What should I do if my baby wakes up when I put it down, explodes when it touches the bed, and can only be held in my arms to sleep?

Ever since I had a child, I have never eaten well, ever since I had a child, I have never slept well, ever since I had a child… \”having a child\” is simply a curse, directly transforming the happy world of two people into a torturous threesome. From time to time, there are seven aunts and eight aunts coming to get involved. As for the baby\’s eating and drinking problems, as long as you have milk or formula milk, it can be easily solved. However, the baby\’s sleep problem is simply a farce~ What about the ultra-long standby mode that only sleeps for 5 minutes after being coaxed for 2 hours; the vibration mode that wakes up immediately after being held for half an hour; the adult is so sleepy that the baby is full of energy The flight mode that flutters and blinks at you… is simply invincible. So, why are these annoying little goblins so energetic? Let’s talk about baby’s sleep problems. If you are a baby, you have to sleep, eat, sleep, and eat… In the first month, a newborn baby usually sleeps, wakes, and eats day and night. Who lets you be a baby? You are willful. Generally, babies need to establish a fixed sleep pattern 6 to 8 weeks after birth, but before that, the sleep time between feedings will be about the same length. As the baby grows and the nervous system gradually matures, a sleep pattern is slowly formed, and the baby\’s sleeping and waking periods will also be lengthened. But some babies can have unpredictable sleep behaviors for months or longer. This is inseparable from the individual differences of the baby and some sleeping habits in the family. The baby\’s sleep schedule allows you to follow it. Your baby\’s sleep time is different at every stage. Generally, newborn babies sleep 20-22 hours a day; babies 1-2 months old sleep about 18 hours a day; 3-month-old babies generally sleep about 16 hours, so they can have more time to communicate with their parents and will He turns his head and kicks the quilt; after 6 months, babies usually sleep for 12-14 hours, and then slowly decrease. The above sleep time is the baby\’s total sleep time in a day. Parents can record the baby\’s fragmented sleep and then summarize it for comparison. But this is just a reference and does not necessarily have to be consistent. Remember, babies have individual differences. As long as they are healthy, there is no need to make a fuss if they are a few hours behind. In addition, some parents understand that \”sleeping until dawn\” is medically defined as \”sleeping for 5 hours continuously.\” Do you think you can really sleep all the time without making a fuss? What a beautiful thought╮(╯_╰)╭I wake up when I put it down, and explode when I put it on the bed. I am not happy if I don’t hold it while sleeping. This is also where many parents worry. They seem to be sleeping soundly, but as soon as they touch the bed, they feel like they are touching. It was as if a switch had been touched, and I cried immediately, even with my eyes closed! Baby, can I just assume you are having a nightmare? In fact, the \”bad habit\” of crying when the baby touches the bed may have been developed by the parents. Some parents may sleep with a bottle of milk, rock to sleep, hold them to sleep, walk to sleep, lie in a stroller, etc. There are all kinds of ways. However, it may be this behavior that makes the baby develop the only habit of falling asleep. In their subconscious mind, this is the only correct way to sleep. Once they change the way, they cannot continue to fall asleep. Just like a baby who is weaned and does not eat complementary food, when heIn their little minds, they think that only milk is the food that can be eaten. What is complementary food? Toy? Therefore, when parents find that their baby has drooping eyelids, rubbing eyes or being irritable and sleepy, they should put the baby in the crib. Although the baby is still awake at this time, he already feels sleepy. Parents should learn to catch the baby\’s signs of falling asleep and create a good sleep environment when the baby is slightly sleepy. Once the baby is very sleepy, it will be more difficult to coax him to sleep. What are deep and light sleep and the startle reflex? Many times, even if the baby has fallen asleep, the baby is actually still in the light sleep stage at this time. Generally, babies need to go through light sleep before they can really fall asleep. If the baby starts crying when being put down to sleep, parents should not immediately comfort the baby. Observe for a few minutes first. If the baby calms down within a short period of time, the parents can leave. But if the baby does not stop, parents can touch and comfort the baby to re-establish sleep. A baby\’s sleep cycle is shorter than that of an adult, and the duration of shallow sleep is longer. Moreover, each baby\’s sleep pattern is very different. If it is easy to fall asleep, but does not sleep deeply, it is easy to wake up; if it is not easy to fall asleep, but once asleep, it will not wake up easily; or some naughty babies do not It is normal to fall asleep easily or not fall asleep deeply. When the baby is in deep sleep, he sleeps quietly, his face and limbs are relaxed, his breathing is very even, and he occasionally snores. Even if there are occasional jumps or mouth movements, it is still in a state of complete rest. During light sleep, the entire sleep process is not quiet. Although the eyes are closed, rapid eye movement can be seen. The baby occasionally opens his eyes briefly, there are some movements of the limbs and body, and the face often shows funny expressions, such as smiles and frowns. Sometimes sucking or chewing movements occur, and slight sounds can trigger startling movements, and sometimes even sudden crying. During light sleep, some very slight sounds can cause the baby to jump suddenly, causing parents to think that they are frightened and rush to pick up the baby. In fact, this will disrupt the baby\’s normal sleep. Some babies cry suddenly during light sleep (may be related to dreaming). Parents only need to wait a few minutes to see if the baby continues to sleep again. There are also some babies who are obviously sleeping well, but suddenly startle and open their hands in their cribs and even make themselves cry. This may be the baby\’s startle reflex. The main manifestation of the startle reflex is that the baby is suddenly stimulated, with arms straightened, fingers spread, back stretched or bent, head tilted back, legs straight, and arms hugging each other. The startle reflex is most common in babies less than 3 months old and usually disappears within 3 to 5 months. It should be noted that whether the baby is in deep sleep or light sleep, the baby will have a startle reflex. In light sleep, some very slight sounds can cause the baby to jump suddenly. In deep sleep, even if there are occasional jumps or mouth movements, the baby is still completely resting. Is there something wrong with the baby who always wakes up at night? Some babies often wake up at night. At this time, parents will start to wonder, is there something wrong with the baby? Zinc deficiency? Calcium deficiency? Iron deficiency? Haha, why don’t you want your baby to lack love? (openJust a joke) The main reason why babies often wake up at night is that the brain has already started to rest, but the body wakes it up. However, there are many factors that wake up the baby\’s brain, such as too cold or too hot, teething pain, urination, hunger, nasal congestion and other physical factors; unstable temperature and humidity, air irritants, unfamiliar sounds and other environmental factors will all Cause the baby to wake up frequently at night. In addition, as babies go through \”growth milestones\” (such as learning to sit, crawl, and walk), they often wake up to practice these new skills. (The baby is really diligent!) And when the baby stops \”warming up\” at night and prepares to sleep well, other factors – such as the anxiety of being separated from the mother, will wake the baby up again. Therefore, parents still need to find out the culprit that makes their baby wake up at night based on the actual situation! Some babies\’ restless sleep may not be caused by the above reasons, but by non-specific psychiatric and neurological symptoms caused by lack of vitamin D. The baby\’s demand for VD is 400IU/d. Domestic opinion is that breastfed babies should be supplemented with VD until at least 2 years old; the American Academy of Pediatrics recommends that the time can be longer and should last throughout adolescence. This baby is going to sleep. If anyone is waiting, please leave. Parents can learn some small skills to help their babies sleep train. Giving them a good sleep is actually saving themselves! (1) Play more during the day. Talk, play, sing, etc. to your baby more during the day to attract your baby\’s attention, which can improve your baby\’s sleep quality at night. (2) Keep calm for a period of time before going to sleep. You can give your baby a relaxing massage or warm bath before going to sleep to help relieve your baby\’s tense muscles and busy brain. Let the baby calm down for a period of time before going to sleep, so it is easier to fall asleep at night. If your baby is excited after taking a bath, you can advance the bathing time appropriately. (3) Have a regular “nap” habit. Pick the most tiring times of the day and lie down with your baby for naps at these times for a week to get them used to the routine. Babies who nap at regular times during the day are more likely to get solid, long sleep at night. (4) Have regular sleep time. The older your baby gets, the more he or she needs a regular sleep schedule and routine. According to the actual situation of your own family, develop the habit of going to bed at a certain time, and your baby will naturally go to sleep obediently. (5) A relatively fixed bedtime ritual. Familiar \”bedtime rituals\” can put your baby to sleep quickly. (6) The father will coax the baby to sleep. Dads can also put their babies to sleep in male-specific ways. (7) Snuggle with your baby. Rock your baby in your arms, wear it on your back in a sling, or snuggle with your baby until you are sure your baby has completely fallen into a deep sleep. (8) Do not sleep in the same bed as your baby. Many parents think that newborn babies are too small and are reluctant to let their babies sleep alone in their own small beds. Instead, they sleep with their babies in a big bed, thinking that this will make it easier to take care of the baby. But this not only makes parents tired, but an adult bed is not as safe as a crib for the baby, and it also increases the risk of sudden infant death syndrome. ▶ If the baby is still superficialIf you want to leave quietly while sleeping, all the above methods may fail. Pay attention to your baby\’s facial expressions and the state of his hands and feet, and confirm that your baby has entered deep sleep. Then you can put him in his crib. What is a pillow? Is it a toy? Many parents have painstakingly prepared various pillows for their babies since their babies were born. I really can\’t bear to tell you the truth. Babies under 1 year old don\’t need pillows! When a baby is born, there is no cervical curvature and the cervical spine is \”straight\”. If you use a pillow too early, it will cause the neck to lean forward too much, which is not good for the airway. Difficulty breathing will cause the baby to wake up more at night, affect sleep, and even risk suffocation. After 1 year old, the baby\’s neck begins to bend a little. You can choose a pillow of appropriate height, size, softness and hardness according to the development of the baby\’s physiological curvature of the cervical spine. The height of the pillow is generally 3 to 4 centimeters and the maximum should not exceed 5 centimeters. You should also pay attention to the hardness of the pillow. The baby\’s skull is soft, and the fontanelle and skull sutures have not been completely closed. Long-term use of extremely hard pillows can easily cause skull deformation. Or big or small face. How to treat a baby who sleeps day and night reversely (1) Let the baby distinguish between day and night. The baby begins to accept the change of day and night at 2 to 3 months. At this time, open the curtains during the day and maintain natural lighting. Parents can move normally indoors without Keep the volume down, and don\’t avoid your baby when doing things. Close the curtains at night and turn on only a small bedside lamp (turn it off when the baby is asleep). Try to keep the environment as quiet as possible, and set an example by allowing parents to go to bed early. (2) Play more with your baby during the day. When your baby is awake, you can talk to him, use toys to attract him to exercise, or take him out to see the world. But don’t let the baby rest during the day. As long as the sleeping time does not exceed 4 hours at a time, try not to let the baby sleep after 5 o’clock in the evening to avoid nighttime naps becoming a protracted battle. In other cases, daytime naps should be based on the baby’s needs. Let\’s go on~ The baby has already developed the habit of sleeping on milk, is there any help? Babies within 3 months are the time to develop a sense of security, so babies in this period do not need to correct their habit of sleeping on milk. For babies after 3 months old, parents can use the following methods to try to correct their baby\’s feeding habits. (1) Feed and coax to sleep according to original habits, but gradually reduce dependence. After the baby is full, quickly pull out the nipple. If the baby still wants it, give it to him, repeat it several times, each time for a shorter time, and gradually he will become less dependent on milk to sleep. (2) Cooperate with external force, such as kissing, tapping, music, etc. You can choose to play some soft music in the room during feeding. After the baby becomes confused after eating, slowly put him on the bed. At this time, the baby is still awake, so you need to pat + talk + kiss gently to comfort the baby until he falls asleep. At first, this process may take an hour. As you slowly adjust, the time will become shorter and shorter. However, I know that everyone doesn’t like the word but, but I still say it. The above methods are only suitable for some babies with gentle personalities, and there are also some stubborn babies. No matter what method is used, they cannot change the habit of sleeping on breast milk. He is a crying little devil when he is away from the nipple. Parents need to be more patient. Remember, by all meansAll need to be used flexibly, the key is up to you~ The arms become the crib for the baby to sleep. If you are exhausted, it will be the same as the baby\’s habit of sleeping on milk. Babies under 3 months old do not need to correct it. For older babies, parents can try it. The following methods. (1) Wait for the baby to fall asleep for 20 minutes before putting him down. This will successfully avoid the shallow sleep area, and then slowly shorten the time each time he is put to sleep. (2) Prepare a sleeping bag for your baby. Because babies have limited cognition, they are sometimes frightened by shaking hands and feet while sleeping. This can avoid being frightened and wake you up and ensure that you are warm and not cold.