What should I do if my child procrastinates on homework? A smart mother will teach you \”3 steps\” to completely cure it [Practical]

When my daughter was in elementary school, she was always procrastinating on her homework, and she often couldn\’t finish it until nine o\’clock in the evening. I also know that she takes too long to do her homework, so whenever I get a chance, I stare at her and ask her to hurry up and do her homework. I yelled, scolded, and even coaxed and lied countless times, but it usually didn\’t take more than a week for me to get better, and then I was back to my original form. Her father and I didn\’t come up with a good solution at that time, and the \”stubborn problem\” of procrastinating homework lasted until she graduated from elementary school. When I entered middle school, I realized that this problem was getting more and more serious. Homework often had to be done after ten o\’clock, sometimes even until eleven o\’clock, and it was almost midnight when I went to bed. When asked why she was so slow, she innocently took out her homework book and said it was because she had a lot of homework. Looking at it, there are indeed a lot of homeworks written down densely. There are an average of three or four homeworks for each subject in Chinese, Mathematics, and English, which adds up to more than ten. But does it really take so much time? After the school\’s mid-term exam, a parent-teacher meeting was organized. I chatted with the mother at the same table as my daughter and found out that her daughter could finish her homework at seven or eight o\’clock every night. The head teacher sent each parent a separate report card with class and grade rankings. I glanced at it quietly and saw that my deskmate’s ranking was second in grade! Looking at my daughter\’s ranking, she was ranked after the 100th grade. I quickly put away my daughter\’s report card. The gap is too big. Children from other families learn easily and get good grades. After the parent-teacher meeting, the head teacher retained me and said that my daughter often dozed off in class and had been discovered by the teacher several times. That\’s for sure. Even adults can\’t stand it. Going to bed after 11pm and getting up at 6am. I just went home in despair. Along the way, I was thinking, even if I don’t require my daughter to have the same excellent grades as her top academic classmates, at least I can’t exhaust my body by doing homework like this every day. It’s time to find countermeasures and take some action. When I got home, I thought about it in my mind, discussed it with my husband, and then called my daughter over. I told her that from now on, we will take a \”three-step\” approach to help you improve the efficiency of your homework. The first step is to make a homework plan – 1. Before doing homework every day, take two minutes to put the various homework to be completed in order; 2. Write the \”estimated start time\” next to each homework and \”estimated completion time\”; 3. After completing each assignment, promptly write \”actual start time\” and \”actual completion time\” next to it. Plan the time and let the children write on their own. As long as it is not too outrageous, even if the homework is done according to the plan and the homework has to be done at 11pm, there is no problem. The advantage of this is that parents do not need to be with their children all the time. I can do my own thing and take time to check on her from time to time to see if she has completed her homework as planned. To cultivate children\’s planning and time concepts, the first step is to be able to complete homework according to the plan, regardless of whether the time arrangement is reasonable. In fact, after implementing the first step for a while, I found that my daughter’s homework speed has been significantly accelerated. Difficulties in practical operation: In the first few days, my daughter refused to write a plan, after all, it would take extra time to go up. She thinks I have done my homework every dayIt\’s so late, why do you need to do more of this? At this time, parents must be firm and must let their children stick to the plan. You must know that everything is difficult at the beginning. Once the habit becomes natural, it will become easier and easier later on. The second step is to improve – after ensuring that the homework can be completed as planned every day, then look at the time to complete the homework and see where there is room for improvement. Based on the actual completion time of homework recorded by our daughter before, we can easily find that she spends too much time on math homework. For example, a set of exercise papers takes more than an hour. While she was doing math, I watched from the side and found that she had two problems: 1. She was not good at mental arithmetic and was afraid of making mistakes, so she was slow; 2. She spent more unnecessary time on draft paper. The problem of mental arithmetic can only be solved by practicing more and more. Scratch paper takes a lot of time because the teacher requires detailed steps on the test paper, so she habitually writes down every step on the scratch paper. I told her that the scratch paper is for you to read and you can skip the very simple steps. Analyze specific problems in detail, and it will be easy to solve them if you find the reasons. The third step is to make use of after-school time—the school’s after-school time, think of ways to make use of it. Because I learned that efficient students have completed most of their homework in school. I looked at my daughter’s homework plans, and some of them only take more than ten minutes to complete. If you can solve it in time after the teacher assigns it, you will have one less homework to do and you won’t have to think about it after you go home. I told my daughter that it is impossible for me to go to school with you. This step can only be solved by yourself. You can observe how your classmates use their spare time. The above three steps took a total of about three months. My daughter\’s homework efficiency has improved significantly. After one semester, it has become her habit to make plans before doing homework, and she no longer needs to remind me. Moreover, I feel that she has begun to have a sense of time management in other matters. For example, when washing her hair and taking a shower at night, she would set the countdown alarm clock herself and finish the task within 25 minutes. My daughter is now in the second grade of junior high school. In addition to Chinese, Mathematics, and English, the main courses include physics. However, she can complete her homework around nine o\’clock every day. If she has time, she can also read extracurricular books for a while, and then go to bed at ten o\’clock. Although I know that there are students in her class who have completed their homework earlier than her, but compared with her before, she has made great progress. I also reflected on why the \”difficult and complicated diseases\” that had not been solved before were finally completely cured this time? I think there are three reasons: 1. Parents must have enough patience. Children\’s progress does not happen overnight. They must give their children time to grow. If, as before, we expect that a scolding or a heart-to-heart talk can make children improve their homework speed, it is definitely unrealistic; 2. Parents should help their children find solutions, not Just making various requests. Children finish their homework so late every day, are already very tired, and have to be scolded by adults. In fact, they are the most distressed. But after all, children are still young and don’t have much experience. When they can’t think of any good ideas, they need some help from adults.Think of ways to help them; 3. The specific implementation is led by the children, and the parents are responsible for supervision and guidance. Every homework plan is made by my daughter herself. If I use a commanding tone and stipulate when she should complete what homework, she will definitely have great resistance and the effect of execution will be greatly reduced. Through this successful \”big transformation\”, my daughter\’s self-confidence has greatly increased. I also told her that mom is just here to help you with ideas, and this is the result you achieved through your own efforts. Now, her academic performance has improved a lot than before. What an unexpected but reasonable result!