this stage. Once children fall in love with learning, they will have motivation and enthusiasm. In the future learning process, children will become more confident as they learn. Therefore, if parents want their children to be in good shape in fourth or fifth grade, they must help their children build up their confidence in learning. Don\’t always call your child \”stupid\” or \”can\’t do it\” or other negative words, even if you are polite in front of others. Not to mention that the child is not stupid, even if the child is really not smart, parents should try their best to encourage the child so that the child can get motivation to learn from positive language. In addition, don’t force your children to learn. “It’s not sweet to be forced.” What you force your children to learn will never become their own. Only when children become interested in learning and acquire knowledge consciously and proactively can knowledge be alive and effective. Teacher Xiao Gu from the must-read lecture for parents during the finalizing period of children’s habits (click at the end of the article to read the original text to enjoy more of Teacher Xiao Gu’s wonderful courses) said when sharing that children’s growth is not uniform, but there are several critical periods. , the fourth and fifth grade are not only a critical period for children’s academic success, but also a period of habit development and finalization. Children can correct their previous bad habits and develop good study habits through certain efforts. If a child has not formed good habits or developed bad habits in fourth grade, it often requires special efforts to correct them, otherwise it will follow the child for a lifetime. How can parents help their children develop good habits? First of all, parents need to have perseverance. It takes at least 21 days to develop any habit. During this period, not only the children\’s persistence is needed, but the parents also need to show enough perseverance. When faced with the countless times when the children want to give up, the parents can first be firm and unswerving. Only then can we lead our children to overcome many obstacles. In addition, by the fourth or fifth grade, children have already developed the ability to think independently, and their self-esteem is gradually increasing. At this time, parents only need to give a little hint, and there is no need to seriously speak out words to educate their children, because after all, any child can Don\’t like to be educated or controlled. While cultivating children\’s habits, parents should pay special attention to the first time. Mann, a famous American educator, said: \”Habits are like a cable. We wrap a new rope around it every day. ToBefore long, it will become unbreakable. \”Not only that, if some good habits have been formed, parents should not easily allow their children to change their habits. Once exceptions are made, the good habits that have been formed may be quickly discarded, and bad habits will be formed quickly. Don\’t be afraid if your children have bad habits, and don\’t blame them blindly. Just like developing good habits, bad habits can also be changed into good habits little by little. This requires parents and children to have enough patience and perseverance to wait for their children. After defeating bad habits, his self-confidence will be greatly enhanced. In short, the earlier a child develops good habits, the better. Especially in the fourth and fifth grades, it is the critical period to strengthen good habits and correct bad habits. We must seize the opportunity live.