What kind of family is the scariest for a child to be born into?

Without the strength and wisdom of the husband\’s role, and without the true role of the father, can you imagine how crazy and terrifying such a family would become? A few days ago, a tragedy occurred in Huangqiao, Taizhou. The mother, Ms. Chen, was so angry that her 9-year-old son lost her cell phone that she beat the child to death. The mother later said that the reason why she attacked her child was: \”He lost his cell phone, which made me very angry, and he didn\’t do his homework well, so I beat him with a wooden stick.\” Ms. Chen admitted that she First, the son\’s mouth was sealed with tape and his hands and feet were tied to prevent him from screaming or resisting. In this way, she continued to play from 6 o\’clock in the evening to 11 o\’clock in the night. At around 5 a.m. the next day, Ms. Chen found her son motionless and called an ambulance. It was finally confirmed that her son was dead. At that time, the little boy\’s head and face were covered with scars, his hands and feet were bruised and swollen, and his butt was covered in blood… As a \”mom\”, after watching the news, I saw nothing but Shock, anger, and heartache. Thinking back to when I was a child, every time I got into trouble, the first thing I thought of was looking for my mother. I knew I would be criticized, but I was never afraid because I knew she loved me and would do her best to help me solve the problem. In the news, a 9-year-old child was afraid to go home because he lost his mobile phone and sat in the ice and snow. This is enough to show the kind of shadow his mother casts on him on weekdays. Sure enough, neighbors broke the news afterwards that Ms. Chen, who was usually polite to others, was \”flammable and explosive\” to her son, and it was common for her children to be beaten. After being arrested, Ms. Chen lost control of her emotions. She explained that her son\’s father went out to work and did not come home all year round, and did not provide any living expenses, which made the child very dependent on her. He often begged her not to go to work because he was afraid of being alone at home… But what would happen if he did not go to work? Living income, how can you send your children to school without income? Many times, I just couldn\’t see my child being so timid, weak, and ignorant, so I took action against my child out of desperation. Seeing this, I understood that this was probably another tragedy caused by widowed parenting. The new term \”widowed parenting\” has been around for some time. The wisdom of netizens is boundless. Some people said: \”Thanks to Chinese men, most Chinese women will go through four stages in their lives: mother-style mate selection, nanny-style wife, widowed parenting, and widowed marriage.\” \”Widowed parenting.\” \”This word is cruel in that it accurately points out the lack of one role in family parenting, and this \”lost\” role mostly refers to \”father\”. What is it like for a family to \”lose\” their father? A best friend who suffered from it told me: \”You fall into a kind of panic that you can\’t explain…\” Yes, most families will fall into a kind of panic after \”losing\” the role of a father. This kind of panic first comes from the mother\’s uncertainty about the future and her inability to cope with current life. Of course, the material life of this family may not be in any crisis, but everyone in this family will have an inexplicable psychological absence, which gives this family a lack of self-confidence and a neurotic appearance.Performance. Years ago, when I saw the news that Wu Qili was suspected of severely beating and abusing Wu Zhuolin, the little dragon girl, I wondered. They are obviously dependent on each other. A mother should protect her only child in every possible way. How can there be such a thing as \”abuse\”? With confusion, I read the entire report. The story is thought-provoking. Wu Qili explained that she did not beat or abuse her daughter, but when she found that her daughter was uncomfortable, she gave her medicine, but her daughter refused to take it, so the two began to argue. Wu Qili was so angry that she started to pick up a stick and shouted to her daughter: \”If you don\’t take medicine, you might as well die!\” Unexpectedly, Xiao Longnu misunderstood this sentence as a \”threat\” and called the police directly. Soon, another piece of news came, this time it was even more terrifying – Xiao Longnu committed suicide and was hospitalized! Is it too painful to be with my mother, and it would be better to commit suicide than to suffer painful suffering? As expected – the underage daughter chose to commit suicide because she couldn\’t stand her \”flammable and explosive\” mother. It is common for mothers to lose control of their emotions. Daughters often call the police or commit suicide. It becomes a vicious cycle that can never be broken. It starts over and over again. This is a family\’s \”panic disaster\” – a naked lack of self-confidence, Neurotic appearance. The absence of the two roles of \”husband\” and \”father\” makes the already difficult process of raising children extremely painful. Perhaps, most men think that I am responsible for making money outside, and I can just take it back and spend it on you. Taking care of children is a woman\’s business. Because of this mentality, he ignored his wife\’s contribution in the process – they didn\’t understand how tedious it was to prepare a delicious meal; they couldn\’t appreciate how much effort it took to hold a child in milk powder and change diapers; They don’t even know how annoying it is to have endless laundry and endless housework every day! This kind of \”not understanding\” and \”not knowing\” makes it increasingly difficult for women to maintain reason and warmth, so that many families suffer tragedies due to this \”corruption\” of women. The mother is deeply affected by its poison, and the child is not the same? Data surveys show that more than 70% of non-marriage advocates have embarked on this path because they have witnessed the unhappiness caused by widowed marriage. Just like one of my girlfriends, she is a staunch non-marriage advocate. She told me about her childhood experiences. She said her parents had been quarreling and fighting for as long as she could remember. She could not forget that when she was 6 years old, on the night of New Year\’s Eve, her mother had a high fever and asked her father to buy medicine. Her father said he was going to play cards, and then they quarreled again. After the quarrel, her mother cried on the bed holding the quilt, and her father wanted to leave. When the daughter knelt down and hugged her father\’s thigh, begging him not to leave, he kicked her away. That night, her father didn\’t come home. Later, her father would often not come home, and her mother would always cry alone. There were many, many things that caused her to develop a strong sense of rejection towards her father and the opposite sex. She couldn\’t let men touch her hands – yes, she couldn\’t even touch her hands; on the bus, whenever she saw some men who were not dressed cleanly and neatly, she would be inexplicably frightened and run away; for a long time, she would I only like women. Such a child, in order to reassure his mother, forces himself again and again to try to have a normal relationship, but it doesn\’t work.She was never able to face many things, and in the end, the two ended up breaking up. Because I have seen the misery my father has brought to my mother, I refuse to fall into such a quagmire; because I cannot see the joy and beauty of marriage, I have cut off my path to becoming a husband, wife and parent. Isn’t this right? Is this the current choice of Little Dragon Girl Wu Zhuolin? In October last year, Xiao Longnu officially announced her coming out with the sentence \”I\’m gay\”. At the dinner, a friend asked: \”When a person comes out, is it due to her life experience and experience, or is it due to her genes? Which factor is greater?\” I don\’t know much about homosexuality, but through my contact with such friends, I discovered a Phenomenon: Most lesbians have an abnormal relationship with their fathers. This abnormality is mainly manifested in alienation or hatred. When Little Dragon Girl was growing up, her father Jackie Chan was absent. For this reason, she must have learned from the people around her or the media that she was an unpopular child. Not only was she unpopular, she was also disliked and rejected by her father Jackie Chan. Being acquainted with her was even considered a big stain. So, when she was 17 years old, she began to fight back and say harsh words: Even if you give me 100 million, I will not recognize him! He doesn\’t deserve to be my father! Wu Qili had this speculation about her daughter coming out: Wu Zhuolin is actually a person who is very afraid of loneliness and needs the love and care of others. In recent years, because she has been very close to her close friend Andi, suddenly there is such a person willing to accompany her. Take care of her, love her, she falls in love easily. I think Wu Qili is right, but there is another reason why she did not say it: the reason why Wu Zhuolin\’s love orientation tends towards the same sex is because of the absence and irresponsibility of her biological father Jackie Chan, which leads to her daughter\’s disappointment and hatred for men. . It is said that a daughter is her father\’s little lover, and conversely, in fact, the father is also his daughter\’s first lover. A good father brings a sense of security to his children, and in the process of getting along with his wife, he will subtly teach his children how to love and manage family relationships. Especially in families that give birth to daughters, if a girl grows up with her father\’s love and company, she will become particularly confident, self-respecting, and secure. Such girls, when they grow up, will not easily leave with others just because of a compliment, a hug or a kiss from the opposite sex. Obama once wrote in a statement: I know that being a husband and a father is one of the most important jobs a man has. In Obama\’s view, the two roles of \”husband\” and \”father\” are no less important than being the president. Yes, in this era, wives need the return of their husbands, and children need the return of their fathers. The wife does not need her husband to make much money, she only needs to give her a complete home, provide her with a gentle and considerate sky, and provide her children with an umbrella to protect them. Because, with all this, a family with a sense of security, a valuable system, and a real future will be created. In such a family, precisely because of these two roles – the husband of the wife and the father of the child, everything is more possible because of their existence. I hope all husbands and fathers in the world will do it and cherish it for their own families!