What should you teach your boys when raising them?

Understanding the real world Ever since the second young master’s favorite English teacher went to another school this semester, the new female teacher has been making him depressed. At the dinner table, I often hear the second young master complaining that this English teacher\’s lectures are boring and monotonous, but he actually teaches their sophomore students elementary school content. Taking her class every day is a waste of time and a torture. Finally one day, I received an email from this teacher. The second young master fell asleep in class. Sleeping in class is a great disrespect to the teacher. In China, when I was in high school, if someone dared to sleep in class, he would be punished with a precise and cruel slap in the face, plus a lot of vitriolic cynicism. In public high schools in the United States, teachers are much gentler and more patient with students who sleep in class and are not obedient. He won\’t hit people, but he won\’t necessarily criticize or feel disgusted. He may even try his best to give as many bad reviews as possible. It is a warning, a lesson, a declaration of war, and it also lets students know who is the boss in the teacher\’s territory. A bad relationship with a teacher will only lead to greater trouble and a worse situation. Sure enough, something more serious happened. Two days ago, this English teacher sent me an email. It said that the most recent English writing piece could not be given points. Last week, the second young master forgot to log out of his account when he was editing his article on the school computer. As a result, I was locked by a classmate\’s prank. My account could not be opened for a week, and my article could not be submitted on time. In his hasty article, he did not cite the source of other people\’s words. Whether Er Shao intended it or not, this article was qualitatively plagiarized by the teacher. The second young master felt very aggrieved. In a similar situation, other students had no trouble at all, but his article could not score points. After patiently listening to the Second Young Master\’s statement about the causes and consequences, my old man Yun Danfengqing told him with great foresight and sympathy. Welcome to the magical, exciting and unknown real world. The unfairness is frustrating. However, in real life, injustice is everywhere like viruses and bacteria. If you want to avoid viruses and bacteria, you can only eat more garlic, exercise more, drink more boiled water and sweat more. By improving your own immunity and resistance to frustration, you will be immune to all kinds of poisons, be able to handle yourself with ease, and remain invincible. In addition, I am seriously incomprehensible that Er Shao, who often writes his own blog and serves as my English proofreader, would make such low-level writing mistakes. There is no need to escape and face setbacks proactively. Instead of complaining and lamenting, and putting yourself in a negative mood to waste precious time, it is better to turn disadvantages into motivation and become the fuel to propel yourself forward. The magic weapon to deal with unfairness is to work harder, pay more attention to details, respect the rules more, and take the initiative to improve the relationship with the teacher. Many times, we are blinded by our habitual way of thinking without realizing it. When habits bring disadvantages and setbacks, it is time to change habits and break the current situation. When you encounter problems or troubles, it is also an excellent opportunity to look at yourself and evaluate yourself. Change brings thinking and progress, but also new tests. The courage to accept challenges is a necessary condition for growth. Time is the best teacher. As long as we have enough patience, time will become our friend. anotherLooking at the problem from a perspective, most people will take the initiative to increase the halo of people they like and admire, and create moving plots in their minds. No matter what he does, it is always right, noble and admirable. But for those who we don’t like very much, who we can’t stand, whose views are inconsistent with ours, who don’t belong to us, we will treat them with a critical eye, a harsh attitude, and a matter-of-fact attitude, even no matter what they do. Incorrect. This is the limitation, narrowness, darkness and trap of human nature. Preconceptions are the enemy of self-growth. If you understand human nature, you will know that it is impossible to write a script in real life according to your own preferences. Therefore, if you encounter a southern wall, encounter embarrassment, meet annoying people, meet people who cause trouble for you, meet people who despise you, or even meet people who trip you up, it is not a fall. Weird things that are worth the fuss about. If you have never experienced dire straits, depression, and loss, and have been squeezed, beaten, oppressed, and tempered by life in various names, then your life will be a pool of stagnant water, and it will be impossible to burst out with brilliance. A life in a pool of stagnant water is equivalent to a life that has not been lived. Of course, there are indeed big problems with this teacher\’s teaching, and she has received complaints from some classmates and parents. She herself announced in class that these few months would be her last period in this school. She has been asked by the school to resign. Each of us may have made wrong choices and regrettable decisions while growing up. It may also offend and offend people intentionally or unintentionally. However, if you look at problems and people from another angle, plum blossoms are less white than snow, but snow is less fragrant than plum blossoms. Only by learning to learn from the strengths of people you don\’t like and becoming a beam of light can you dispel the darkness of human nature. Whichever choice you make, there will be consequences. Crisis is also a turning point. Brian Tracy once said, \”Life is composed of various crises. About every three months, we will encounter a crisis. In our lives, we are either dealing with a crisis or on the way to a crisis.\” Every crisis is also an opportunity. Because all lessons and growth come from dealing with crises. When you emerge from the crisis, you will have new capabilities. After the wind and rain, there will be a rainbow; after the cold winter, there will be spring with hundreds of flowers blooming. Gratitude is the source of happiness. To be honest, children should be taught as early as possible to sincerely thank those who make our life more difficult. Without them as negative teaching materials, how can we cherish those who unconditionally appreciate us, trust us and help us? ! If you have not experienced any disease, you will not deeply understand the beauty of health. Without pain, setbacks, and ups and downs, one cannot understand how hard-won everything is. Without experiencing the biting cold wind of winter, you will not appreciate and embrace the preciousness of the colorful spring season. Many parents spend their entire lives trying to create a comfortable and comfortable environment for their children to prevent them from experiencing the slightest life experiences and difficulties. Let their world be as high as a foot and as wide as the bottom of a well. But little do they know that the bright fruits of life are not produced in greenhouses and conservatories, the meaning of life cannot be obtained through doting, and the ability to live in the world cannot be obtained through pampering.Produced by the constant care of parents. Being over-protected is a symptom of over-protection. Stress, responsibility, failure, frustration, tears, and sometimes despair are all painful. However, these experiences are the only way to a wonderful life. They are often disguised blessings, prepared to be given to those warriors who dare to face challenges and face life head-on. Just like the cold plum blossoms facing the wind and snow, no matter how harsh the environment is, they still go all out to bloom beautifully and wonderfully regardless of their own safety. Teenagers who do not seek perfection, but only seek to grow into adolescence, often think that they can see the overall situation and think that they can handle and deal with any problem. However, perseverance and resilience can only be tempered through various trials and errors. If you make the wrong choice, you have to bear the consequences of the mistake. There is no need to complain, blame, escape, look for scapegoats, or be depressed. All we have to do is move forward with all our strength, forget what is behind, and work hard on what is ahead. There is never a perfect person in the world. The pursuit of perfection brings comparison, and comparison brings envy and comparison. Jealousy and comparison are destructive weapons that destroy your own happiness. Parents should always be aware that children are the best gift God has given us, not a tool for comparison and showing off. We can accompany each other, learn from each other, and enjoy family happiness in this life. It is really the most beautiful chapter in life. However, the pursuit of perfection can easily lead parents into control, coercion, high pressure and agency, destroying all the fun of getting along. Not striving for perfection does not mean indulgence and neglect of discipline, but a reminder of teaching, understanding and high-quality companionship. There are no two identical leaves in the world, let alone unique children. Encourage children to be brave enough to take responsibility for themselves, to clearly understand their own limitations, and to be confident in their own uniqueness and differences. Life is about discovering yourself and being the best version of yourself. Imperfection is the expression of true temperament, and imperfection brings progress and hard work.