What have those severely neglected children experienced?

On November 2, in a school in Pucheng County, Weinan City, a high school sophomore girl gave birth to a full-term baby in a small alleyway on campus. The reporter asked the school, did the teacher not find out that the girl was pregnant? The vice principal of the school responded: This student is short and fat. You can’t tell even if you look at him. I am not an obstetrician and gynecologist. I can tell which student is pregnant at a glance. There are more than 1,700 students in the school, and it is impossible for the teachers to take care of them all. Moreover, the girl in question usually has excellent grades and is very obedient. Although she lives on campus five days a week, the teachers never thought that this kind of thing would happen to her. On the body. This girl was dating a young man from society. Our head teacher found out and notified the parents of the student, but it still did not attract the attention of the parents. \”The summary is as follows: 1. Short and fat, pregnancy is not easy to be discovered. 2. There are too many students in the school, and the teacher cannot take care of them. 3. The student has excellent grades and is very obedient, which the teacher would not expect. 4. The student interacts with young people in society, and the notice I have met the parents of the students, but they have not attracted their attention. Summary: This is a child who has been seriously neglected. My mother’s neighbor Xiaoqing is 22 years old this year and is already the mother of two children. She just held a wedding last year. She received her marriage certificate. She was also sixteen when she gave birth to her first child. Later she became pregnant twice more, both of which were aborted because the girl was a girl. She gave birth to a boy at the age of twenty. In my impression, every time she went home, she brought She is the one who plays with my daughter, and her mother-in-law plays with my son. I was chatting with her once. Me: Who did you live with when you were a child? She: Myself (starting to laugh). My dad works in a factory, 365 days a year. , open all year round, leaving early and coming home late. My mother is also busy every day and never cares about me. Me: Very free (with an envious face). She: Sister, I studied very well in elementary school. In junior high school, I and Dongdong ( Her husband, my neighbor (who is one year older than her), didn’t want to study after they fell in love. Then… when she got pregnant, she stopped going to school. Me: Then you are pregnant, what is the attitude of your parents? Her: My mother is also pregnant. .My mother and my father divorced and later got married. They didn’t care about me, so I lived with Dongdong. Me:…Every time I go home, I watch her bathing and feeding the baby, and she asks me some questions. Regarding issues such as which medicine a child should take for fever, whether an infusion is needed for diarrhea, etc., I always think about: What kind of mother will a child who has not received care and attention since she was a child become? And she is just a big child. The desire to be valued and noticed is the most primitive need of human beings. The crying of babies, the clamoring of young children, the mischief of children, the teenagers who compose new words and talk about their sorrows, the desire of adults to get ahead, and the complaints of loneliness in the elderly are all deeply hidden. The emotional need to be valued and cared for. No one is an island. No one does not need to be valued and cared for. However, there are always some people whose needs lie quietly where others cannot see them. The sun cannot shine, but the world can see Missing. There is only cold reality and loneliness. In the recently released movie \”Carnival\”, Xiaowen\’s parents are divorced and she lives with her mother. Her mother is addicted to the bizarre world and pays little attention to her. Even if her daughter does not come home at night, she I don’t know either. Xiaowen was sexually assaulted, and her motherThe mother did not show any comfort or care to her, but attributed the responsibility to the shabby clothes she wore. She tore off Xiaowen\’s dress, cut off Xiaowen\’s long hair, and sprinkled a handful of salt on her wounded heart. Xiaowen would rather sleep on the street or live in his father\’s dormitory than go home. Existence was once ignored, but now feelings are ignored. In turn, Xiaowen can only bear the consequences of his own neglect and heal himself. There was once a couple who worked together and worked far away from home, leaving their two children to live with their grandparents in their hometown. One summer vacation, two children came to Suzhou to play. My son will go back within two days. A colleague laughed and said that his son had a girlfriend and he didn’t want to be here anymore. I was very surprised at the time and asked him, isn\’t he only 14 years old and in the second grade of junior high school? He said, yes, I told him to study hard and not fall in love, but he didn\’t listen and said that he would go out to work after finishing his third year of junior high school. For his daughter, who was in third grade, he was relieved and said that his son was too old to be taken care of anymore. My daughter is very well-behaved and good at studying. I just don’t know who to ask when I encounter a problem while doing my homework. Every time I come here during vacation, I refuse to go back. I said, take her with you to school. He said we would talk about it in a few years. I really want to ask, in what year will it be? My daughter is nine years old. After all, nothing was said. If you say that some parents don’t care about their children and don’t value them, they will definitely cry: “Isn’t it just for the sake of my children that I work so hard? Why should I care and pay attention to them?” These parents work from dawn to dusk, live frugally, and do everything for their children. , gave everything to the child. But what about the result? Some children achieve nothing, and some have terrible relationships with their parents. Parents scream at their children: \”I have paid so much for you and this family. Look at you, how…!\” And what about the children? It is difficult to say anything, and there is a big stone in my heart. The prospects can be imagined. Moderate pressure encourages people to make progress, while huge pressure will only crush people. What does the child want? Mom and Dad, please give me a hug. Mom and Dad, please look at me. Mom and Dad, I feel very sad. Mom and Dad, I have something to tell you. Mom and Dad, I feel confused. What do parents want? You have to study hard and be obedient. You have to be considerate and sensible. You have to get into a good university and live up to expectations. With such separate camps, can the children feel cared for and valued? I think it\’s difficult. What will happen if a child doesn\’t feel the warmth and love in the family? It will reduce your sense of self-worth and identity, and you will seek love and belonging elsewhere. Where are the other places? It might be an online game, it might be a friend of the opposite sex, it might be a classmate or teacher, or it might be someone that your parents don\’t want to accept. It should be every child\’s dream to get love and belonging from their parents.