What to do if your child has no motivation to study

There are more and more children and parents coming into contact with, and the problems are all kinds of strange, but the core problems fall into a few categories. The problems you have with your children also exist in other families. There is no need to be afraid of problems. If you cannot face the problem squarely and prescribe the right medicine, the problem will become more and more serious. The first question Doudehui will talk about today is what most parents are most concerned about: What should I do if my children have no motivation to learn? Why should you first know where the motivation to learn comes from? Why do children lose motivation to learn? Learning motivation generally comes from three aspects: interest, achievement, and fear. Interest is the best teacher. If a child is interested in something, he will do it automatically without having to raise his whip. For example, there is no need to rush when playing games. Achievement is also a source of motivation. If a child can learn well and become a top student in primary school, he will be motivated to work harder and perform better. This is a virtuous cycle. Fear is the worst way. People seek advantages and avoid disadvantages, and children may learn because of fear of punishment. However, if you only use coercion, inducement, and sticks, he will be more likely to rebel, skip school, and completely oppose you. Even if a few can learn well, they are also very prone to mental illness. Nowadays, more and more junior high school students and high school students suffer from psychological depression due to this. (The most extreme case is the matricide case of Peking University students.) If a child cannot feel happiness and a sense of academic achievement when studying, he will not have the motivation to learn. Therefore, as a parent, what you really have to do is: stimulate your child\’s interest in learning and improve your child\’s learning ability. What does it take to stimulate interest? Interest is innate to all children. Every child is full of curiosity about the world when he is young. There are a hundred thousand reasons why. If you can take advantage of the situation, encourage him to think about questions, and help him find answers together, he will become more and more interested. On the contrary, if you always sneer at the questions he raises, laugh at him, and dislike him. Slowly, he will feel that he is really stupid and ridiculous. He will lose confidence and interest, dare not ask questions in class, and give up easily when encountering difficulties. Therefore, when it comes to children’s interests, not destroying them means cultivating them. But this is not enough. Excellent parents will exert a subtle influence on their daily lives and help their children improve their interests. For example, taking your children to museums, exhibition halls, libraries, traveling more, and getting closer to nature can help them improve their horizons, expand their ideas, and cultivate various interests and hobbies. Especially taking your children to visit well-known universities, even just once, may plant a seed in the child\’s heart and inspire him to keep working hard. 5 documentaries to improve children\’s learning motivation. If these are expensive, the simplest and most economical way is to watch documentaries. Travel around the world without leaving home. The child is a copy of the parent. If parents like to read books, their children will be infected and will never leave their hands. If their parents only play mahjong and play with mobile phones every day, their children will follow suit. If parents think that learning is a chore and don\’t work hard, but only force their children to study every day, they will certainly find it very boring and hate learning more and more. Learning is a journey of exploration and discovery, as well as a tourplay. Only by having fun doing it can you become a true academic master. What does it take to improve learning ability? Knowledge does not equal ability. The vast majority of parents only focus on how much knowledge their children have learned, such as how many poems they have memorized, how many words they have memorized, and how many questions they can solve? … If you think knowledge is learning, you are going in the wrong direction. Because there is no limit to knowledge and the types of questions are ever-changing, it is impossible to learn them all. The essence of learning is to improve children\’s learning ability and master the learning methods to solve problems faster and better. Focusing only on knowledge will turn into cramming. You tell him eight hundred times, and he will forget it the next day and still can\’t do the question. If a child does not have the ability to learn, it is like trying to catch water with a leaky bucket. Of course, the more he studied, the less motivated he was to learn. How to improve learning ability? Remember this secret – go from easy to hard. Learning must be something that cannot be learned. But why can some children learn it and some cannot? Because the teacher\’s lectures are based on the average level, for students with poor acceptance, the teacher teaches too fast. For example, there are ten knowledge points in a lesson. Some children are already familiar with seven or eight points and can easily learn them all in one go. Some children have a weak foundation and are only familiar with three or four. Of course, they cannot understand or keep up in class. What to do with children who are slow to learn? Please remember the advice given to you by Teng Teng’s dad: It doesn’t matter how fast you learn. It’s important to know whether you are fast or slow. Finding a learning rhythm that suits you is the most important. There are three zones in learning: comfort zone, learning zone, and panic zone. If you find it difficult to learn, it means that knowledge is in your panic zone. At this time, you have to break down the big problem into small problems, divide and conquer them, and defeat them one by one. You don\’t want to learn it quickly, but you only want to learn one knowledge point at a time. If you just work steadily and step by step like this, you can successfully reach the finish line. When it comes to learning, haste makes waste, and biting off more than you can chew. Because your steps are small, you can do it every step of the way, you have a sense of accomplishment at every step, and you can see positive feedback. The more times you succeed, the more confidence you will gain and the more motivation you will have to continue doing well. Success leads to success. This is a learning method and a life secret. Why are children not motivated to study? One is because there is no interest, and the other is because there is no positive feedback. As a parent, coercion and inducement are useless. You must use scientific methods to help your child gradually regain his confidence in learning, so that he can continue to see the results of his efforts and feel the sense of accomplishment in learning, so that he is willing to continue learning. Even if it is a game, if the child is the first to be eliminated every time, he will definitely not be willing to play the game. The game also requires learning, everything needs learning, life is a game. Those who can find the fun of gaming in real life are truly great people. A low score in the exam is not a failure; only when you completely admit defeat, give up studying, and lie flat is the real failure.