What impact do poor parents have on their children?

In the evening, I went to the nearby fruit shop to buy watermelon. At this time, it is the busiest and most lively time in the fruit shop. People were coming and going in an airtight atmosphere, and everyone was busy picking and choosing. At the door of the store, I found my elementary school classmate Yun, whom I hadn\’t seen for a long time. She picked up a lychee and handed it to the child who was about six or seven years old next to her. Try it again…. At the same time, her mouth was not idle. After tasting the lychees, the mangosteens, and then the grapes… The child had already eaten it, and he took out a box of blueberries from the refrigerator and started eating. The white T-shirt on his body was stained with the pink of lychees, the blue of blueberries, and the purple of mangosteen… I looked at Yun, the coach\’s bag was slung on her shoulder, and the diamond ring on her hand was soaked in the juice of the fruit and lost its luster. A sentence suddenly flashed through my mind: I am a mirror, my face can reflect how loyal I am to my parents, how similar I am to them both in appearance and in my heart. In fact, her husband is a manager of a listed company with an annual income of hundreds of thousands. It\’s not that she can\’t afford it, but she just wants to take advantage of it. Relying on the fruit shop\’s rule of allowing customers to taste first before buying, she can eat more. This reminds me of a saying: You would be a fool not to take advantage of something. But let’s take advantage of it with the kids, okay? On May Day, I took Xiaoyuer to play in the Forest Park. When I was queuing up to buy tickets, the young woman in front of me caught my attention. She was wearing the latest model of Adidas worth more than a thousand yuan. She was saying to her child: You secretly bend your knees and shrink your neck, and mom won’t have to buy them for you. Voted. The child said: Mom, I am already 125, how can I bend? I don’t want to evade the fare, and our family is not short of this little money. The woman slapped the child on the back: \”It\’s not bad money, but I can save some money.\” Be obedient and I will take you to eat Haagen-Dazs when I get home tonight. The child was speechless after hearing this. I thought to myself: A portion of Haagen-Dazs can almost buy two tickets. What kind of account is this mother calculating? Many times, poverty is a state of mind, and it has little to do with how much money you have in your pocket. Taking advantage becomes a habitual thought. The price of tickets is not comparable to Haagen-Dazs, so why don’t you want to spend money on tickets? Because you can save money on tickets by playing tricks, but Haagen-Dazs can\’t play tricks and can\’t save money. It’s still the same mentality: save what you can, and take advantage if there’s an advantage. However, if in front of a child, he sees an adult not obeying the rules because he takes advantage, then what kind of person will he be when he grows up? Everyone will unconsciously repeat the behavior of their parents when they reach adulthood. Because the power of example is infinite. Parents are the first and most trusted role models for their children. In supermarkets, people often compare several leaflets: eggs are cheap in this supermarket, buy eggs here; cabbage is cheap in that supermarket, go to buy cabbage in that supermarket… One day, in the dairy section of the supermarket, a four-year-old boy looked at a box of large fruit yogurt and asked: Auntie, help me see if this yogurt is on sale. I took a look: \”There\’s no discount, what\’s wrong?\” He walked away disappointed: \”Oh, why isn\’t there a discount? I wanted to drink yogurt, so I had to ask my mother to go to another supermarket to check it out.\” From a distance A voice came: Good son, you really know how to live.Day, mom will take you to see it later. Everyone wants to buy something of high quality and low price, and everyone will inevitably compare similar items with each other. However, let your children develop the habit of counting every penny and calculating everything from an early age, okay? When children grow up, what kind of mentality will they use to face the world? A netizen on Zhihu said: I have to admit that taking advantage is a very elaborate thing. When I see band-aids at different prices, I have to figure out how to spend the most money. When others treat me, I feel like I’m making money. I keep dialing the calculations in my heart until I find the balance point of profit, and I feel comfortable and don’t go. Think about this. On the surface, it seems to be taking advantage, but it is spending the most precious time and effort. In fact, taking advantage is the most uneconomical thing to do. You take advantage of visible things, but what you lose is invisible time and effort, as well as the most noble personality and dignity. Few people are born with a golden key in their mouths. We can let our children know how difficult life is, but there is no need to let them be as calculating and careless as adults. Because when they grow up, such a personality will inevitably bring unnecessary difficulties and even misfortune to them in life and work. Just after the Spring Festival this year, on the second day of the Lunar New Year, the tourist who fell into the tiger\’s den at Ningbo Zoo lost his life in order to save a ticket. The cause of the incident was just because he did not follow the rules and escaped from the ticket, occupying a small area. Just cheap. On the second day of the Lantern Festival, at Wuhan Railway Station, the owner of the noodle shop suddenly suffered a tragedy. The cause of the incident was just to earn an extra yuan from a bowl of noodles. The ancients said: Those who are greedy for small gains will suffer great harm. Perhaps we are accustomed to saving money, accustomed to analog consumption, accustomed to walking on the edge of the rules, and accustomed to the slight convenience brought by not following the rules. Perhaps among our elders and generations above, they have this kind of consumption mindset. But they were in an era when materials were scarce, resources were distributed, and things were possible but not available. But today, we have a rich way of living when we are rich in material, and we also have a poor way of living when we are poor. As the saying goes: A poor person has a poor ambition. What I fear most is being poor. In fact, poverty is a state of mind and has little to do with how much money you have in your pocket. Just like Emperor Chongzhen of the Ming Dynasty, he lost thousands of miles of land in order to save 1 million. This was a simple account, but Emperor Chongzhen, who was smart and studious since childhood, did not make it clear until his death, even if he had no food during his reign. Even though he wears clothes, he cannot avoid carrying the shame of being a man who subjugated his country. Being poor at heart has a profound impact on a person\’s ideological vision and structure. The reason why a person is poor is inseparable from his childhood. Parents are very willing to spend money and take advantage of everything. When their children grow up and want to cross this boundary, they have to pay a certain price. And this price was given to him by the world, because his love took advantage and caused people around him to be disdainful of him. He only woke up after he hit a wall and suffered a loss. There are also people who remain unable to gain enlightenment throughout their lives, and end up imprisoned in their own inner poverty, unable to enjoy the happiness of life throughout their lives. Because I feel that I am poor and cannot have happiness like others. Therefore, the words and deeds of parents will be truly reflected in the child\’s heart, leaving a mark on his heart, thus also influencing his thinking. What needs to be remembered is: how you treat the world, yourHow children also treat the world. A friend said: When I was a child, my mother was a person who cared about everything and loved to take advantage of me. At that time, when I was with my mother, I felt very ashamed. I always hoped that when I grow up, I would not be like her. But I sadly found that now that I have grown up, I cannot help but be influenced by her. When I go out with my classmates, I can\’t help but find the money to eat ready-made food; when I go to public places, I can\’t help but reach out and put the tissues in my bag and bring them back; when I go to the supermarket, I can\’t help but eat when I see free samples. One bite after another… I finally became like my mother, a person who loves to take advantage and care about everything… Everyone will repeat the behavior of their parents intentionally or unintentionally when they grow up. Soong Ching Ling said: Children\’s character and talents are, in the final analysis, most deeply influenced by their families, parents, especially their mothers. When children grow up, society becomes an environment for training them. Schools also play an important role in the development of young people. But it is family that leaves an indelible mark on a person. Many parents blame their children\’s bad habits on the school, on the teachers, on the children, but not on themselves. In fact, most of the habits in children – whether they are good habits or bad habits – are cultivated by us parents intentionally or unintentionally. Education is not necessarily a deliberate thing. Sometimes, teaching by words and deeds, and being the kind of person you want your children to be first, is the best education. What kind of life pattern and quality they hope their children will have, parents must reach the corresponding height and improve it through subtle influence. British philosopher Locke said: \”Everyone comes into this world like a blank sheet of paper. Then, the environment in which he lives begins to color him. What his environment is like, what he will become. People.\” Parents who are rich but poor at heart always want to take advantage, which will invisibly raise a child with a poor heart, because this is the real teaching by words and deeds.