What is worth learning in this world is how to be a wise parent?

This year\’s popular TV series \”In the World\” allows us to see the joys and sorrows of several generations of a family under the vicissitudes of the times. Although the three children of the Zhou family have different destinies, they are all kind, filial and upright, and have found their own happiness in life. Through the plot, we can see the important influence of parents\’ personality charm and wisdom on the growth of children. In addition to teaching by words and deeds, the Zhou parents are able to \”let go of themselves\” many times and truly consider the happiness and needs of their children. This is a point in the TV series that impressed me very deeply, and it is also something that parents can learn from. Download the complete collection of poems by Li Qingzhao, the Proud Fisherman, in pdf [Collector\’s Edition] Put down your own face and resist the harm of secular prejudice to your children. As parents, you definitely want your children to get ahead. This is human nature. But every child has his or her own personality and suitable life path. Not every child can become a pillar like the eldest and second child of the Zhou family. If a child has mediocre qualifications and eventually becomes a kind and down-to-earth ordinary person like Lao Sanzhou Bingkun, instead of becoming a social elite, can you still accept him, love him or even be proud of him? In today\’s era of prevailing utilitarian values, this question is indeed a soul-searching torture for many parents. Influenced by traditional culture, Chinese parents often attach great importance to the sense of glory that their children\’s achievements bring to them. As the saying goes, it can also be called \”having face\”, but they must also be wary of blind comparison and vanity brought about by this concept of face. From the Zhou family\’s parents\’ attitude towards the marriage of their elder Zhou Zhou Bingkun, we can see that they are reasonable. Although they also had strong traditional concepts and initially did not agree with Bingkun\’s marriage to Zheng Juan, who already had a child, they finally put aside their secular prejudices and so-called face and accepted Bingkun\’s decision. This required comparison at that time. More courage today. There is another detail that also reflects Zhou\’s father\’s deep love and protection for his children. When he heard the neighbor gossiping about the third child\’s marriage, Zhou\’s father did not go home and blame his son for embarrassing himself. Instead, he talked to the neighbor in person. Theory to prevent outsiders from harming Laosan’s family. The attitude of Zhou\’s parents has also greatly contributed to the happiness of their youngest son\’s family and life. Put aside your own preferences and see the good in each child. Accepting the uniqueness of each child, seeing the shining points in the child and providing encouragement and recognition are crucial to the healthy growth of the child. In families with many children, it is especially important for parents to do this. In families with many children, if parents cannot treat their children equally or fairly, but favor one over others because of their own preferences, it will inevitably cause psychological harm to the children. This is a destructive and unhealthy parenting style, both for the favored or neglected child and for the relationship between siblings. In the plot of \”The World\”, the parents of the Zhou family can see the advantages in each child. They are proud of their eldest son and second daughter, and they also affirm the younger son\’s honesty, filial piety and contribution to the family. Although the youngest son Zhou Bingkun once felt resentful because of his father\’s outspokenness, when he expressed his grievances, Zhou\’s father still expressed his approval: \”You are the third child in my family.\”I am most satisfied with it. \”The father and son also settled their differences. A passage made by Zhou\’s father before his death reflected his parenting wisdom. He said that when the children were young, he would say \”You are the best child\” when he was alone with each child. \”Let every child feel that he has received the love and recognition of his father. This is something that parents in multi-child families should learn from. Let go of your desire to control and respect your children\’s choices. Many conflicts between parents and children come from Parents’ desire to control their children. Some parents do not treat their children as independent individuals. They always want their children to obey them in everything. They try every means or even use coercion and inducement to achieve the purpose of controlling their children. As a result, either the children will become They become \”giant babies\” who never grow up without their own opinions, or they rebel against their parents, leading to alienation or even breakdown of the parent-child relationship. It is a normal psychology for parents to worry about their children making incorrect choices because of their love for them. Wise parents will sometimes feel uneasy about their children, but they will not insist on having their own way. Instead, they will often find a balance between respecting their children\’s wishes and helping them make the best choice after understanding the situation calmly and objectively. .For example, although Father Zhou in the play was very worried that his daughter would go to Guizhou to go to the countryside privately to pursue his love, he did not become angry because of it. Instead, he went to Guizhou to visit his daughter in person. After learning about his daughter’s true thoughts and situation, he I chose to respect my daughter\’s wishes and did not insist on changing her marriage and life path. How to let go of my desire for control and insecurity, and give my children more blessings and space instead of using too much anxiety and worry. Restraining children is a lesson that many parents need to practice. Let go of your own emotions and sympathize with your children\’s difficulties. This is especially important for today\’s parents who are prone to educational anxiety. In reality, parents often lose control of their emotions and become violent when tutoring their children with homework. Scenario. How can you effectively control your emotions at such a moment? I think it is important for parents to think from their perspective. If you put it from the perspective of a child, it may not be an attitude problem, but it may be due to individual differences or the brain. Objective factors such as incomplete development lead to learning disabilities. After seeing the limitations and difficulties of their children, parents may be more aware and will not frequently say \”I can\’t even solve such a simple question!\” \”I\’ve taught it so many times and still haven\’t learned it yet!\” \”Roaring like this. In the plot of \”The World\”, although it reflects more on the interaction between the Zhou family\’s parents and their adult children, it is not difficult to see the attitude of the Zhou family\’s parents towards their children. The relationship between them and their children is not difficult to see. There will also be conflicts between children, but most of the time they can control their emotions and try to understand the situation and difficulties of their children. There is a scene in the play where the eldest son Zhou Bingyi confessed to his father that he was infertile due to injury (actually he was hiding the fact that his wife was infertile). fact), although the traditional Zhou father was so sad that he shed tears after learning the news, he restrained his disappointment and quickly comforted and enlightened his son. Because Zhou\’s father could put aside himself and think about it, he and his son The father-son relationship between sons also has a new sublimation in such mutual understanding interactions. From the TV series \”The World\”In the finale, we discovered 6 truths that parents need to see through. It is human nature for parents to love their children. However, if parents can \”let go of themselves\” and truly consider their children\’s needs, sympathize with their children\’s difficulties, and respect their children\’s choices, it will be more evident. Show the selflessness of parental love and the brilliance of humanity.