What should I do if my child is too fragile?

I think those born in the 1980s are probably the most \”unlucky\” generation of parents. When we were children, our parents would swing a broom whenever they disagreed with us. However, after we became mothers and fathers, we did not treat our children very well. I can no longer show any prestige, and sometimes I feel like I am being bullied by children. I know a child named Cheng Hao, who is 16 years old. His father is a top student from a mountain village who entered a big city and is now an engineer; and his mother is a teacher in a middle school and is also a highly educated person. However, these two highly educated parents could not educate their sons well. This week, Cheng Hao didn\’t go to school. Because he talked back to the teacher and said bad words, he was sent home by the school to reflect. Dad asked him: \”Why did you say dirty words to the teacher? It\’s wrong to disrespect the teacher.\” Cheng Hao said to his father: \”According to you, there are no scum among teachers? I just hate him. This is my feeling. There is nothing I can do about it. As soon as he speaks, I want to quarrel with him and I can\’t help it.\” As the saying goes, \”Follow the teacher and believe in the teaching.\” But how can this child study well if he does this? After not going to school for one day, I was lying at home playing with my mobile phone. My mother was so angry that she threw the mobile phone to the ground. When the parents come home from get off work in the evening, the child is no longer in the room. The whole family, relatives and friends went out together and finally found him. Fortunately, nothing serious happened. Mom and Dad were very anxious and kept mumbling: \”Don\’t do stupid things, this kid. I didn\’t say anything big. When we were young, we were often beaten by our parents, but we didn\’t dare to run away from home.\” From then on? From now on, parents will not dare to be arrogant in front of their children. After all, they only have one child. The things that rebellious children do on the Internet now make parents regret it. Parents have even given up their previous ambitions to raise their children to be whatever kind of person they want. Now their only wish is that as long as their children are safe, they will be the happiest. Those born in the 1980s were beaten since childhood, but they are mentally healthy. Why are children today so fragile? Differences in growing environments are important factors in the healthy mental growth of children. Why are children born in the 1980s so mentally strong? This has a lot to do with the growth environment of their generation. The childhood of those born in the 1980s is a carefree time. Most of them go to elementary school at the age of 8. Many of them have no experience in kindergarten. Parents can almost completely care for their children. Children at that time walked to school by themselves and rarely went home after school. They would go into groups of three or five. After being crazy enough outside, they would go home to eat amidst the shouts of adults. There is almost no homework, and I have never heard of \”attending interest classes\”. There is no pressure to enter a higher school, and no parents\’ expectations for their children to succeed. Spending every day and night in happiness, of course, the child\’s psychology will be very healthy. . Nowadays, parents are so anxious and their children are under so much pressure. In order to have children, the first thing parents have to consider is whether they have the money to provide their children with the best education, whether the school district is ready, and whether they can go to the best school. Kindergarten, primary school, middle school, whether it can be admitted to a key university… Before a child is born, parents have already started planning such a journey of raising a child., however, parents do not seem to consider whether their children are willing or not. I have grown up in various \”comparisons\” between my parents. Other people\’s children can recite Tang poetry, how many other people\’s children have passed in the class, and which universities other people\’s children have attended. The children\’s growth environment is such a \”high pressure\” State, the string in the heart is also very tight. Once there is a strong external stimulus, the child will be nervous and it will easily break. The family education that parents give their children also determines their children\’s character traits. People born in the 1980s were very naive when they were children, because their parents did not have time to take care of their children in detail and gave them a lot of room to grow independently. Children have strong independence and ability to resist setbacks, and they cannot be defeated easily. In addition to their parents, most people born in the 1980s have brothers and sisters. Their brothers and sisters grew up together and have developed their ability to get along with others. Therefore, after entering society, they will also have very pleasant interpersonal relationships. As for the children born now, they are the only children in the family. They have been raised by their parents, for fear of feeling a little wronged. But it is precisely because of this that children have always had smooth sailing from childhood to adulthood and have absolute say in the family. Therefore, they cannot stand any setbacks after going out, and they cannot accept criticism and education from their family members. How to let children grow up mentally healthily is as important as letting children develop healthily physically. Our children should be very healthy physically and mentally, and both are indispensable. The birth of a child brings surprise and hope to parents. We should provide a healthy environment for the growth of children. Parents accompany their children to grow, build trust, and cultivate feelings. A strong and close parent-child relationship will make children feel more secure. We love our children very much, but we should not put all our time, energy, and money into them. Love that is too heavy will also be harmful to our children. On the premise of respecting their children, parents should give them more opportunities to exercise themselves, be role models for their children, bravely face difficulties and setbacks in life, and cultivate active and healthy children.