What should I do if I can\’t help but yell at my children?

If it worked, there wouldn\’t be so many depressed kids. Yelling will only teach children to yell, make children feel inferior and timid, make children fear authority, and stop children from communicating with their parents. Think about it carefully, why do you yell when educating your children? Recall carefully, what was the child\’s reaction after the yelling? Parents cannot always yell at their children. Now think about the time when they were full of love and tenderness towards their children. How do you feel at this time? What words were said? How did the child react? What was the effect achieved? 1. Why are you yelling? This morning, when my child was eating, I watched him with his eyes closed and motionless with food in his mouth. As time passed by, my anxiety rose, but I knew I couldn\’t yell at him. So, I said: \”I feel very anxious when I see you eating like this.\” The child said: \”I am very sleepy.\” CCTV recommended over 500 high-scoring excellent documentaries. The child watched the pattern and became addicted to self-discipline. I did not have it this time. Any thoughtful reply: \”Why are you sleepy?\” As soon as I said this sentence and saw the child shut up, I knew that the communication had failed. Because he had said many times before that he should go to bed early at night so that he would not be so sleepy in the morning. Although I didn\’t yell, there was dissatisfaction and frustration in that sentence, and the child felt it immediately. Not to mention yelling. When yelling, all kinds of negative emotions such as anger, helplessness, and anxiety are vented out with the sound. When children receive such emotions, they will feel scared and hurt. , grievance, helplessness and pain. The direct reason for yelling is that you have not handled your emotions well and have no other options. Especially under various pressure situations, yelling is more likely to occur. 2. Can you avoid yelling at your children? When parents know that yelling does not work and will bring many negative effects, they will definitely not want to yell at their children anymore. When we discipline our children, it does not mean that we do not love our children. Every parent can do without yelling, but it takes some work, especially for parents who are used to yelling. When you are calm, when are you most likely to yell? What kind of things do you make yourself yell at when your children do something? Write down what comes to mind and solve your own problems first, then your child\’s problems. Are you stressed? Are your needs not being met? Do you have any insecurities in your heart? Through reflection over and over again, I came to understand a truth: I am dissatisfied with many people and many things, and the fundamental reason is that I am dissatisfied with myself. When I truly understood myself and my own behavior, I suddenly understood those people and those things. When a person handles his own mentality and emotions, he can face others better. Then look at how to help children correct bad behaviors and encourage good behaviors. A child is an independent individual. He has his own feelings, emotions, thoughts, and personality. Discipline him on the basis of loving him and respecting him. People always pay attention to negative things. We know this, and thenFocus on negative things and shift to positive things in time. Positive things, beautiful things make us feel relaxed and happy. 3. You can yell in some situations. When your child is in danger and you don’t have time to run over, you can yell. For example, when a child is walking and a vehicle is passing by, your yelling is to stop the child and save the child\’s life. The yelling here is directed at the dangerous situation, or some yelling is directed at the thing itself, not at the child, and the child will understand the yelling at this time. There is a book called \”No Yelling: How to Calmly Get Children to Cooperate with Their Parents\”. Many of my thoughts come from this book. Parents in need can read it.