What should we do when our children say they don’t want to learn?

A few days ago, my son was playing Logic Dog, and one page of questions was a bit difficult. He was there calling daddy, daddy, come. I was busy cooking at the time, so I said I would take a look first. \”No, I can\’t.\” \”Then leave it there for now. Dad will take a look at it later.\” When I washed my hands and went to look for him, the little guy pouted and said. \”Dad, I don\’t want to study anymore!\” Almost all parents will encounter this problem. If our children don’t want to learn, what should we do? \”Let dad take a look first, don\’t worry.\” I patiently took it over and took a look. It turned out that the question had a few detours. My son doesn’t know much about literacy, so it’s really difficult for him to learn on his own. I thought to myself that I couldn’t just give up on learning, but I didn’t say it explicitly. He comforted him and said, \”It\’s a bit difficult. Dad will explain the topic clearly to you next time. That\’s it. That\’s it for today. Let\’s play something else.\” He went to play happily. Many times, children say they don’t want to learn. We will hear answers like this from our parents: \”No need to discuss, we have the final say, hurry up and learn from me.\” \”Okay, okay, honey, we won\’t learn anymore.\” \”You are really stupid. All your classmates have learned, and you are the only one.\” No.\” Very few parents look for reasons within themselves, nor do they take into account the reasons behind their children\’s words. Instead, they hastily passed the responsibility onto their children. Anyway, if the child says he doesn’t want to learn, then he won’t learn well. Don’t blame me. Last time I had dinner at my aunt\’s house, my grandma happened to be there too. We talked about my aunts who didn’t read much when they were young, so they were having a hard time now. At that time, my grandma said, \”She didn\’t know how to study. When I asked her to study, she said she wanted to work.\” I saw my aunt\’s eyes were red, and she said, \”My family is so poor. Everyone knows that we have no money to study, and you don\’t want us to study in your heart, so working is the way out.\” Of course, the whole village was poor at that time. ,it is known. But my grandma said it was my aunt who didn’t study. After hearing this many years later, my aunt still felt uncomfortable. Everyone hopes to be truly understood, especially by their parents. Many times when children understand their parents, parents often fail to understand their children\’s hearts. For example, if a child\’s expressive ability is poor and his language organization ability is weak, his parents do not look for the reasons, but quietly tell others that my child\’s intellectual development is a bit slow and there is nothing that can be done about it! For example, if a child doesn\’t like picture books and stories, never reads books, and only likes cartoons, parents don\’t look for the reasons themselves, saying that their children don\’t like to read, and they don\’t like to read by nature. There\’s nothing they can do! When a child says he doesn’t want to learn, parents should see if it’s their fault. Do you understand the child from the child\’s perspective? Learning is never easy, but it can be fun. Some parents will say that if they study hard, will their children be happy? If you do what you like, you will feel happy no matter how hard it is, isn\’t it? I find that two of the things kids love to do most is \”play games\” and listen to stories. Remember, teaching cannot be forced at any time. For learning, striving to arouse children\’s interest in learning is more important than anything else. Parents should make their children feel that learning is a happy thing. Cultivating children\’s interest in learning as early as possible can often start with reading. I remember that at that time, to cultivate my son’s interest in reading, I would often add somePerformance. When I read \”Guess How Much I Love You\” to him, I would imitate the big rabbit in the book on the bed, jumping up and down, and he would laugh every time. When reading animal picture books, I would pretend to be various animals, imitate the sounds of animals, and try every means to make him find it interesting. When he was four years old, he was interested in word recognition, so I gave him hieroglyphic word cards. He first looked at the pictures and then read the words. Finally, we make the words into a story and tell it to him, not just the meaning of the words, but the meaning of the words and the story behind the words. Moreover, we can also draw some literacy cards ourselves, mark the names, and post them at home, which can strengthen the children\’s impression. In this way, the child will like to read words, because he likes to play! And also likes to listen to stories. The best way to arouse children\’s interest is the \”game\” + \”story\” method. Many parents will encourage their children to study hard so that they can make a lot of money in the future. Children often have no idea about this, and they still think that my family has money, or I don’t want money. Does that mean we should stop studying hard? There are also parents who will give their children some rewards, such as a trip or a prize based on their ranking in the exam. If a child is really aiming for these external goals rather than being driven by his inner self, it will be difficult for him to make sustained efforts. When your child is young, you can simply tell him that learning is a very interesting thing. It can make you powerful. For example, if you want to study a dinosaur, you need to learn about dinosaurs first, otherwise you won\’t know about dinosaur fossils. Of course, teaching by words and deeds is more important. If you read often, your children will also read your books. One day, I caught my son looking through my book. He said he wanted to see what was inside. I said that you can\’t understand this book yet, but dad can understand it. That\’s because dad has studied it for many, many years. Come on! What an interesting book, I really hope you read it. When he is full of eagerness to learn and explore everything, the door of interest is opened and everything becomes easier. It is very important to let children know that learning is something that requires hardship. When a child is motivated by interest, he or she needs to make persistent efforts to achieve his or her goals. In our family, learning is a big life theme. So after we have a great time, we will remind each other: it’s time to study. In addition to reading picture books, my son also studies English, mathematics, Chinese studies and art. I never thought about how well he would learn, I just wanted to enrich his life. Of course, he would sometimes say, \”Dad, I\’m really tired!\” Then I would tell you to take a rest and play for a while. He will also say, \”Dad, I don\’t want to learn anymore.\” Then you play for a while and learn later. We worked together to make a weekly curriculum so that we would not forget what we learned every day. Because I\’m afraid that if I get busy, I will disrupt my child\’s rhythm and habits. Once, a friend saw it and said, \”It\’s too strict for you to make a curriculum for such a young child.\” \”No, look at it. It\’s mainly for me. The content is based on the child\’s interests and Come to the rhythm.\” \”Then what if he doesn\’t learn?\” \”Of course there are reasons why he doesn\’t learn. Sometimes it\’s because he wants to play, sometimes he\’s in a bad mood, and sometimes he finds it too difficult. Then just do itJust communicate with him. \”Then communication is useless?\” \”Then we need to check. Why do children learn?\” What\’s your attitude? Is the child\’s interest in learning really aroused? Because every child pursues excellence at the beginning and hopes to become stronger and better. But later on, everyone worked in a different direction and the path was different. \”Many times, parents\’ various demands for learning become a way of torturing their children. That will only make the children resist. Therefore, when a child says he doesn\’t want to learn, parents have to find a way to figure out the reason behind the child\’s words. When a child When you say that studying is too hard, please tell your children: Happiness without hard work will not last long, no matter how beautiful you imagine; happiness without sweat is unreal. You must study hard when you are young, so that you can climb the peak and see better things in the future. Landscape.\” Many years later, we found that those children who didn\’t want to learn and didn\’t learn often regretted why they didn\’t persist for a while. In fact, even if you let go of the so-called success, return to the essence. Everyone hopes to live with dignity and find their own value. Because a sense of dignity and worth will make you feel happy. But these are related to sweat. Looking around, behind every outstanding child stands a parent who works harder.