What should I do if my child is too sensitive and glassy? Smart parents know how to do this

\”Children can\’t always afford to lose, what should I do?\” Recently, my friend\’s three-year-old son Xingxing has entered a sensitive period of winning and losing. Whether he is playing with friends outside or playing with his sister at home, he is always eager to win. Every time I lost, I would make a fuss for a while and hide in my friends\’ arms to cry. At first, my friends always thought it was a child\’s mood, so they didn\’t pay much attention to it. It wasn\’t until a few days ago that Xingxing played a game with his sister at home that made his friend pay attention to his son\’s \”can\’t afford to lose\” mentality. Originally just for fun, the two siblings agreed to build the building blocks on a regular basis, and the winner would get the right to own the building blocks for a week. For this generous reward, both of them worked very hard, especially their son Xingxing, who tried his best without blinking an eye. But he was so eager to win, but in the end he was beaten to the punch by his bold and careful sister, and he unfortunately lost. Just when his friend thought it was funny, his son Xingxing looked very unhappy. He pushed down all the building blocks without saying a word, and scolded his sister: \”Smelly sister, I hate you…\” and even wanted to hit her. Fortunately, The friend pulled away just in time. After this incident, my friend could no longer ignore the child\’s competitiveness and was afraid that his son would have psychological problems. In fact, everyone has a competitive spirit, and it is human nature to want to win. But in worldly affairs, if you win, you lose. There are very few so-called victorious generals. The tight nerves and constant efforts behind them are beyond the imagination of ordinary people. Therefore, it is normal for children to want to win but cannot afford to lose. Parents do not need to worry too much. We only need to teach children to have a correct attitude and give them appropriate guidance. So, parents must do the following two things well~ Correct their children’s mentality about winning and losing. In life, when many parents see their children facing failure, they will rush to give their children a shot of chicken blood, so that the children can continue to work hard and strive for success. Make strict preparations. But this will virtually increase the child\’s pressure and competitiveness. In fact, when facing failure, the first thing parents should do is not to attack, but to teach their children to correct their mentality. I like Wu Chun\’s approach very much. Previously, his daughter NeiNei had her first ballet competition. Although she had trained hard since childhood, NeiNei, who was eager to win, lost in the end. Faced with such a result of the competition, although Wu Zun felt sorry for his daughter, he did not forcibly inject chicken blood and asked his daughter to stand up immediately, saying that she must win. Instead, he shared with his daughter his experience of losing 26-128 when he represented Brunei in a basketball match against China when he was young. Everyone will fail, and failure is just a small thing in life, don\’t care too much. Get up when you fall. We still have more opportunities and stages. Don’t be afraid of losing. It was precisely because of Wu Zun\’s heart-to-heart talks that NeiNei was able to maintain a peaceful mind in subsequent competitions. Even after 8 months, NeiNei participated in the competition again, but this time she didn\’t even make it to the finals. But compared to being sad about her grades, what’s surprising is that NeiNei’s mentality has changed a lot. She wrote on social platforms: “Sometimes we win, sometimes we learn new things.\” (Sometimes we can win, sometimes we can remember). I think, compared to my daughter winning prizes in competitions, it is only as a parent that my children can face winning or losing with a peaceful attitude. That’s what we want to see the most! After all, competitions often compete with one’s mentality. Only by not being afraid of losing can you win with a smile! Encouraging education makes children become more courageous the more they are frustrated. In fact, when children reach a certain age Age, and the phenomenon of not being able to lose that occurs with the emergence of self-awareness, are all temporary. As long as parents do not forcefully instill the concept of \”must win\” and provide guidance and encouragement, children can be cultivated in frustration education. Remember Alyssa Chia\’s My daughter Biao Biao was once a child who loved to win. When she was participating in a show, she was once doing a pull-up game. Biao Biao competed with peers of the same age. Under the atmosphere of the scene, every child was eager to win. However, In the end, Bubba was exhausted and fell off the horizontal bar first. As a result, the opponent won. Bubba, who lost the game, threw herself into her mother\’s arms and cried a little sadly. But in the face of her daughter\’s crying, Alyssa Chia understood the child\’s feelings very well. He always comforted Bibba: \”It\’s okay, you are great.\” After Bibba calmed down, he would patiently summarize the reasons for the failure with his daughter, and encourage her to eat more and practice more. Only in this way can the child wear it away little by little. The psychological burden caused by losing the game. Because winning with a smile and losing with a cry are actually the same, and it doesn’t matter much. As long as the child has a correct mentality and determines the goal of his efforts, no matter how big the difficulty is, he can overcome it one by one. .My child was extremely sensitive when he went to kindergarten. He was afraid of losing and losing face in front of his friends, so that even if he didn’t get the little red flower, he didn’t want to go to school the next day. Fortunately, the child’s father was there. He is very talented in guiding. He did not give rigid lectures or criticize him, but took his children to watch him arm wrestling with his friends. During this period, the children watched their father lose again and again, but they still laughed happily and fought in Vietnam. Yue Yong, finally accidentally won a hand. As he watched, his obsession with winning and losing began to loosen, and he was no longer afraid of going to school. Therefore, a child\’s winning or losing is temporary and eternal. What is more important is the frustration education that parents give them. These are the weapons that children can hold in their hands forever. I hope that parents can treat their children\’s winning and losing attitudes calmly and treat every loss as an experience opportunity for their children. An opportunity for them to know themselves and continue to grow. In the process of raising children, we will always encounter various difficulties. Whether it is the meticulous care of physical development on the surface, or the deep-seated growth and progress of mental health… For parents For us, it is all a spiritual practice. But no matter how bumpy the road of spiritual practice is, we must give our children the strength to move forward. From facing the children who cannot afford to lose, to guiding the children to correct their mentality, to helping the children find their way forward. Strength, calmly face \”success and failure\” in all aspects of life ~ these are the things that parents should give their children the most. Let us encourage each other and work together to cultivate children who are not afraid of challenges and failures!