What do children who will be eliminated before they grow up look like?

Have you ever met these types of people? They sigh when they encounter a slight setback and want to pour out their bitterness to the whole world; they want to praise you, but they always make you feel uncomfortable; they are narrow-minded and think that reading is a waste of time; they are blind and arrogant and always feel that One person can handle everything; their structure is too small, and every little thing will cause trouble… I think you definitely don\’t like such people. However, have you ever thought that many children have this annoying appearance before they grow up, and they may be in danger of being eliminated! 1. Psychologically fragile children. Every morning on weekdays, the Shanghai subway is extremely crowded, and office workers look like they haven\’t woken up. When we arrived at a certain station, the dead silence in the carriage was suddenly broken by a childish voice. The speaker was Little A, who had just squeezed in with her mother: \”Uncles and aunties, can you give us a seat?\” No one paid attention. After all, this is a subway from the suburbs to the city. The distance is too long, and many people have to take many stops in one ride! Seeing no one responded, Little A\’s face turned red, pouted, and stamped his feet. Standing next to the mother and daughter, I heard my mother comforting her: \”We will get off the subway after three or five stops. Just stand close to your mother. Uncles and aunts are very tired from work, so it is normal not to give up their seats.\” Unexpectedly, the mother\’s words made the child even more sad, crying and fussing: \”Uncle and aunt are bad guys! They don\’t love me.\” A dozing lady was disturbed by Little A\’s harsh voice, with an unhappy expression on her face. Gave up the seat. Comment: A child who is psychologically fragile feels that she has all kinds of pampering at home, and everyone should also love and care for her even more outside. Once people didn\’t take her feelings into consideration, she would become so angry that she felt aggrieved and wanted to cry. Today, with such fierce competition, setbacks and grievances in life and the workplace are inevitable. People with fragile psychology are unable to deal with negative emotions. They often wallow in self-pity, blame others, find it difficult to gain a foothold, and even suffer from depression. 2. Children with worrying emotional intelligence. Little B\’s classmate is in the third grade. There is a new beautiful and elegant female teacher who looks like she just graduated from college. One day, Little B met this female teacher in the corridor. He, who had excellent grades and was always bold, greeted him warmly: \”Hello, Teacher Jin! You look so young and beautiful today!\” As a result, Teacher Jin smiled awkwardly. , Little A thought he was good at complimenting others. Comments: Children with low emotional intelligence usually show symptoms such as bad temper, strong aggression, self-righteousness, weird temper, withdrawn and low self-esteem, timidity, stubbornness, etc. Daniel Gurman, a professor at Harvard University in the United States, once said: Emotional intelligence is the key to success in life. When those children with low emotional intelligence grow up, they will lack both interpersonal skills and emotional self-control, which directly affects their happiness index in life and work. 3. Children who hate reading. Little C is my neighbor’s baby and is in fifth grade. The content of the textbook and the difficult and difficult questions are necessary to cope with the exam. Little C was able to bite the bullet several times. But if she wants to urge her to read some extracurricular books, her parents have to work hard with her. No, after dinner, Little C’s mother urged again: “Minmin, hurry up and read some extracurricular books. You guysChinese teachers have reminded me many times that reading more books can enrich your mind and broaden your horizons! \”Little C replied impatiently: \”I hate reading. What\’s the use of reading extracurricular books? If you don\’t take the exam, it\’s a waste of time! \”Comment: Suhomlinsky once said: A child who does not read is a potential poor student in learning. In primary school, Little C may be able to get satisfactory results by chewing textbook knowledge many times and pondering test questions. But in the long run, when the breadth of knowledge expands beyond textbooks, children who don’t like reading will eventually be defeated due to narrow knowledge and shallow understanding. In modern society, reading is an indispensable part of human beings Ability. Children with low reading ability always misunderstand the intentions of leadership documents at work, do things in the opposite direction, greatly reduce efficiency and even cause losses to the company and themselves. 4. Children who work alone. Little D was in a research study in natural subjects He was very angry when he hit a wall. The class assignment assigned by the natural science teacher was for two people to work in pairs to complete the anatomy experiment of crucian carp, record the data of cell tissue under the microscope, etc. Little D was not satisfied with the arrangement of the natural science teacher. Waiting for the teacher When passing by him, he said to the teacher: \”Teacher, I want to make a request. I want to complete this experiment alone. \”The teacher disagreed and added that this time it was cooperative learning. Throughout the nature class, Little D was depressed because the teacher did not satisfy his desire to work alone. Comment: You must know that today in the 21st century, diversified resources and Interdisciplinary application has become the general trend, and teaming up to conquer the world is also the need of the times. Gathering sand into a tower, gathering armies into a furry. Only by having partners can you own the market. If Jack Ma went alone to conquer the world, would he have the world-famous Alibaba today? He likes to play alone No matter how ambitious a child working alone is, if he works behind closed doors for a long time without the advice of a think tank, he will eventually fall short and be eliminated by the times. 5. Children with too small structure. Little E has a very good classmate, but because of one thing Over a trivial matter, the relationship between the two of them became increasingly cold. What happened was that Xiao E liked her friend\’s pink mechanical pencil very much, so she said to her friend: \”Sisi, lend me your mechanical pencil for a week!\” \”Sisi was very embarrassed. It was a birthday gift from her grandma. Little E thought that her friend would happily agree, but she didn\’t know that her friend was a stingy man and was not sincere to her. Little E automatically started to express all kinds of dislikes to her friends. Mode, when her friends talk to her, she ignores them; when her friends ask her to play, she refuses, and even encourages other friends not to talk to Sisi. Comments: Little E’s pattern in the story is too small, and she stands in her own position Think about the problem, regardless of whether the other person has difficulties, and be grudged against your friend without borrowing things. Pattern seems to be a general concept, but it is precisely reflected in the subtleties of life. For example, do not force others, respect others\’ rejections and unspoken secrets, There is also a pattern. In the process of growing up, children with too small patterns will accumulate resentment and hostility along the way. They will be wary and set limits for themselves. They will be repeatedly frustrated and become more entangled. If you want your children to be successful when they grow up, these things What you have to do: 1. Build a strong heart in your children. First, tell your children that not everyone loves you.obligations and responsibilities to help you. If someone is willing to help you, you should reciprocate; if no one is willing to lend a hand, you have to rely on yourself to create your own excitement. Secondly, when children suffer setbacks and feel depressed, parents should be their children\’s strong backing and give them warm psychological support. Thirdly, guide children to learn to look at problems from another perspective, think about everything in a positive way, believe that there is a solution to everything, and strengthen children\’s belief in overcoming difficulties. In the end, victory or defeat is a matter of military strategist. It is impossible for a person to be first in everything in his life. Those who win, can afford to lose, and fight after repeated defeats until they succeed are the true heroes in life. 2. Cultivate high emotional intelligence in dealing with people. First of all, parents should help their children identify their own emotional state, whether they are happy, aggrieved, anxious, etc., and teach them how to debug different emotions in order to benefit their body and mind. Secondly, encourage children more, help them correctly understand themselves and build self-confidence. Parents should be objective in their evaluation of their children, consider the situation as it is, and be methodological so as not to harm their children\’s face. People with high emotional intelligence usually live with confidence. Thirdly, let children have empathy and learn the ability to think from others’ perspective. People with high emotional intelligence have high quality interpersonal interactions because they are willing to share, take responsibility, help others, and praise others. 3. Let children turn reading into a pleasure. First of all, parents should practice it, be a person who loves and enjoys reading, create a good and quiet reading atmosphere, and turn reading into a daily necessity such as three meals a day. Secondly, parents should set a fixed time period for reading and insist on using books as part of holiday gifts such as birthdays and Christmas. Thirdly, teach children some practical reading skills, such as drawing mind maps from memory and notes, or using pens of different colors to mark important and difficult content. 4. Cultivate children’s awareness of teamwork. First, parents should take the lead in demonstrating the level of teamwork in family life. In daily life, the husband and wife should work together, such as the distribution of housework, etc., and a clear division of labor should be carried out in the presence of the children. Secondly, tell your children that everyone is not perfect and is trying to be a better version of themselves. Everyone has their own shining points, guide children to pay attention to the advantages of the friends around them. Again, teach children the importance of teamwork. Share more examples of teamwork with your children, such as ants moving in the animal world; occupational classifications in human life, etc. 5. Let the child\’s pattern gradually become bigger. First of all, parents should be big-minded people, smart and wise, consider the big picture in everything, pay attention to methods, be polite and magnanimous in dealing with others. Secondly, let the child become an educated person, well-educated and reasonable, and have the opportunity to take the child to travel more or participate in some social welfare activities. Again, let the children share as much as possible in class affairs. As long as they work hard for the honor of the class, parents should encourage and praise their children more. I hope my son will become a dragon and I hope my daughter will become a phoenix. This is the spiritual motivation that our Chinese parents are willing to work for a lifetime. In this case, as parents, we should be smart parents, not only taking good care of our children\’s daily lifeYou should also work hard for the growth of your children’s soft power!