What kind of child can live a happy and worry-free life? Parents must read it

Probably because there are few people to take care of him, my second child Xiaonuo is very good at entertaining himself. She often rummaged through boxes and cabinets to find things at home, and she could happily play with whatever she found for a long time. A few nights ago, she went through my closet and found a square cardboard box in the box where I put my socks. She brought it over and asked me what it was. When I saw it, it turned out to be a pair of short stockings that had not been opened, so she told me She is a sock. In Xiao Nuo\’s impression, socks always have colors or patterns. She has probably never seen such transparent and thin socks. She was very curious and asked me if she could take them apart and have a look. I said yes, and she boldly tore the paper shells apart like dog bites, took out two socks, touched them, and said they were slippery. The more she touched them, the more she liked them, so she asked me if she could give them to me. She and I agreed. So, throughout the night, Xiao Nuo played with that pair of stockings. She put her two little hands into the socks to feel the \”silky smoothness\”. Then she clapped, rubbed and held each other\’s hands, touched her face, the walls and clothes, and touched many things, making herself giggle. . I was busy in the kitchen, while she touched the quilt in the bedroom, touched the refrigerator in the kitchen, and touched her mother\’s hand. She also asked me to scratch her palm through her stockings, and kept reporting to me her feelings and how things felt. Everything is different, and the feeling of scratching the palms of my hands is also different. It’s so interesting. After playing with the touch, Xiao Nuo began to \”look\” at the stockings. She looked at various items through the stockings, and the hazy look made her very happy. She always calls me: \”Mom, come quickly, the lights in our house have turned into this color, how strange it is!\” Then she looks at my mother through the stockings, her beautiful red skirt, and her hands in the stockings. Sometimes I marvel, sometimes I laugh! Later, she suddenly had the idea to put both hands into the same stocking, but it was not easy to do because the opening of the stockings was relatively small, and when she put her other hand in, the stockings always came off. After coming down, she ran to me and asked for help to carry the top of the stockings. Finally both hands went in. I thought the way her hands were \”tied\” together was very funny, but she was so excited that she rubbed her hands together slightly and raised them in front of her chest to imitate worshiping Buddha. , said \”Amitabha\” and asked me if I looked like Sun Wukong\’s master. I walked around the house doing housework, while Xiaonuo walked around and played with stockings. Seeing her so happy made me laugh. After I finished all the housework, I remembered that I hadn’t heard Xiaonuo’s voice for a while. I couldn’t help but go into the bedroom to take a look and found that she was loading things into her stockings: her car, building blocks, and snowflakes. , coins, erasers, hairpins… After installing them, she took the stockings and rotated them. After spinning them into a twist, they stopped in the air and let the stockings slowly rotate in the opposite direction to untie them. Seeing how attentive she was in playing, I was so happy that I quietly exited the room and sat down to take a breath. That night, Xiaonuo talked about her socks before going to bed, and said sincerely: \”Mom, thank you for giving me such a good thing, I love you!\” A pair of stockings can make a child happy all night , this spirit of self-entertainment is very commendable. Xiaonuo\’s spirit of self-entertainment can be reflected anytime and anywhere in life. CompareFor example, last night, after she went to the toilet, she had a sudden idea, took off the roll paper, ran around the house with one end, circled the coffee table, and went from one room to another… I heard her haha There was laughter and the sound of running. When I ran out of the kitchen, I saw white rolls of paper all over the floor. I almost fainted. Xiaonuo said to me: \”Mom, look, it\’s beautiful!\” and then continued running. I stopped her, put away the few remaining rolls of paper, and generously gave them to her those already spread on the ground. Xiaonuo jumped up and cheered: \”Long live Mom!\” I had to say: \”Don\’t waste paper like this in the future.\” All night long, she kept company with the long paper on the ground: first it took a lot of effort, Pull them into a bridge and walk on it a few times with your socks on. Then he tore the paper into several large pieces, spent a lot of time just comparing the lengths, and talked to himself. As the paper was torn shorter and shorter, sections had to be lined up… Finally, what I saw was that the paper had turned into bandages, wrapping her piggy bank tightly. Not long ago, Xiao Nuo poured half a bottle of hand sanitizer into the sink, creating a pool full of foam, and then dipped his hands into the foam and threw it on the floor at home. She spent a lot of time and energy to make the floor in the dining room, living room and various rooms dotted with small bubbles. As for me, I waited until she was satisfied before I took out two mops and started mopping the floor one at a time. She also once took away half a package of noodles from the kitchen drawer, pulled out the noodles, inserted them into drawers and door cracks everywhere, gently broke them, inserted them again and broke them again…so that after a long time, I was still in the closet. Or somewhere else, find a few small pieces of dried noodles. She found a watercolor pen, painted the white paper, and then painted the coffee table. After painting the coffee table, she painted her arms, one by one, with different lengths and color combinations. She had a pattern in her mind. She took selfies with my phone, making various faces and expressions, including difficult movements such as rolling her eyelids with one hand. She would also click on my WeChat account, sing an out-of-tune children\’s song or say a meaningless syllable, record it and send it to myself, and then click on it and listen to it and enjoy it. Or, she will pick up a book at random. There may not be a familiar word or picture on it, and the book may even be turned upside down, but this does not prevent her from \”reading\” aloud various impromptu stories. Xiaonuo never gets bored and rarely pesters me to play with her. She knows that I am not free. She doesn’t ask much to watch TV. She always has whatever she wants and can entertain herself for a long time. This kind of spirit makes me admire and feel inexplicably comforted. There are many children around us who are learning piano, painting, dancing… There are many kinds of interest classes and specialty classes, and parents flock to them. If you ask what is the purpose of letting children learn special skills, I believe that most parents do not require their children to become professionals and to work in this industry and eat this bowl of rice in the future. Many parents will say: In order to cultivate a hobby in their children, cultivate their sentiments, add interest to life, have spiritual sustenance, and be able to relieve themselves when they are sad. To say that it adds interest to life, hurtsNo matter what special skills you can learn by yourself, it is better to let your children learn to entertain themselves! Life cannot always be fresh and exciting. Life is a down-to-earth journey of daily necessities, like a glass of boiled water that is neither boiling nor ice-cold. People who know how to entertain themselves can add a little color and seasoning to the glass of boiled water in life, making it look pleasing to the eye and delicious to drink. A person who is good at entertaining himself will not find life boring. He can always find unexpected surprises in the ordinary. People who have the spirit of self-entertainment are optimistic and confident. They will not rely on others to maintain their happiness. Of course it\’s better to have someone to accompany you, but it doesn\’t matter if you don\’t have someone to accompany you. He can live a colorful life by himself, and his heart is strong enough and good enough. Friendship, love or marriage are just the icing on the cake for him, not a timely help! Of course it is better to have it, but without it, he can live a lively and prosperous life. So, how to cultivate the spirit of self-entertainment in children? In fact, it is the nature of children to entertain themselves. As long as we do not obliterate it and provide some guidance, it will be fine. Do less arranging and don’t overcrowd your child’s time. Leave some time for him to play freely. Don’t always direct your child to play with this toy. Let him choose and find it by himself. When your child is playing, don’t always instruct him how he “should” play. Let him think and innovate on his own. Disturb your child less. Don’t always disturb your child when he or she is concentrating on playing. When you first start playing with each toy, you can\’t play any tricks. As the child plays with it, he may have an idea and come up with a new idea. If you always disturb him or her, the child will have no chance to \”have an idea\”. How can new ideas and ways of playing appear? Don\’t criticize naughty children for being so cute. For example, Xiaonuo tipped the big soup bowl upside down on her head to let me admire her new hat; for example, she stood on the dining table on tiptoes and shook the pendant of the chandelier vigorously. ; For example, she rolled a big bag of green dates into every corner of the living room… It took all my strength not to scold her. Because I know that in the eyes of a child, these things are just toys, and she just created a new way to play. Even if I cannot express my approval for her behavior or praise her creativity, I should not blame her too much. I just told her which things were dangerous and should not be played with, and which things were food and should not be wasted. Don’t always think about wasting money. “These things must be bought with money” is the mantra of many older generations! In fact, children’s creativity and happiness are priceless. When Xiaonuo used half a bottle of hand soap to make bubbles, when she used half a roll of paper to cover the living room, when she squeezed a new tube of toothpaste at the bottom of the sink and let me admire her paintings… I told myself, calm down! Don’t always think about wasting money! Besides, everything has already been wasted. If it makes her unhappy, wouldn\’t it be a waste without value? It is better to let the child do her best and recover some costs, just remind her what things are not allowed to play with. Thinking about it from another angle, who stipulates that hand sanitizer can only be used for washing hands and cannot be used to make bubbles? Give your children a way to entertain themselvesIf parents who are role models can have a tolerant and peaceful heart and are good at discovering the happy details in life, their children will benefit from it and become optimistic and cheerful people who know how to entertain themselves!