What should I do if my child has poor memory? This is a true experience

Some parents left a message asking: Their children’s recitation memory is not good. Is there any way to improve it? To be honest, I used to think that the difference in memory was mainly due to different talents. But a recent incident changed my view. Therefore, this time I will specifically write down my own opinions and provide some inspiration. I went out to play during the summer vacation, and when I stayed in a hotel, I found a small poem recorded on the screen: The peach blossoms are shallow and deep, like makeup with even shades. The spring breeze helps the broken heart and blows off the white clothes. I thought it was quite interesting, so I asked my wife to see who could memorize this poem the fastest. I have always prided myself on my good memory, but my wife\’s memory has never been very good. But it turned out that we all memorized these lines of poetry very quickly, and there was no obvious difference as imagined. However, I asked her again a few days ago and she said she couldn\’t remember it at all. When I recited the entire poem, she worshiped me again. In fact, I know in my heart that in order to test her again one day, I often recite the poem silently in my mind. Sometimes I can\’t remember it clearly, and I will search it on my mobile phone. To put it bluntly, I memorized the poem this time, not because I have a good memory, but because I kept repeating it. This actually involves a very important concept: the forgetting curve. You don’t need to read any advanced books, just search online and you will find detailed explanations, data, and specific methods. To put it in layman\’s terms, people forget in a regular pattern when they are learning, with a trend of fast first and then slow. After we learn new knowledge, we must review it according to the rules of forgetting. The amount of forgetting will become less and less, and finally the effect of complete memory will be achieved. Personally, I think this is the most critical part of memorizing memory. There are indeed people with extraordinary talents in this world, and there are also people with low talents, but the vast majority are ordinary people. Scientific repetition and memorization is the first magic weapon for memorization, and it is also the reason why some people seem to be able to memorize it, while others forget it after memorizing it. In \”The Legend of the Condor Heroes\”, Huang Yaoshi\’s wife has a photographic memory. She can recite the \”Nine Yin Manual\” immediately after reading it. This is an excellent short-term memory. But when Huang Yaoshi\’s apprentice stole the book a few years later, when his wife recalled it, she found it extremely difficult and even died of exhaustion. Although this plot is said by a novelist, it also has scientific truth. Even if you are a genius, if you don\’t memorize it repeatedly, it will be difficult to remember it for a lifetime. Although Guo Jing was stupid, he learned the book by heart after being tricked by an old naughty boy into reciting it dozens of times in a cave. In addition, the following factors also have a great impact on memory. One is self-confidence. In real life, there is such a phenomenon. Some people are not beautiful, but they live very confidently, which makes them more outstanding in temperament than those who are not bad in appearance but have low self-esteem. The same is true for recitation. If someone feels stupid from the beginning, the memory effect during recitation will not be good. On the contrary, if you have enough confidence, you will get twice the result with half the effort when memorizing. In this regard, parents can consciously cultivate their children\’s self-confidence. For example, when reciting with a child, you can slow down the pace at first so that he or she can lag behind a little and feel that there is a possibility of catching up. Then you can finish reciting it almost at the same time until he overtakes it.Go through yourself and gradually develop his confidence. The second is initiative. There is a saying that \”you want me to learn\” becomes \”I want to learn\”. This is a question of initiative in learning. If you don\’t want to study subjectively and are forced to sit there by your parents or teachers, you will probably just waste your time. The third is attention. If you don\’t concentrate, you can\’t do anything well. Especially when reciting, you need to eliminate distracting thoughts and stay focused. The fourth is understanding. Understanding and then memorizing is better than rote memorization. Many people understand this. Of course, there are some tricks and tricks to achieve fast memorization. For example, the common \”first character method\”, the most famous of which is Jin Yong\’s fourteen works, is summarized by the sentence \”The flying snow shoots the white deer, the laughing book hero leans on the blue mandarin duck\”. The titles of the books can be recalled one by one. When I was in junior high school, I used this method to recite the first batch of 14 open coastal cities in my country. I recited the first words directly: \”The sky of Daqin is green and connected to the south, and Ning, Wen, Fu, Guang and Zhan are north\”, which represents Dalian, Qinhuangdao, These 14 cities are Tianjin, Yantai, Qingdao, Lianyungang, Nantong, Shanghai, Ningbo, Wenzhou, Fuzhou, Guangzhou, Zhanjiang, and Beihai. If you think of a specific city from the first word, you can remember it immediately. When I was in high school, my history teacher introduced that the order of titles in the West is duke, marquis, earl, viscount, baron, followed by knight. I immediately thought that \”a male monkey\’s neck is difficult to ride\”, and I have never forgotten it. Another example is the \”homophony method\”. When memorizing pi, it is quite interesting to use \”There is a temple on the top of the mountain and a pot of wine. You will be happy and bitter and I will be sad. If you eat the wine, you will kill me. If you cannot kill me, you will be happy.\” It is quite interesting to represent \”3.1415926535897932384626\”. There are also methods such as image method and association method. If you are interested, you can search for them by yourself. If these methods can be used appropriately when reciting, the recitation efficiency can indeed be greatly improved. But objectively speaking, it is impossible to find suitable techniques for everything that needs to be memorized. These can only be used as auxiliary means of memory. The poor memory of many children is not due to lack of talent, but simply a lack of concentration, improper methods, and insufficient effort. Some of the great gods we worship may have just mastered scientific methods and developed good study habits. At this point in writing, I suddenly remembered an experience that many top students have said: go through the knowledge you learned that day in your mind every night before going to bed, and play through the knowledge you learned during the week in your mind every week like a movie. Children who can persist in doing this may improve more than just their recitation level.