What should I do if my children are not filial to their parents?

As the saying goes: \”Filial piety comes first among all good deeds.\” The ancients attached great importance to filial piety, and many kings advocated governing the country with filial piety. The story of the \”Twenty-four Filial Piety\” is widely circulated to this day. Nowadays, most parents pay more attention to their children\’s learning and want their children to become better. They often neglect to teach their children to be filial. A child\’s mind is born like a blank piece of paper, whatever the parents draw on it is what it is. Therefore, most of the reasons why children are unfilial lie with their parents. Take eating as an example. Maybe the parents made a mistake from the beginning when they served the food. 01 Meals are placed in the wrong place. As the saying goes: \”Poor parents in the world!\” Most parents want to give the best to their children, whether it is food or clothing. Therefore, the best dishes are often placed in front of children instead of elders. What\’s more, when you cook, you will let your children eat first. When they finish cooking, they are faced with the messy dishes and cups left by the children on the dinner table. All these habits will make children develop self-respect, and all the delicious food comes from their own thoughts. How can children who have grown up in this kind of environment for a long time not be selfish, and how can they remember to be filial to their parents? The mother of a single-parent family lived frugally but gave the best to her son. One day, the mother fried a plate of shrimps and placed it in front of her son, who ate it as if no one else was watching. In the end, there were only a few left, and the mother ate them. The son said, \”Spit it out for me, that\’s mine.\” Lu Qin said, \”In a family, if the parents put the dishes in the wrong place at the dinner table, there will be no future.\” Your place.\” Let children understand their parents\’ hard work and dedication from an early age, and learn to respect and love their parents. 02 Eating is a small matter, but rules are a big deal. Things at the dinner table, although small, can reflect a lot of things. Just like dewdrops, although they are small, they reflect the myriad colors of the world. Tell your children some [Stories of Chinese Characters + Essence of Chinese Studies + Historical Allusions + Chinese Sentences] Ultra-clear pdf: Children\’s gluttony at the dinner table is a small matter, but rules are a big deal. If the rules are broken, what rules can the children follow? It makes sense for the ancients to teach their children rules from a very young age, but nowadays parents pay less and less attention to rules, and there are more and more unfilial children. An 80-year-old woman whose husband passed away early had raised five children all by herself. Now the children are all married, and some even have grandchildren, but no one is willing to take care of their mother. It was freezing cold, and the children drove the old mother to live in the corridor, saying that there was no room for her at home. My mother couldn\’t help crying when she thought about the past. Neighbors with knowledge of the incident said that it was partly because of the ignorant children on the stall, but also because the old woman was too pampered with her children. Ever since the children were young, the mother would be busy cooking on the floor alone for meals at home. Before she was done, the children would start eating. Just because the mother is afraid that the food will get cold and the children will feel uncomfortable after eating it. By the time my mother came to the table to eat, the plates in front of her were basically all bottomed out. The mother also placed the last dish in front of the children, urging them to eat it. This habit continued when the children grew up. No one thought that the mother should eat first. If a child eats by himself first when eating, he does not consider his elders at all, and likes to pick and choose, putting all the dishes he likes in front of him. illustrateSuch a child is ill-bred and a selfish person. How likely is it that a child who is selfish when it comes to food will be filial when he grows up? Therefore, children’s rules should be taught starting from eating. Kong Rong was able to make pears at the age of four. Respecting the elderly and caring for the young is a traditional virtue of the Chinese nation, and it is a virtue that needs to be passed down from generation to generation by children. The famous educator Lu Qin said: \”What is love? Love is a pocket. Putting it inside is a sense of satisfaction, and taking it out is a sense of accomplishment and happiness. To make children happy throughout their lives, they must learn to give.\” It\’s a pity. Yes, most parents today just give love to their children blindly, but do not give their children the opportunity to learn to love. 03 Cultivating filial children starts from the dining table. \”The Book of Rites\” says: \”At the beginning of husband\’s etiquette, food begins.\” Eating and other life behaviors are the most frequent and effective teachings in family education, so we must pay attention to them. 1. Wait for the elders to use chopsticks. Professor Li Meijin said: \”Overcoming children\’s selfishness starts with eating. Children must wait for their elders to come to the table before they can use chopsticks.\” Hungry for an hour will not spoil the child, but it will teach him to respect the elderly. . Hunger is the most unbearable and basic suffering. Only by letting the child experience it can he take the pain of others into his heart. 2. When placing good food in front of the elders, never give special care to your children and let them dominate you. This starts from the time when the food is served. Put good food in front of the elders to let the children understand who is the most important person in the family and that the elders deserve our care and special treatment. Instead of putting it in front of the child and letting the child eat it all. The new curriculum standard is synchronized with primary school students\’ extracurricular reading \”The Wandering Child Remembers Good Words and Good Sentences\” in full color and ultra-clear pdf 3. Don\’t eat in a mess at the dinner table. Disregard the feelings of others, eat loudly, pick and choose food, and leave food everywhere on the table. , this is also a manifestation of selfishness. If you don’t regard other people’s feelings as your own, it will be difficult to put yourself in their shoes in the future. 4. Help clean up the dishes after meals. Don’t leave all the cleaning to yourself. Make sure your children are involved and let them understand that they are a member of the family and that they have the obligation to do any household chores. Especially children who can tolerate dirty work such as cleaning up the dishes can tolerate other housework. Unfilial children must have accumulated over the years, especially in small matters such as eating. Only by giving children more education can we raise filial children. Loving a child does not mean treating him in a special way, but treating him in a normal way without giving him any wrong impressions. Therefore, if you don’t want your child to become an unfilial son in the future, you must start from a young age, starting with the rules at the dinner table, and ensuring that the elders and younger ones are in an orderly manner. Don\’t mess with the rules and ruin your children and yourself! Click [Like], and I hope that parents all over the world can raise filial children, and that the family will be harmonious and happy.