What should I do if my children don’t like to use their brains to think?

Speaking of laziness, do you think of your children? There is a type of child who is characterized by laziness, and that is the average student. The laziness of the average student is not in behavior, he will still do the homework that needs to be completed. The laziness of average students is more about laziness in thinking and laziness in the brain. Intermediate students will basically not be able to do things that require thinking, such as wrong question papers, test paper analysis, and deliberate practice. So why are children too lazy to use their brains? What should parents do if they want their children to develop the habit of active thinking? The characteristics of the brain determine that people are lazy. In fact, it is not a problem, it is just a normal thing. Because the characteristic of the human brain is laziness, from the perspective of evolutionary psychology, it is actually detrimental to survival if people are too diligent. In primitive times, humans faced problems of food scarcity and energy shortage. In order to survive better, the primitive instinct of the brain will allow us to conserve physical strength and energy as much as possible. Thinking with your brain consumes a lot of energy. For example, if children in middle school or high school are in day school, parents may find that their children often cry out that they are hungry when they get home. Obviously they do very little physical exercise, why is it still like this? Although the human brain only accounts for about 3% of the body\’s weight, it consumes more than 20% of the energy in a day. Therefore, mental work consumes a lot of energy, and it is actually very normal to be unwilling to use your brain. So when will people instinctively use their brains to think? That\’s when you encounter an unknown problem. Human beings are born with curiosity. Driven by curiosity, we will instinctively want to study and explore. But once there is an answer to this question, the thinking process stops, even if the answer is not one that I came up with. Why are children too lazy to think? In fact, it was the answers he was used to getting easily. Learning is something that requires the use of the brain. The higher the grade, the more children need to think proactively. If you don’t have the habit of thinking, even if you give your children tutoring, it will not be effective. What kind of child is too lazy to think about problems when they encounter problems? That is the substitution of parents’ thinking. The most typical process of replacing the problem in thinking is to directly tell the child the answer or problem-solving ideas when explaining the problem. Not only parents, but many teachers and cram school teachers also like to do this kind of thing, which is to directly give children answers or ideas for them to memorize, instead of guiding children to think on their own. Some parents do false guidance. What\’s the meaning? Even if the child is asked to think about it before talking about the topic, but if the child still says that he can\’t think of it, the parent will still tell him directly. When a child can easily get an answer just by saying no, when he encounters a problem, will he think about it on his own, or will he shake his head and say no? Over time, he will only become mentally dependent and unwilling to think by himself. So why do parents rush to give answers instead of letting their children think for themselves? This is actually because parents don’t believe in their children and feel that they can’t think of it themselves; and many parents are eager for quick success and have no patience. The process of finding answers through your own thinking is relatively slow. And in this process, it is difficult for children to find the correct answer at once.He may get it wrong once, twice, ten times… When they see their children struggling with a question for half an hour, or even unable to figure it out for several days, many parents will become anxious and anxious, and then they can\’t help but want to intervene. I want him to find the answer quickly. Parents who are good at teaching their children time management methods have done these 5 points. Staying in confusion for a while actually makes the children think faster instead of slower. Because the child stumbles at the beginning and finds the idea bit by bit, this process will make him even more impressed. You tell him the question, and although he solved it quickly this time, he still needs you to tell him the next time he encounters the same question, or changes the question to think about. Maybe a knowledge point needs to be explained to him more than ten times. In the short term, letting him think for himself is slower. But under the guidance of his parents, he can form his own ideas by studying each link and breaking through each stuck point. Maybe he studied one problem all day long, but he probably solved this type of problem. From a long-term perspective, what is slow in the early stages can actually be faster in the end. So what should parents do in this process? When a child encounters a problem, let him stay in confusion for a while and don\’t rush to give an answer. What parents have to do is to guide their children\’s thinking. From reading the question, to which knowledge point the question tests, to how to use the knowledge point, to how to solve the question, parents should guide their children\’s thinking step by step during the entire process. A very important point in this process is that parents must be emotionally stable. Children will also be anxious and emotional when encountering difficulties, so parents must keep their emotions stable and not be led by their children\’s emotions. The human brain has two characteristics. One is to save energy and try not to use the brain. The other is to instinctively want answers when encountering problems. And some children are used to getting answers easily, and then they don\’t want to think about problems when they encounter them. What kind of child is too lazy to think? It’s a replacement in thinking. If you want your children to think proactively, what parents have to do is to let their children stay in confusion for a while when they encounter problems, and then guide them to think on their own.