What is a child’s greatest wealth in life?

In 2016, the 105-year-old literary giant Yang Jiang passed away, leaving the world with endless sorrow. It stems not only from admiration for her extremely high literary attainments, but also from admiration for her detached demeanor in life. We have been recalling this century old man. In fact, what is more worthy of our pursuit is the reason behind the achievement of such a generation of people. Yang Jiang gave the answer in \”Remembering My Father\”: \”Being in such a harmonious, free, democratic and enlightened family is my greatest luck.\” My father\’s big picture and my mother\’s good mood are the biggest factors in a family. Blessing. 01 The pattern of the father determines the height of the child. There is a saying that goes well, the father\’s vision is the child\’s world, which determines the final boundary. From babbling to entering the workplace, at the very beginning of life and the most critical period for the formation of values, our young and ignorant understanding of reality is often a blank slate. Therefore, we almost all relied on our family to make decisions in this process, especially my father. As a mountain of a family, he was the initial leader. Yang Jiang\’s father, Yang Yinhang, was open-minded and strict, and always put his children\’s education first. In elementary school, he chose Shanghai Qiming School for Yang Jiang. You must know that their home was in Suzhou at that time, which was a long way away, and Yang Jiang was only 8 and a half years old. Although he was reluctant to give up, he finally reluctantly finalized it. The full 20-episode documentary \”Second Life\” is free to watch in full version in ultra-high definition 2160P. Yang Jiang said in her memories: \”My father thinks Qiming has good teaching and strict discipline, and can lay a solid foundation for students in Chinese and foreign languages.\” As a young child, Yang Jiang began studying far away from home. She often missed home and cried. However, it has to be said that his father\’s foresight laid a solid cultural foundation for Yang Jiang. Her father had very strict academic requirements for Yang Jiang, but he was not authoritarian, and he especially respected his child\’s nature. What Yang Jiang will never forget is when the university was divided into majors and she was confused between the teacher\’s strong suggestion to choose science and her favorite liberal arts. Her father woke her up with a sentence: \”Learn whatever you like the most! What you like is the sexual closeness, which is the most suitable for you.\” In this way, Yang Jiang officially embarked on the road of literature. Another particularly admirable quality of Yang Jiang\’s father is material simplicity. He always said that excessive pursuit of material things will only reduce oneself to a slave of material things. Yang Jiang, who has been influenced by his ears and eyes, is also famous for his simplicity. Even though she has become famous in the literary world, her home is still extremely simple and without any decoration. Not only that, even her clothes have been worn for many years. Famous editor Wang Rui said: Once he noticed that Yang Jiang\’s shoes were very unique, and when he asked about them, he found out that they were leftovers from Qian Yuan\’s shoes. At that moment, he almost cried. An old man who can donate his huge royalties to Tsinghua University and set up a good reading fund, but he is so simple to himself. It is precisely because of his indifference to things outside his body that Yang Jiang has always been able to concentrate on writing and has repeatedly reached literary peaks. It can be seen that without the guidance of his father, Yang Jiang would not be the pearl of the literary world. Psychologist Spencer said: \”The father is the child\’s guide to the outside world.\” If the father is of noble character, the child\’s natural quality will be pure; if the father is far-sighted, the child will have a bright future. The pattern of the father determines the height that the child can reach. 02 Mother’s loveMood determines the child\’s temperament. Fathers lead their children to conquer the world, while mothers teach their children how to get along with the world. Yang Jiang\’s mother, Tang Xuluan, was a virtuous, quiet and intellectual woman who treated people with a pleasant manner and never spoke harshly. In Yang Jiang\’s memory, the family had a large population, and her mother was busy every day and had no time for leisure. However, she never complained or complained, and took care of the house in an orderly manner by herself. She never cares about her aunts who are selfish, arrogant and love to take advantage of her. She always gives them the first chance to eat good things when she encounters them. Especially, when my father was ill and even the doctors were helpless, my mother never left him and just pulled my father back from the hell. All of this was seen by Yang Jiang, remembered in her heart, and integrated into her character, and she became tolerant of her lover and tolerant of others. To her husband, who has poor ability to take care of himself and always does wrong things, she always whispers \”It doesn\’t matter\” and never blames him. When life was most difficult, she willingly worked as a \”maid under the stove\” and took care of Qian Zhongshu and his family without complaining. Regarding her colleague Ji Yuanzhang who had hurt her, she understood his last resort and never cared about it. Especially when it was learned that his family was poor, his parents were sick and bedridden, and his wife was weak, making it difficult for the family to survive. Yang Jiang ignored the past grudges and sent part of his meager salary to the other party to help him tide over the difficulties, which moved the other party and made him feel ashamed. Yang Jiang\’s quality shines in the literary world just like her academics, all of which are due to her mother. Her mother\’s tenderness is like sowing a seed of generosity in her heart. No matter what happens, she will respond calmly, without getting anxious or complaining, and she will be open-minded and relieved. Dong Qing said: \”Mother is the soul of a family. She carries the whole family with her broad mind and warms every member with love and companionship.\” As long as the mother is here, no matter how difficult the life is, all the days can be cured. A mother\’s tenderness is like water, which is the warmest strength for a child to fight against the world. 03Parental harmony is the best family tradition. There is a saying in \”Yan\’s Family Instructions\”: \”The husband\’s moral education is carried out from the top to the bottom, and it is applied from the first to the latter.\” This means that the best education is carried out from the top to the bottom and from the first. Those who influence backward should educate others first and educate themselves first. If parents do well, their children will naturally do well as well. Yang Jiang said in \”Remembering My Father\”: My parents are like old friends. We have never heard them quarrel once since we were young. They often talk about everything, old things, family matters, important work matters…the two of them have a long conversation in their lives, and they never get tired of it. What she likes most is that after finishing her homework, she snuggles next to her parents and the family reads in silence. Although it is silent, she is extremely happy. Those days surrounded by the fragrance of books and love are the most touching time in her life. It was inexplicably warm and enviable after reading it. I think this is the best way for husband and wife to get along in marriage, and this is also the way she gets along with her husband Qian Zhongshu. The two help each other in life, stand side by side in work, never leave each other when times are difficult, share with each other when they are happy, and study at home when they have nothing to do. Fang Zhou once said in \”Qian Zhongshu I Know\”: They go to work and get off work together, always side by side and holding hands, which makes many young people in the instituteAll very envious. What is even more amazing is that their model of love and love for reading was passed on to their daughter Qian Yuan. The greatest wealth of a family is not the wealth, but the lasting legacy of the family. Love between husband and wife is the best education for children. Family harmony is the best feng shui for a home. There is a saying in \”The Collection of Confucius·Yi Zhe\”: \”The prosperity of humanity must come from husband and wife.\” If a father has a broad vision, his children will have a broad world. CCTV recommends over 500 high-scoring documentaries. If your child watches it, he will become addicted to self-discipline. If the mother has a gentle temperament, the child will be warm and powerful inside. The future of children and the prosperity of a family are hidden in the father\’s overall situation and the mother\’s good mood.