What should I do if my child fails the college entrance examination?

My mother\’s family is a big family with many brothers and sisters, so I have many cousins. Now three of my cousins ​​are working and settling down in Shanghai, and our family has also moved to Shanghai from Beijing. A while ago, we had a family gathering and talked about the situation of some relatives\’ children taking the college entrance examination this year. By chance, the topic \”the relationship between college entrance examination and success in life\” came up. Coincidentally, my three cousins ​​are all born after 1985. They all failed the college entrance examination and did not go to college, but now they seem to be considered successful. Let’s talk about their stories first. CCTV recommends over 500 high-scoring documentaries. The children will become addicted to self-discipline after watching them. 01 \”Failed\” in the College Entrance Examination, life never ends: from an apprentice to a big store manager. Cousin A\’s parents are both honest farmers, and they have \”faced the loess\” all their lives. \”Back to the sky\”, not very literate, and quite introverted. Cousin A\’s personality is like his parents, introverted and quiet, and his academic performance is not bad, but he failed to get into college by a few points. How to do it? How will you make a living as an adult? Go home and farm? He doesn\’t want to. Cousin A has a neighbor who owns a car repair shop. He used to repair motorcycles, but later his business became bigger and bigger, so he moved from the countryside to the city to open a car repair shop. Cousin A often went to his house to play when he was a child. He was very interested in car parts and knew all kinds of repair tools. When he was older, he could help his neighbors. After failing the college entrance examination, cousin A had nowhere to go. After discussion with his family, he decided to go to the city to work in a neighbor\’s car repair shop and became an apprentice. Cousin A\’s personality is very similar to that of his father. He doesn\’t talk much and is a hard-working type. He started from the dirtiest and most tiring job. He was very hard-working and honest, and won the trust of his boss in all aspects. The boss appreciated him more and more and asked him if he would like to go to a technical school for further studies and learn professional car repair and beauty knowledge. He only had to pay half of the tuition. Cousin A himself is a child who loves to learn and delve into research. During the process of repairing his car, he found that he needed to supplement his professional knowledge. However, he was very filial to his parents and could not bear to spend the hard-earned money of his farmer parents. So he made an agreement with his parents to borrow some money for tuition, and after completing his studies, he would make money and then return it to his parents. Two years later, cousin A graduated from a technical school and became the technical backbone of a neighbor\’s car repair shop. He soon paid his tuition back to his parents. Cousin A has been doing this for three years, and the car repair shop has grown bigger and bigger. The Audi car brand store in the city wants to open a branch in the county, so he discussed with the boss to cooperate in opening a store. Cousin A used his savings over the years to invest some shares and became the deputy store manager. In his twenties, he is becoming more and more mature, working steadily and thoughtfully, and assists the boss in running the branch successfully. Soon, the general store manager in the city took a liking to this young talent and transferred him to the city as a store manager. My cousin A who repays his kindness is very sensible. Before he took office in the city, he took the initiative to take out five times the tuition fee from his salary and gave a big red envelope to his old neighbor to thank his senior for his cultivation. . The old neighbor was very moved and supported him in developing in a big city. When he arrived in the city, cousin A still maintained a low-key and cautious style. He was very good at dealing with all kinds of people, and was also good at learning management methods. He grew up very quickly. Within three years, he was transferred to ShanghaiBe a branch store manager and manage two large stores. Now I have a family and a career in Shanghai and am living a good life. At the party, I asked my cousin A what he thought was the most critical factor in his growth. He smiled and said, \”I just like to repair cars and work hard.\” 02 There is another way in life for \”failed\” in the college entrance examination: from From a remote country to an international metropolis Cousin B’s parents are also honest farmers. His mother, my aunt, married into the most remote village in the county, which can really be called a remote village. Cousin B later went to study in London, England, and worked in Berlin, Germany. Now he was headhunted to Shanghai Lingang New District. From a remote country to an international metropolis, how did cousin B counterattack? After \”failing\” the college entrance examination, cousin B was desperate. At that time, a distant cousin who he played with when he was a child was studying in London and persuaded him to study abroad. When cousin B heard this, he thought it was a fantasy. On the one hand, his family is not well-off financially, but several brothers are much older than him and are willing to support him. But he felt that he couldn\’t even get into ordinary domestic universities, so how could he possibly study abroad in an international metropolis. His cousin told him not to belittle oneself, as long as he determined to learn English well and pass the language test, this channel would be opened. Cousin B, after being reminded by him, suddenly thought that his strongest subject among all subjects was English, so he might as well fight against the odds. But I am still confused: What can I do after studying abroad? His cousin reminded him again: If you like playing games, you can do game software development in the future. This industry has just started in China, but it is relatively mature abroad. Hearing this, cousin B suddenly became motivated. With a strong desire to change his destiny and a great interest in doing what he likes to do, cousin B did nothing for half a year and concentrated on learning English. In the end, he passed the language test in one go and came from a remote country to an international metropolis. . He studied hard and got excellent grades. After graduation, he worked for a German game company. Now he was headhunted to Shanghai Lingang New District to participate in the founding of a game company. He feels like a fish in water, and feels that work is like playing games, fun and happy. Cousin B never expected that his life would take such a big turn. He was very grateful to his cousin for showing him the way at a critical moment in his life, and he was also grateful to his brothers at home for their support. At the party, I asked my cousin B what he thought was the most critical factor in his growth. He said: \”English is what I am good at, and games are what I like, so I am very motivated and comfortable in doing it.\” 03 \”Failed\” in the college entrance examination Life has another kind of scenery: From street photography to professional photographer, cousin C’s parents are both workers. His mother works as an accountant in a factory, and his father worked in the union of a factory in the city in the 1980s and was responsible for showing movies to the workers. At the same time, he is responsible for the daily photography work of the factory. Cousin C has been very interested in his father\’s films, cameras, and various film equipment and equipment since he was a child. He secretly played with these things when he was five or six years old. His father often scolded him: \”How dare you touch such expensive things!\” So those equipment became cousin C’s most desired and most unattainable dream throughout his childhood. After \”failing\” the college entrance examination, cousin C didn\’t have any other ideas but just wanted to play with the camera. He goes to work, earned the first money and bought his first SLR camera. He started doing street photography, taking pictures here and there on the street. His father scolded him for not doing his job properly and mocked him for not being able to support himself through photography. Unexpectedly, cousin C’s photography works were submitted to major newspapers and magazines and were frequently used. Relatives and friends would also ask him to take photos and videos for any happy events. He could really make a living by relying on this craft. Later, in a municipal photography competition, cousin C\’s work actually won the grand prize. His reputation suddenly grew. More and more people asked him to take photos, and the appearance fee also continued to increase. The latest and most complete 2023 [Kindergarten, Junior High and High School] premium VIP course catalogs from famous teachers in various disciplines on the entire network, click to view now! Cousin C simply used his savings over the years to open a photography company and hired some young people who loved photography. Perhaps influenced by his father since childhood, cousin C has his own ideas about photography and can always take refreshing photos. Soon, cousin C’s company occupied a large share of the city’s wedding photography and parent-child photography markets. Cousin C is also very active in the market. He is not satisfied with opening a store in a small place. He actually opened a store in the suburbs of Shanghai and the business is very good. His father said that he never dreamed that his son would achieve such a small success just by relying on photography. At the party, I asked my cousin C what he thought was the most critical factor in his growth. He said: \”From the moment I saw my dad playing with a camera when I was four or five years old, I fell in love with photography out of hand. That\’s it. I like it, nothing else.\” 04 Three Enlightenments from Three Growth Stories From the growth stories of three young people who \”failed\”, I realized some emotion and three enlightenments: The emotion is that \”failing\” in the college entrance examination does not mean failure in life. Of course we hope that our children will succeed in the college entrance examination and go to university. But if you give up your efforts after entering college, you will still not succeed in life. On the contrary, even if you don\’t get into college, you still have many possibilities for success in life if you don\’t give up your efforts. The three inspirations from the growth stories of the three young people who \”failed\” are: interest is the best internal driving force, good character is the foundation of success, and good family tradition shapes good character. Interest is the best internal driving force. Cousin A likes playing with cars and repairing cars, and has grown from an apprentice in a car repair shop to a store manager of a 4S shop; cousin B is good at English and likes games, so he went abroad to learn game software development with ease; cousin C likes photography, and finally became a Turn this hobby into your life\’s career. We often talk about stimulating children’s internal drive, but where does the internal drive come from? Still the same sentence: Interest is the best teacher, and interest is the greatest motivation. Everyone must have his interests and hobbies, and he must also have his advantages. Let your child do what he likes and is good at. This is in line with the child\’s nature, and it is also easier to succeed. We often talk about \”leveraging strengths to make up for weaknesses\”, but we tend to be more obsessed with \”making up for weaknesses\” and forget that \”leveraging strengths\” is the way to give full play to advantages and employ people\’s strengths. Good character is the basis of success. Everyone is interested, but not everyone can succeed. Good character is the basis of success. I know these cousins ​​well, and their success is inseparable from their good character and habits. Three cousinsEach has its own outstanding qualities, and they all overcame the huge psychological pressure after failing the college entrance examination and successfully counterattacked. Cousin A is down-to-earth, hard-working, studious, hard-working, and never forgets his teachers. These factors are indispensable for his growth. We should not only see the bright appearance after his success, but forget his many years of dirty and tiring experience as an apprentice. Cousin B is very perseverant. He put a lot of effort into learning English and overcame difficulties that ordinary people can\’t imagine. He is also very tenacious and overcame various discomforts after going abroad, and finally achieved today\’s success. Cousin C likes to study photography technology very much, so he can take unique works and attract many customers. He has a passion for the things he likes and an indomitable spirit. Even if his father opposes and ridicules him in every possible way, he cannot stop him from realizing his ideals. These are valuable qualities. Good family tradition builds good character. So where does good character come from? Comes from good family tradition. I know the families of these cousins ​​quite well. Their parents are kind and kind people. Cousin A’s parents are diligent farmers. They taught their children to work hard and be honest from an early age. These excellent qualities allowed Cousin A to win the trust and appreciation of his boss during his apprenticeship with his hard work, clean finances, and reliable character, which enabled him to improve step by step. Cousin B\’s parents are also farmers. They rarely preach to their children, but teach them by example. They are honest and down-to-earth, and the brothers live in harmony and help each other. Cousin B’s brothers took great care of him and gave him great moral support and financial assistance at critical moments. Only then did Cousin B’s dream come true. Cousin B also studies very hard and works very hard. Cousin C’s parents are both workers. His father is very knowledgeable in photography technology, which also influenced cousin C. His mother is very financially savvy, which taught cousin C to be good at business. As I write this, I seem to have realized another truth: Regarding family education, parents don’t need to do too much for their children. If they know how to behave themselves, the children will naturally learn these duties of being a human being. These basic qualities will become the soil for their growth. and the foundation for success; create a condition for the child to give him the space and possibility to discover his own interests and strengths, and provide some support when necessary so that the child can get closer to his ideal and realize it. My three cousins ​​are actually very ordinary, and they can\’t be considered great successes. They are just a few examples among all living beings, the three ordinary young people who \”failed\”. But we must believe that everyone has infinite power. Compared with them, I am an undergraduate student at Xiamen University and a master\’s student at Beijing Normal University. I am a \”top student\” academically. My aunts and uncles used to envy my mother and praised me for being good at reading. They were all worried that their sons would not be able to go to college and have no future. Now I live in Shanghai with several cousins. They also have good jobs and can settle down in Shanghai. Everyone\’s life is okay, but the difference is actually not big. Everyone has their own strengths. They can be store managers and manage hundreds of people, which I can’t do; they can develop game software, which I can’t understand; they know a lot about photography, but I know nothing about it… ButI love reading, thinking, and writing. I love my own life. I don’t envy them, I only bless them. Everyone has their own strengths, no need to compare. Everyone can use their own strengths, achieve self-realization, and live happily. We can be more tolerant of our children, wait more, and work hard to help them discover their own strengths, and then turn these strengths into the light of life and illuminate their future—this future may not necessarily be glorious, but it must be unique and warm enough. A child\’s life. I would like to dedicate this document to anxious parents everywhere, myself included.