What should I do if my child is punished by the teacher?

When a teacher disciplines a student, the parents angrily report the teacher to the school or the relevant education department. At least they ask the teacher to apologize to their children, and at worst they insult the teacher in public or even fight the teacher. Similar news is not uncommon. It is understandable that parents love their children very much, but is it really appropriate to impulsively adopt this method of breaking up with teachers in order to \”give vent to their children\”? As a principal for many years, I have led teachers to students\’ homes many times to apologize, and every time I felt very heavy. Of course, what the teacher says and does may not always be right, but after a conflict occurs, if both parties choose a calmer and more appropriate way to solve the problem, the impact on the children will be smaller. Students wink and wink in class, and the classmates around them are disturbed. Upon seeing this, the classroom teacher walked over and gently patted his face with his hand. When the child came home, he exaggeratedly said that the teacher had slapped him. After school that day, the teacher reported the situation to me. I criticized and educated him and urged him to call his parents to explain the situation. Unexpectedly, when the teacher called, the parents had already called the police. I immediately took the \”troublemaker\” teacher to the door to apologize to the students. The parents agreed to withdraw the lawsuit, but gave me and the teacher a severe scolding. Soon after, I found the student sitting on the floor and walked over to remind him to stand up. The ground was too cold and he might catch a cold. He raised his head, gave me a roll of his eyes, moved his buttocks and sat down again. Because he had the support of his parents, this student became unscrupulous. The teacher who had a conflict with him had to stay away from him since then, and other teachers did not dare to control him. Another mother’s approach was very wise. She reported to me: The teacher assigned a handwritten newspaper assignment that required the cooperation of parents. She spent two hours helping the child complete it. The child was very happy and felt that his work would definitely be praised. As a result, the teacher showed all the children\’s homework except this child\’s. The child was so shocked that he went home and told his mother that the teacher didn\’t like him. Watch both The Croods online for free in full version [Blu-ray original disc 2160P ultra-clear 102G] The mother was very angry when her child said this, but the child\’s father\’s words \”The child\’s words may not be all right\” reminded her, so she did not I immediately asked the teacher to accuse me, but after hesitating for a long time, he called me. Seeing that I wanted to find the teacher, the mother said: \”I am just reporting the situation. You don\’t need to go to the teacher. Maybe this is just the teacher\’s unintentional mistake.\” She believed that I could handle it properly. I didn\’t go to see this teacher. Not long ago, this child won the second prize in the grade selection for outstanding manuscripts. It turned out that the reason why the teacher did not show the student\’s handwritten newspaper in class was because he felt that \”the best should be saved for last.\” In fact, most conflicts between home and school are caused by lack of communication. When children get along with teachers and classmates, conflicts are inevitable. Even a teacher can\’t get it right every time. Sometimes, children give feedback to their parents from a perspective that is beneficial to them, and may even add insult to injury. No matter what, parents should not act impulsively. Calm down and control your emotions first, then find out what happened through appropriate channels, and then work with the school and teachers to find ways to help your child change and improve. Teachers are not omnipotent, is also a high-risk group for job burnout. Sometimes there is no outlet for negative emotions, and it is inevitable to behave inappropriately when students are disobedient. How do parents deal with teachers\’ shortcomings and mistakes? If it is a bottom-line issue, such as disrespect for students\’ personality, of course we must attach great importance to it and respond quickly, follow relevant procedures to find the school or even resort to law to resolve it. Most conflicts between teachers and students are actually the same as conflicts between parents and children. They are caused by criticism and education after discovering problems in children\’s learning and conduct. The children have rebellious emotions and conflicts erupt. At this time, parents should communicate with the teacher to solve the problem on the premise of understanding the whole story. In fact, there are many things that children themselves are capable of dealing with and solving. Parents should not arbitrarily deprive him of his right to solve problems. When a child really needs us to step in, it is never too late for parents to step forward.