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Recently I have discovered that my daughter and I are increasingly unable to communicate. She is full of princess disease and has the temper of a young lady who won\’t let you say anything bad about her. Sometimes when she does something wrong, I don\’t dare to say anything about it. When I tell her, she gets angry with you or ignores you in anger. I know my daughter\’s character. She is very thin-skinned, very competitive, and has a very strong self-esteem. I like to be praised and encouraged, but I cannot tolerate derogatory words about myself. However, children who are in the growing stage will inevitably make some mistakes, big or small. If you make a mistake, someone must point it out to you. So you can realize it and correct it, right? I took my daughter to buy shoes that day. She insisted on buying a pair of white princess shoes with a pink bow. I said it will get warm soon, and I won’t be able to wear a pair of cotton ones like this for a few days. Maybe it won’t fit you again next year. It is better to buy a pair of spring shoes and wear them as soon as spring begins. But she couldn\’t listen. After trying on those shoes, he refused to take them off and sat there in a stalemate with me. I said angrily: \”If you don\’t leave, just stay here. I\’m going home.\” This sentence offended the little princess. She pouted, put on her shoes angrily, turned around and walked home. When she got home, her father saw that the atmosphere was not right and asked, \”What\’s going on? Who is messing with our precious daughter?\” She said angrily, \”Don\’t bother me! Go ask your wife!\” I was also angry: \”From now on, your I don\’t care about it anymore.\” The two of us choked for a few more words, and finally gave up after her father, the peacemaker, got in the middle. Until the evening, neither of us paid any attention to the other. Before going to bed, my husband talked to me about this and said, \”Have you noticed that usually, my daughter and I don\’t talk like this? We communicate happily. But as soon as you talk to her, your mother and I start to quarrel.\” Do you think about why this is? I think the problem lies with you. When I talk to my daughter, I always adopt roundabout tactics. Even if I point out her mistakes, I try to be humorous. But you always confront her head-on, tit-for-tat, and her self-esteem Such a strong child, and a girl, with thin skin, can she accept your suggestions well…\” I listened patiently to my husband, and when I thought about it carefully, it was true. My husband and my daughter usually get along very well. He is a humorous person and often makes her laugh. When his daughter does something wrong, he always reminds her with humor. For example, one time Niuniu forgot to brush her teeth and went to bed. If I reminded her: \”Come down and brush your teeth before going to bed.\” She would definitely pout with a hundred reluctances. But her dad said with a smile: \”Be careful, the bugs are making nests in your mouth. You also had chocolate cake for dinner. Tonight, the bugs will happily have a feast on your teeth.\” He said as he said While making funny gestures, Niuniu became happy as soon as she heard it, and went to brush her teeth willingly. The father and daughter always solved the problem while laughing and joking. It seems that my mother\’s education method is too rigid. I have to learn some sense of humor and use humorous language to communicate with my daughter. The next morning, I went to wake my daughter up. If normally, the mother and daughter had an unpleasant encounter the night before, I would have said in a weird way: \”What time is it, why don\’t you get up!\” This time, I pretended that nothing was wrong, put my hand into her bed, touched her belly and said : “Mom, look, are the balloons in my Niuniu’s belly empty?have? I was very angry yesterday. Yeah, we’ve run out. I’m feeling hungry. Get up and eat quickly. \”Niuniu giggled because of my cold hands. She touched my belly playfully and said, \”There is a balloon hidden in mom\’s belly. No, it\’s a big hot air balloon. \”I continued to tease her, tickling her, and she tickled me too. The two of us fell on the bed. The feud from last night was easily resolved by a little humor. I tasted the sweetness of humorous words, and later followed When the daughter communicates, there is silence from time to time, and both mother and daughter feel very relaxed. In fact, humor is not only the lubricant of the parent-child relationship, on some occasions, it can also resolve the child\’s embarrassing situation, or allow the child to face it easily Frustrated. Niuniu has loved dancing since she was a child, so I signed her up for a dance class. Once she participated in a dance competition, and she trained hard before the competition. It was obvious that she cared about the competition and hoped to achieve good results. Unexpectedly , I caught a cold the day before the competition. As a result, I did not perform well that day and did not get a ranking. After my daughter stepped down from the stage, she was very depressed and tears rolled in her eyes. If I can even say an ordinary word of comfort at this moment, she has a strong inner defense line. She would break down immediately and shed tears. But I knew that she was very strong, and she didn’t want to make a fool of herself by crying in front of everyone. So I said humorously: \”Niuniu, do you know? This time, your lucky angel must have caught a cold from you, so she couldn\’t help you…\” Niu Niu forced out a smile: \”Mom, you are so funny, angels can catch colds too. hehe. \”In this way, a little humor gave her an outlet for depression, so that she would not keep her depression in her heart. She also followed the steps I built with this little humor, and her mood gradually became brighter. As time went by, , I found that Niuniu herself had learned humor. Once she was playing with some friends. A girl farted loudly. The friends were stunned and burst into laughter. One boy wanted to make fun of the girl. At this time, Niu Niu quickly came to the girl\’s rescue with humor: \”Didn\’t we just say we were going to race? This sound is the starting whistle, let’s go! \”When everyone heard this, they rushed forward, and the girl\’s embarrassment was instantly washed away. Humor is a language of wisdom. It is the seasoning of interpersonal relationships. This also applies to parent-child relationships. The growth process of children In school, it is inevitable to make mistakes. At this time, if you use humor to remind him, it will be more effective than rigid criticism, and the child will be more likely to accept and correct it. Children also have strong self-esteem and need to save face, and humor can protect them. In the same way, if a child is exposed to this kind of humor for a long time, he will become a person who understands humor and will be more popular in interactions with his peers. This will make him a person who can give A person who brings happiness to others and also enjoys himself.