What working mother doesn’t blame herself and want to resign while working hard at the same time?

After giving birth to my second child, I used my breastfeeding leave to pick up my eldest child from school. When you are busy at work, it is pointless to pick up the boss. Several times, when I ran all the way and ran to the kindergarten out of breath, only the eldest child and a teacher on duty were left in the whole kindergarten. While I apologized to the teacher embarrassedly and promised to pick him up on time next time, I took the boss\’s hand and hurried home. There was a work meeting the day before yesterday. I calculated the time of the meeting and it should still be late enough to pick up the boss. As a result, the meeting time far exceeded my estimate. I looked at my watch anxiously while taking meeting minutes. Seeing that there was no hope of picking up the baby on time, I sent the baby\’s father a WeChat message and asked him to call and tell the baby\’s grandma to take the second child to pick up the eldest child. After a long time there was no response, so I secretly called the father. He replied: He was busy, but he would make a call. So, I relaxed and concentrated on taking meeting minutes. Twenty minutes later, the child’s father replied: Grandma probably didn’t bring her cell phone. I was confused. At that point, the children had been out of school for about ten minutes. I looked up at the venue. It would probably be a while, and I couldn\’t and shouldn\’t ask for leave at this time. If you don\’t ask for leave, who will pick up the child? The father\’s workplace is still twenty miles away. I\’m calm on the outside, but inside I\’m in a mess. At this time, the phone rang. It was a local number. I instinctively guessed that it might be related to the child. He gritted his teeth and didn\’t answer the call. After a while, it rang again, and he secretly ran to the bathroom to answer the call. Sure enough, it was a call from the kindergarten teacher on duty, saying that the child had been brought back to her home and that she had contacted the child\’s father to pick him up. I thanked the teacher and called the child\’s father. He said he was already on his way back and asked me not to worry. I slipped back to the venue, feeling a little calmer. On the way home, I couldn\’t help but blame myself. How the hell am I supposed to be a mother to someone like this? I don\’t bother to participate in the activities of my child\’s kindergarten, and I make my child wait alone in the kindergarten again and again… Whenever this happens, I feel the urge to resign. I quit my job and became a full-time mother, taking good care of my two children. Attend every activity of your child, don\’t miss every step of your child\’s growth, take your child wherever they want to go…then reason will win over emotion. If you don’t work, how will you communicate with your children in the future? If you don’t work, how will you get the money to buy milk powder and enroll your children in tutoring classes? If you don’t work, how will you have the money to take them to see the world? If you don’t work, when they grow up, they will ask their mother what you do for a living. How to answer when? How many working mothers, like me, are blaming themselves for not being able to spend time with their children one moment, and then hurriedly getting back to work the next. At work, try your best to do the work at hand well and do it beautifully. Don’t lower any standards because you are a mother. You may even do better than others. You are afraid that others will say, “Look at her, she gave birth to a child.” My mind is not on work, woman!\” The person who said this had a complex expression and rich meaning. Originally, when a woman lived to this age, she didn\’t have to care much about other people\’s evaluations. But in my heart, I still feel that I shouldn’t give anyone any chance to judge myself. They worked hard, mainly competing with themselves, \”What\’s wrong with mothers? Are they doing worse than you? Are you eating your rice?\” At that time, they watched the video.The article \”Every working mother owes her children an apology\” written by Meng. I feel sad while watching it. Compared with full-time mothers, we really do less than others. Looking at it this way, Mimeng is right. I was depressed, so I discussed it with my friends, and as we discussed it, my style of painting changed. After everyone reflected and blamed themselves, they all criticized this article. Life has given working mothers too much pressure. At work, everyone expects you to work as if you had never given birth to children; at home, your family expects you to take care of your children and do housework as if you had no job; if you take care of work and family, who will take care of you? Even if you are running around in this way, some people will jump out and accuse you of owing your children. To hell with it, we don’t owe anyone anything. Every working mother has had a dream to raise her child single-handedly and participate in every detail of his growth; every working mother also has a career dream to become a smart and capable new woman in the workplace. In this process of pursuing balance and perfection, many people have questioned whether I am not strong enough or I have not done enough. Why do others think that I can take care of my children and my career, but I can\’t do it anyway? So, we are anxious, we blame ourselves, we fight against ourselves desperately, until one day, when we wake up from a dream, we find that no matter how great a woman is, she never takes care of her career and family. The so-called balance means There have to be trade-offs. Spending less time with your children does not mean that the company is not high-quality; spending less time at work does not mean that the work is not efficient. Working mothers, please let yourself go and give yourself some alone time every day. Tell yourself that you have done a good job and you just need to keep working hard.