What should I do if my children are too lazy to do their homework because they love to play with their mobile phones? Try these tips!

A few days ago, I came across a letter that I had saved in my mailbox a long time ago. My child always likes to dawdle, and it seems that he can’t hear me at all unless I yell. When watching TV at home, I ask him to stop watching the cartoon after one episode, and he I agreed very well, but after watching the show, I still kept watching it. If I forced it to turn off, I would lose my temper, kick the wall, and sometimes even kick my mother. At this time, as a mother, I would violently punish the child or yell at the child. I am very tired from work during the day and have no patience when I get home. The child likes to play with mobile phones. If I don’t pay attention, he will take mine. I play with my mobile phone because I take care of him alone. Sometimes I take him to my workplace when my child is not in school. At this time, we are busy with work and have no other friends to play with, so I can only use my mobile phone to coax him to play with me. Don\’t make trouble in the workplace! Nowadays, my child loves to play with mobile phones so much. I feel really helpless. Sometimes I have no patience with him at all. I beat him, scold him, threaten him, and tell him to leave him at his grandparents’ house. I know that this is not good, but The child still said it when he was disobedient. In the morning, it takes dozens of minutes to get up after sleeping in, and I can’t finish my meal in half an hour. I just keep taking it a while! When I look at other people’s girls, I envy them for being smart and well-behaved. Why can’t boys just listen to their mothers? If you don’t pay attention, you won’t listen carefully when the teacher is in class, and you won’t be able to concentrate on the teacher! I don’t know whether to do my own thing or not, I always want my mother to do it for me! Now I feel like I don’t know how to educate my children at all! Saw the above letter. It can be said that the worries of being a parent now are all gathered together. “The child is dawdling and disobedient”, “the child likes to play with mobile phones”, “the child is inattentive”, “the child wants the mother to do the work but does not take the initiative” and then the result is the mother’s self-denial: “I feel like I don’t know how to educate the child at all!” Seriously! , don’t rush to blame the child for the problem. Of course, the more important thing is not to deny yourself so quickly. The problem should be found and then solved. Finding the problem is more laborious. Because we are used to seeing other people’s problems and ignoring our own. So in the eyes of parents, it seems that their children have a lot of problems. I just forgot to reflect on myself. Let’s analyze from the above letter: Let’s first talk about the problem of children’s love of playing with mobile phones. I feel that once a parent raises this issue, the root cause must be with the adults. Once it starts, it will be difficult to control it. Because I take care of him alone, sometimes I take him to my workplace when my child is not in school. At this time, we are busy with work and have no other friends to play with, so I can only use my mobile phone to coax him to stop making trouble in the workplace. ! Parents feel that mobile phones can function as electronic nannies to soothe their children. But the kids didn’t buy it. They need more experiences and then slowly become addicted. Parents should face up to the function of mobile phones themselves: \”It is a tool used by adults to communicate.\” They should also let their children understand it as early as possible and then adhere to this principle. First tell him this is for adults. Just like cosmetics are what mom likes. Dad used the razor. These children cannot be used casually as toys. Let children have this sense of boundaries – mobile phones are parents\’ tools and cannot be used casuallyJust move. In addition, don’t let your children find too many fun things on their mobile phones. If you open the app market and there are thousands of games, how can you resist? Even if there is no other way sometimes, just play one or two stand-alone games. The advantage of these games is that after playing them for a long time, children will stop playing them. For example, Xiao Xiaoyu no longer plays with the crocodile bath on my mobile phone. Many mothers will say how to comfort their children when they are bored or noisy? I think it’s better to show him a high-quality cartoon than playing on a mobile phone. It is also recommended to cultivate children\’s interest in reading, so that children can allocate some time to books. There are actually many types of books to choose from. If you don\’t have time to tell stories, you can choose a fun floor book or game book for him to play with. All you have to do is set the questions, and your children can play for a long time. And if the child can read a lot of words, he can also read the questions on his own. Therefore, if children love to play with mobile phones, putting the responsibility on them is really a mistake. Are they born to play with mobile phones? About the dilly dallying of children. I summarized it, there are probably several reasons: 1. Why are children slow? Sometimes it’s not that the child deliberately procrastinates, but that the child really doesn’t know how to do it. 2. The child wants to continue to stay in his favorite space or game, so he will not respond to your commands. 3. The child is used to your urging mode. Only when you get angry and lose your temper proves that it is really time to move. 4. Children simply don’t want to do things that they don’t like or that are a bit embarrassing, because we are all “lazy” ourselves. Most of children\’s dilly-dallying is related to their parents\’ guidance. When facing children, you have to ask yourself, are you too anxious? Is the child really ready? The more parents reflect, the more peaceful they will be. Four simple steps to deal with your child’s troubles. When your child tries to do it, let it go. This is an attitude that parents should have, learn to let go. When your child needs independence, don\’t hold him tightly. When your child is doing it, please watch, don’t replace it. Helping your child complete the task will definitely gain temporary convenience, but raising a child who has no independent opinions and relies on his parents to make the final decision on everything may not necessarily be a good thing in the long run. Provide help when the child needs it, or set an example for the child. Letting go does not mean letting go, nor does it mean leaving things alone. Parents find their true selves as they grow up, and they also help their children pursue their ideals. When you need to establish a sense of rules, please don\’t say let go. For the establishment of children\’s sense of rules, one must practice what one preaches. If you say you want to watch one episode, it is just one episode. Make an agreement in advance and slowly let the children develop a sense of self-management. When your child achieves success, encourage him or her. Confident children are more able to try bravely, allow children to make mistakes, and actively encourage children. When a child\’s positive behavior becomes a habit. They will run consciously on their own track. Just like every planet has its own orbit, you cannot use external forces to interfere roughly with it. Hitting and scolding is not the most effective method of discipline, so you must control your emotions. The calmer you are, the greater your power. As a parent, you need to have enough patience! This is the most testing time.