What kind of child is never satisfied?

I think children are the most easily satisfied people in the world. Their little hearts are not as greedy as adults. Therefore, the poet Rabindranath Tagore wrote in \”Toys\”: \”My child, you are so happy. You sat in the soil all morning and played with the broken twig. I smiled and watched you playing with the broken twig. Twigs. I was busy doing calculations, adding up numbers hour by hour.\” When you have really been with your child. You will definitely feel the same way. A child of one or two years old can sometimes be happy for a long time with a small branch or a small ant. However, as the child slowly grows up. Many parents say that their children\’s desires have become bigger and even become unsatisfied. What is it that makes the child change his appearance? What kind of child is always unsatisfied. Children who are insecure are always dissatisfied. Where does a child get his initial sense of satisfaction? Get it from your mother. When he cries, he is calling his mother to come and throw himself into her arms. Touching the mother\’s breast with your mouth brings the greatest satisfaction to the baby. Just like they need physical nourishment, children need psychological nourishment: unconditional love from their parents can bring them a sense of security. Because I don\’t live to satisfy my parents. No matter how I live, you can accept it happily and calmly. Many mothers say that they love their children very much and are even willing to give their lives for their children. But when problems arise, they immediately become \”conditional\”. \”You are so disobedient, I don\’t want you anymore.\” \”If you are still like this, you will disappear from my eyes immediately. I don\’t want to see you.\” \”If you can pass the exam, I will give you whatever you want.\” It seems so reasonable and full of \”love\”, but there are conditions attached to it. But for children under 2 years old, all we can do is satisfy their psychological needs for love. If the child is hit and scolded more than caressed at this stage, it will cause psychological problems in the child. One of the concentrated manifestations is why so many children have separation anxiety. Often the mother did not handle the situation well when the child was very young. She was forced to separate from the child because she had to go to work, or she hid and sneaked away. Or the child needs something, but you keep delaying it because you are busy, and the child has never been satisfied. For example, if your child needs you to hand him a cup, but you say you want to train his independence, then you don\’t give it to him. The child wants to drink milk, but if you think about delayed gratification, you just don\’t give it in time. The child wants to be hugged, so he comes to you crying, but you won’t hug him even if he cries. It would be strange if there were no problems with this kind of parenting style. In the initial stage, parents\’ emotional peace and companionship, as well as timely satisfaction of their children\’s reasonable needs, are the best sources of security. Children who are never satisfied are always dissatisfied. There is a relative\’s child in my hometown, and my grandma has always taken care of it. When talking about this child, everyone will shake their heads and say that as soon as he sees something, he will eat it all at once. So many people don\’t dare to give him food because they will keep asking for it after eating. In the end, if there is no more, he will cry and cry. So no one dared to give him anything to eat. The last time he went back to his hometown, he came to our house with his grandma to play. I just bought itYangmei washed a bowl and put it on the table for the guests to eat. His grandma said, don’t give it, just give him a few pills. As soon as the child heard it, he immediately ran over, grabbed a handful in one hand, and then thought about stuffing it into his pocket. He was stopped by his grandma. \”Eat slowly, don\’t be in a hurry, there will still be some left after you finish.\” I said. At this time he began to eat seriously. But he kept his eyes on the bowl on the table. \”This monkey! He will destroy everything. Don\’t feed him.\” His grandmother kept saying. As soon as she said this, the child became anxious. That day, I let him eat as much as he could. In the following days, he came several more times. I feel full every time. A very cute little boy. It was because grandma never satisfied him that she scared him to get it eagerly every time. Children wrapped in pampering are never satisfied. Some mothers said that they saw in psychology that children before the age of 6 can never be loved enough, and that when people grow up, they will also be reincarnated in childhood patterns, so they should try to satisfy all their wishes when their children are young. But now that a family has only one child, everything is centered on the child, and they are afraid of spoiling the child. How to balance the relationship between the two? Of course, our love for our children does not need to be stingy. But when the child reaches about two years old, the child should be allowed to hear \”no\”. If you still blindly satisfy your children, you will only harm your children in the future. I saw a piece of news some time ago. In Pudong, Shanghai, Grandma Ding, who is in her eighties, has two sons and a daughter. The eldest son is a returnee from overseas. He has always been the pride of his mother. The old man should have reached the age to enjoy his son\’s happiness, but The eldest son, who is 48 years old, has been \”gnawing at his old age\” for 7 years. The 80-year-old mother has uremia, but she still has to take care of her son\’s life. Faced with her son\’s idleness, Grandma Ding was very anxious. She talked to her son earnestly, but her son complained that it was Grandma Ding who had harmed him. Grandma Ding was filled with regret and admitted that she took care of everything for her son, \”I didn\’t educate her properly. I took care of everything myself, but he did everything ready-made.\” Taking care of everything and having everything ready-made, isn’t it just pampering? Once a child is raised like this from an early age, there will definitely be problems in the future. This type of child will always be unsatisfied. Even if their parents have spent everything they have, they take it for granted. And if you accuse him of something wrong, he will instead point the finger at his parents. He said that his parents harmed him, as if his idleness was a gift from his parents. So nibbling on old age becomes a kind of retribution for the doting in the past. Finally, one more question, are your children happy? We all understand this truth: Happiness and happiness are a kind of feeling, which cannot be determined by material things, but depend more on spiritual feelings. But when it comes to actually doing it, they always focus on material giving, but ignore the children\’s soul. Therefore, most of our children are over-satisfied materially, but are often neglected spiritually. For a child, the timely appearance in infancy and satisfying his sense of security is the greatest satisfaction. In childhood, your unconditional love, a loving hug and companionship will bring him the greatest satisfaction. And in teenage years, your respect and acceptance will bring satisfaction to your children. Spiritual satisfaction is always the most important. Because this can make a person truly happy.