What will happen to a cursed child?

This is a true story: There was a pastor and his wife in Portland, Oregon, USA. They have a son who brings them many troubles. Not only that, his son ran away from home very early and has been cut off from his parents for three or four years. So the pastor found a psychological counselor and told him about his pain. After a brief communication, the counselor looked at him and said, \”How long have you been cursing your son?\” The pastor was very surprised. He said, \”You said I was cursing my son. What do you mean?\” The counselor replied: \”The so-called curse means speaking and thinking about another person\’s fault. What you just said is telling me about your son. How long have you been cursing your son like this?\” The pastor lowered his voice. The head said: \”Yes, I started cursing him as soon as he was born. Until now, I have never said a kind word to him.\” The counselor said: \”The result is invalid, right?\” The pastor replied: \”Yes. !\” So, the counselor said: I will now challenge you and your wife. What\’s the challenge? Efficient time management means managing yourself: Training Manual 130 says that in the next two months, when you think of your son, you should bless him instead of thinking of his shortcomings. When you talk about your son, I want you to remember his good side and say only good things about him. After the pastor returned home, he told his wife about the incident. They decided to follow the counselor\’s advice and were willing to give it a try. When they prayed for their son, they asked God to bless him; when they talked about his son, they tried to remember and talk about his good qualities. From that day on, they did it every day. On about the tenth day, the pastor was studying in his study when the phone rang. Yes, it was that son on the other end of the phone! The son said: \”Dad, I\’m really not sure why I called you. I just want to tell you that in the past week or so, I have always thought of you and my mother, and our other family members. So I really want to call you.\” Calling you to see how you are doing.\” The father said excitedly: \”Son! I\’m really glad you called.\” They chatted on the phone for a few minutes, and then the father asked: \”I don\’t know what you are thinking, but do we want to have lunch together on Saturday?\” The son happily agreed. The father and son met at lunchtime over the weekend. The son was wearing very shabby clothes and had messy and long hair. In the past, the father would have severely criticized his son. However, this time, the father faced his son with an accepting attitude and blessed him in his heart. After he asked his son a question, he listened quietly to his son\’s answer. When his son says something right, he will also affirm it. At the end of the lunch date, the son looked at his father and said, \”Dad! I don\’t know what happened, but I enjoyed spending time with you today.\” The father responded, \”Son, I enjoyed spending time with you too. You are together!\” The son said: \”Well! Dad, I want to spend the night at home tonight, okay? Just tonight, I want to see my mother and family, and my old bed.\” The father responded Said: \”Of course! We are very happy that you can be with us.\”That whole day, the father was shocked. When he stopped cursing his son and replaced it with blessings, the situation had changed so much. That night, when the son was lying on his own bed, the father came to his son. He sat down and said to his son: \”Son, I have treated you very badly over the past few years. Are you willing to forgive me?\” The son said: \”Dad, of course I forgive you!\” \”Then he opened his arms and hugged his father, and their relationship between father and son began to heat up. However, when did the relaxation of the relationship between father and son begin? It started when the parents began to bless their son. I don\’t quite understand the reason for this, but when we are willing to bless others instead of cursing them, God will also value our blessings. What we sow, that is what we will reap. If we sow the seeds of curse, we will We will receive a \”curse\”; if we sow the seeds of blessing, our harvest will be a blessing. Back to life, what exactly does the \”curse\” in the story refer to? 1. Many parents will tell lies in order to get rid of their children We lie because of the entanglement, and at the same time think that children are easy to deceive. In fact, children are very smart, they can find many details that we have made mistakes and omissions, and then the children will feel that they are the abandoned one, like a burden. In this case Sometimes they will have these negative emotions: loss, lack of security, low self-esteem, and loss of trust. 2. Restraint Sometimes, in order to make their children obedient, parents make many demands, which are not for the good of the children, but just for their own convenience. For example, Parents may force their children to follow their own ideas and practices for various reasons, and they are very confident that they are right and their children must feel the same as themselves. But sometimes such self-confidence will cause parents to force their children to do something A choice against one\’s will, otherwise it is disobedience. As an individual with no autonomy, children will become \”obedient\” at this time. At this time, their negative emotions will include: anger, dissatisfaction, depression, and complaints. 3. Failure to communicate with parents about their actions A child’s first friend is also the friend they value most. What they hope most is to be able to communicate with their parents freely and understand each other. Many parents like to say: \”I know what you are thinking?\” I also come from your age. \”But once people grow up, change is inevitable, which is why we all laugh at all the stupid things we did as children. Parents use their grown-up ideas to ask their children not to do those \”silly things\”, and at the same time, they themselves Claiming to \”understand\” can easily cause children to close themselves off. At this time, their negative emotions will be: loneliness, sadness, helplessness, and loss. 4. Useless comparisons. Every child has his or her own uniqueness. Educate children not to It should be a unified model, but teach students in accordance with their aptitude. Tell children that success does not lie in the size of the role. Parents want to cultivate their children to become excellent people. The key is to let children learn to compete with themselves and grow at their own speed. Blindly treat children Expressing dissatisfaction and seeking perfection will bring negative information to children, which will make them timid, depressed, and even world-weary. Don’t look at other people’s children, cheer for your own children boldly, and believe that your children willcreate a miracle! 5. Apply labels indiscriminately and easily assert that if you don’t want your children to become “idiots”, please appreciate your children more and give them a thumbs up. Never say to your children: \”You can\’t do it.\” Must-read parenting books for parents recommend Don\’t Think You Understand Your Children\’s Hearts e-book download Children need appreciation, they long to be affirmed; give your children a chance to exercise and get rid of their inner feelings The shadow of inferiority complex. So what should we do? 1. Be good at discovering your child’s strengths. Every child is unique and has both strengths and weaknesses. If you only see your child’s shortcomings and keep nagging at them and magnifying them, your child will definitely I am afraid of my hands and feet, and dare not do anything. Remember, you need to discover your child\’s strengths – maybe he is not good at English, but maybe he is good at math? He may not be smart enough, but he has been working hard? Parents should be good at exploring their children\’s strengths instead of magnifying their shortcomings and nagging them endlessly. 2. Don’t be stingy with your praise. Never be stingy with your praise, and don’t be shy about praising your baby because of your own personality. You must know that your praise may be the sweet booster that keeps your child\’s passion burning and his interest unabated. 3. Always encourage and make children confident. Encourage children to explore, encourage children to try new things, and encourage children to make their own decisions. These are all ways to cultivate children\’s self-confidence. Remember, never make the decision for your child in everything. This will make the child have no independent opinion, and it will not let him realize that he will have to shoulder a lot of things alone in the future, and you will not always be with him. 4. Tell your children: \”You can do it!\” Human instinct is to be cautious next time if they make a mistake on something. This is especially true for children. When he is unsure, he will not dare to take that step forward. For example, if you are doing an arithmetic problem and miss a few times, when you play an arithmetic game with him, he will be very unsure of his results and hesitate to speak out. At this time, you need to encourage him and speak out boldly. It doesn\’t matter if you\’re wrong. Be sure to send a firm signal to your children—you can do it! This will make the child more optimistic and confident. Parents, please send blessings and prayers to your children, give them more love and care, and let your children grow up confidently in a warm family environment!