What happens to children who have been yelled at by their parents for a long time?

Children who have been yelled at by their parents for a long time not only have weak resistance to frustration and pressure, but also affect the children\’s mental health. Therefore, parents who truly love their children start by managing their own emotions. Yesterday I took my child to get medicine. The doctor asked a little girl how old you were. The little girl lowered her head and said nothing, looking very timid. The mother felt a little embarrassed when the child remained silent, so she directly said that the child has been like this since he was a child, very introverted and timid. Then they took the medicine and went out, and heard their mother\’s roar again, which meant that if someone asks you something, why don\’t you speak, you are dumb. After listening to this, I felt really helpless. If you don’t want to say it, don’t say it. Just guide him slowly. As for going out, I have to yell at the child again. However, looking back at the mother\’s emotional reaction, we can also understand the reasons why the child is timid and withdrawn. Many times it should be related to the mother\’s roaring at the child and the guidance of the child in daily life. Children who have been yelled at for a long time are fearful and insecure inside. Fan Deng Reading Club\’s Five Compulsory Courses in Family Education for New Parents [Video + Audio] For example, if the doctor asks how old the child is, even if the child does not say it because he is shy, he cannot yell at the child directly, let alone say it directly in front of outsiders. Child, she has always been introverted and timid. The former will make children fearful and insecure, while the latter will make children unconsciously label themselves from their parents\’ words and deeds. I\’m just a timid person at heart, and I just don\’t talk to others. On the contrary, if you change the way, say that the child is a little slow to warm up, say it when he is familiar with it, and give the child opportunities to try in daily life without yelling. When a child makes progress and breakthroughs, affirm and encourage the child, and the child will slowly take the initiative to speak and become cheerful. As parents, in the process of raising children, the responsibility of parents is to guide their children so that they can discover their own progress and growth in ordinary life, find a sense of accomplishment, and become an excellent person. Next, let me share with you, what are the 10 characteristics of children who have been yelled at for a long time? 1. Delayed brain development, affecting intelligence. Research from the American Academy of Pediatrics shows that if parents often yell at their children, their children\’s stress hormone levels will increase, which will lead to changes in brain structure, thereby affecting their children\’s memory, intelligence, language and… Development of learning. 2. Afraid of challenging new things. Children have lived in an emotionally unstable environment since childhood, feeling extremely fearful and insecure. Always afraid of being hurt, so afraid to challenge new things. 3. Children with low self-esteem have been in a yelling environment for a long time and are always surrounded by negative energy. They are unable to release positive energy. Then they will become depressed, self-doubt, close themselves off, unwilling to express themselves, and unwilling to believe in themselves. Because they will think that it is themselves who are not good, which leads to a bad family atmosphere and causes their parents to roar. Sometimes parents yell and unintentionally tell their children that they can\’t do this or that, and the children further internalize that they can\’t do it. Therefore, when I grow up, I always feel that I am not as good as others and that I do not deserve better psychological cues. 4. Inferior self-esteem, timidity, and cowardice. If parents yell at their children or ask their children to be bold, optimistic, and cheerful, the result will be more timidity. A child who has been yelled at by his parents for a long time has very low psychological energy and is extremely depressed.The land lacks security. Because in a yelling environment, his heart is full of fear and fear, he longs to be loved and recognized by his parents. In order to gain love and recognition, they are unwilling to show their true emotions. He is afraid of being rejected and denied. 5. The people-pleaser personality who has been yelled at by their parents for a long time develops the habit of catering to others. They dare not reveal their true thoughts and are afraid of being denied. Therefore, they hide their true thoughts and feelings and try to please others. 6. Arrogant children who have been yelled at by their parents since childhood are influenced by their parents. What I say is right, and you must listen to me. Then when you grow up, you don\’t listen to other people\’s opinions and treat others the same way your parents treated you since childhood. Over time, you develop an arrogant character. 7. Rebellion: I have been yelled at by my parents for a long time, and my heart is extremely unbalanced. When I was young, I didn\’t dare to resist because of my young age. When I grew up, I immediately showed it and started to be rebellious and disobedient. 8. Children who are indifferent and have been yelled at by their parents for a long time because they have never received love and kindness from their parents since childhood. Essential Family Education: How to Encourage Children\’s Progress and Self-Confidence, 70 episodes in total. Therefore, he does not know what love is, let alone how to treat others well, and will only treat others with an indifferent heart. Professor Li Meijin once said: How do you ask a person who has not been treated kindly since childhood to treat others with kindness? Meeting him will only be the beginning of misfortune. 9. I have been yelled at for a long time because I have witnessed my parents’ irritability and impulsiveness. When I grow up, I will be like my parents, who respond to violence with violence, yelling to get rid of yelling, and become even more impulsive and irritable when things happen. 10. Children who are timid in doing things and who have been yelled at for a long time are not confident in their hearts, because they often do things based on their parents’ expressions. Therefore, I am always afraid of being criticized and blamed for doing something wrong. Therefore, affected by inertial thinking, the first thing that comes to mind is whether the other person will be angry, and then he will become timid in doing things. Written at the end: A good family atmosphere is an indispensable healthy soil for children to grow up. Only when the soil is fertile and healthy can children thrive. So, from now on, let’s work together to be emotionally stable parents!