What really widens the gap between children is not IQ or hard work, but…

One of Youma\’s friends is a math tutor in a training class. During the winter vacation, he picked up two \”unforgettable\” students, both in sixth grade, who came to prepare for the primary school entrance examination in advance. The reason why it is \”unforgettable\” is because one of the students is so smart that the teacher never needs to finish the topic. He only needs to click a little to understand it. Moreover, this child is versatile and likes Guo Degang very much. During the break time, he tells jokes to the teacher, \”This is Teacher Yu Qian, his father, Mr. Zhao…\”, making the teachers in the office laugh. Another student was not very talkative. When the teacher asked him what his final math score was, he hesitated and said he got a D. As for how far D is? Later, I learned from the mother of the child that it was 9 points… In the words of this mathematics teacher: \”When I teach my first child, I can quickly finish the test papers and exercises, and then extend the knowledge points from the first grade of junior high school. It will involve problem-solving skills from the Mathematical Olympiad; when teaching the second child, even though he is already in sixth grade, he still has to frequently review the knowledge points of fourth grade…\” Parents should also be aware of the difference between heaven and earth. It exists in almost every school. Whenever their children\’s grades are not satisfactory, the question that most parents wonder about is: \”Same class, same teacher, same arms and legs, why not as good as others?\” Why not as good as others? In fact, Youma didn’t know the answer before. However, there is a high school teacher next to me who has sent more than 10 graduating classes. He witnessed some students being snatched away by Tsinghua and Peking University in advance, and he also witnessed that many students regressed the more they repeated their studies. He sees the difference most clearly. The following is the experience of an experienced teacher with more than 10 years of experience. I hope it will be helpful to parents. Good students never spend the most time. If a child starts from elementary school and stays up until midnight every night, he should be excellent, right? NO, on the contrary, such children are often the kind of \”thankless\” people. The little progress he made was simply beyond his means compared to the time and energy he invested. And the really good kids get a good rest. Why is this so? Because the relationship between effort and performance is an \”inverted U-shaped\” curve. In the beginning, the more time you spend, the better your performance will be; but after reaching a certain level, the more time you spend, the more your performance will decline. In a student\’s day, the most precious 45 minutes in class are the integration of basic knowledge, problem-solving ideas, and extension. If you get distracted for 45 minutes in class, you may not be able to make up for it by spending several hours after class. However, many children have fallen into a \”vicious cycle\”: if they don\’t listen well in class, they will have to stay up late to do homework after class. They will be in low spirits the next day, and they won\’t listen well in class, and they will have to spend more time after class. Supplement… Advice to parents: 1. If your child writes homework very late, and often does so, parents should not always complain that the teacher assigns too many homework. It is likely that there is a problem with your child\’s efficiency in listening to classes. Let’s take a real example from the class: the same students in the third grade of junior high school, the same chemistry test paper, many children who listen carefully in class can finish it in about 45 minutes, while some children can finish it in one nightCan\’t finish it all. Children who are slow in writing homework must have failed in the steps of \”preview\”, \”listening to lectures\”, \”note arrangement\” and \”review\”. That\’s the problem. 2. When setting an example for your children, you should choose those who learn well and play well: \”My child, if you do your homework carefully now, after you finish it, you can go out and play like Xiaofeng next door.\” However, many parents do the opposite and mutter to their children all day long: \”Look at this person, XXX, doesn\’t go out on weekends and stays at home to study! Look at you, you look like a homeless lunatic.\” Good students never leave any questions Many children do not do well not because they did not review well in the final stage, but because they were doomed from the first day. Under normal circumstances, children will have at least 1 to 2 or even more small questions after a day of class. If not solved on the day, the number of questions will accumulate to more than 10 a week later. However, what is even more frightening is that after a week, many children no longer remember what questions they had at the beginning, but feel that they have learned well. If you don’t believe me, you can try it. If you ask your child, “What did the teacher say yesterday, what do you not know about?” the child will definitely be able to tell you. If you ask your child, “What did the teacher say yesterday, the day before yesterday, and last week?” Yes, the child will become less and less able to remember. When it comes to the final exam, some children come into the exam with more than 100 questions that they are not even aware of, while others come with less than 10 questions. Is there any difference? Advice to parents: 1. Encourage children to raise their hands more often. The reason why many children have accumulated so many questions is, firstly, because they dare not ask the teacher, and secondly, because they are too lazy to ask their classmates and parents. Encouraging children to raise their hands more in class can effectively train children\’s courage and enthusiasm, and make children pay more attention in class. It is a very practical way. 2. Regularly instill in children the concept of \”Today\’s work is done today\”. Whether you ask your parents or teachers for questions of the day, they must be solved on the same day. If you really can\’t solve it, you should mark it with eye-catching symbols on your homework or papers, so that you won\’t forget it the next day, and you won\’t have this question. A good student will definitely organize his own handouts, test papers, unit tests, or test papers used in weekly tests. They are usually selected by teachers through collective discussion. The questions in them are very comprehensive and representative, and they are all very good. review materials, so be sure to keep them properly. Children with excellent academic performance usually keep their test papers and handouts in order, arrange them by time or unit, and put them into bags or folders so that they can be easily found when they want to use them. And students who are perfunctory always like to randomly pull it out of the textbook. After a period of time, the textbook was thickly packed, and a bunch of test papers, handouts, and small notes fell out… A child who couldn\’t even organize the test papers and handouts not only lacked the habit of storage and organization, but also lacked the ability to organize. Learning planning skills. Moreover, such children are also very bad at taking care of their own lives. Not only are their desks messy, they may not even make their beds well. Advice to parents: 1. In the new semester, be sure to let your children prepare several folders, label them by subject, and put the usual test papers, handouts are kept in order. For the test papers that the teacher has taught you, you can cut out the questions you missed and paste them into a book. Note the problem-solving ideas and reasons for the errors below to make a wrong question book. 2. Let your children clean up their toys and desks from an early age and develop good storage and organization habits. Because once you develop a sloppy habit as a child, it is almost impossible to change it when you grow up. Moreover, sloppiness in life will sooner or later turn into sloppiness in study. Good learning habits are all small and trivial. Although they seem simple, it is difficult to stick to them. The new semester is a good time to cultivate habits. If you hurry up now, it will be easier in the future.