When a child bumps into a child in kindergarten and is bullied by other children! How would you handle it?

When a child bumps into someone in kindergarten, is bullied by a child, or doesn’t want to go to kindergarten… how will you deal with it? Have you ever thought about the impact it will have on your children? Let\’s first look at a story: Two salesmen from a company went to a backward area to inspect the market. The first person to go shook his head and sighed after seeing it, and replied to the company: People here are barefoot and don’t wear shoes at all. How can they sell it? So he returned empty-handed. The second person who went there was overjoyed when he saw it, and replied to the company: Great, people here are still barefoot, the market is too big, everyone has the potential to buy shoes, so he suggested that the company give people some shoes for free; wait for the local People have the habit of wearing shoes, and when they feel the inconvenience of going barefoot, it is natural to sell shoes, and the results are fruitful. It’s the same trip to inspect the market, but different salesmen and different endings. Children\’s words and deeds are affected by their parents. What kind of parents there are, there are what kind of children. Same kindergarten, different parents, different endings. 01 When children accidentally bump into each other in kindergarten, wise parents think so: dozens of children are playing together, and bumps and bumps are inevitable. Even if I am raising a child alone, bumps will inevitably happen, let alone so many. Where is the child! These bumps and bumps are valuable childhood experiences for children and opportunities for their growth. In the collision, they gradually learned to protect themselves, learn to face setbacks, and learn to face life bravely. Outcome: Children learn to be responsible and responsible! Rational parents think so: It doesn\’t matter. I believe the teacher doesn\’t want to see such a thing. Since it has already happened, there is no point in blaming. The most important thing is to comfort the child first. If the injury is serious, communicate with the teacher and find a solution after understanding the truth. You can\’t just blame the teacher and put all the responsibility on the teacher. I believe that the teacher loves every child. Outcome: The child learns understanding and tolerance. Weird parents think so: My child is injured? How do you take care of your children? Why are you so irresponsible? If you can\’t even look after a child, why should you be a kindergarten teacher? No, I have to talk to the director. Outcome: The child learns to shirk responsibility, becomes sarcastic, and has weakened social interaction skills. 02 When children are bullied in kindergarten, wise parents think so: It is very normal for children to fight and fight with each other. Maybe they were fighting and fighting one minute, and then they were holding hands and playing together the next minute. I will appropriately let go and let the child solve it, so that he can learn the ability to cope with and get along with others. If the child cannot solve the problem, it is not too late for me to intervene. Outcome: Children learn to coordinate relationships, resolve conflicts, and protect themselves. Rational parents think this way: Most of the time, the fights between children are unintentional, but I feel sad when a child is bullied. I will understand the ins and outs of the matter. If the child is wrong, I will let him take the initiative to apologize and let him understand that hitting is wrong; if other children are wrong, let him understand that it is a virtue to be tolerant and forgive other people\’s faults. I will also tell my children that when someone wants to hit you, you can yell: Hitting is wrong, you can’t hit me! You can also run away as soon as possible and tell the teacher. Outcome: Children learn tolerance, learn to take responsibility and learn to protect your own rights and interests. A strange parent thinks this way: Who is my child? Come on and stand up and see how I deal with you. No matter what, just walk over and give the child a slap in the face. If someone hits you, hit him, hit him hard, and he will not dare to hit you next time. Ending: The child loses friendship and learns to use violence to solve problems. 03 When children don’t want to go to kindergarten, smart parents think so: I hope that children will have good willpower, behavioral habits, time concepts and rules from an early age. Let the children understand that entering the kindergarten on time is the most basic requirement for a good child. I will also pick up the children and take them home on time, so that the teacher can get off work on time. Outcome: The child understands time management and has very good work and rest habits. Reasonable parents think so: It is reasonable for children to sometimes not want to go to kindergarten. I will let your children understand that going to school is your own business. I will not tell you that you must enter kindergarten on time, but I will tell you that doing so will What consequences. Outcome: Children learn to respect teachers. The weird parent thinks this way: The child is still young, so it is normal to sleep in, so don’t take it too seriously. Besides, children also play in kindergarten, and it’s different if they go early and go late. In the morning, the child said he didn’t want to go to kindergarten, so he just played at home! Outcome: The child has no sense of time, procrastinates, dawdles, and does not like to study. 04 When the school organizes parents to participate in parent-child activities, wise parents think so: It is very necessary and very responsible for kindergartens to organize such activities frequently. There is no way to educate children well just by relying on kindergartens. Only when families work together can the effect of educating children be twice the result with half the effort. Outcome: Parents study hard and their children make progress every day. A rational parent thinks this way: I work desperately for my children every day, hoping that my children can receive a better education and live a happier life. As long as it is a parent-child activity held in the kindergarten, I will actively participate. This is the best opportunity for me and my children to participate in activities together. Outcome: The relationship between parents and children becomes closer and closer, and the children grow up healthier. The weird type of parent thinks this way: I sent my child to your kindergarten just because I didn’t have time to take care of my child, and I asked you to help me take care of my child. If I have to participate in this activity or that activity every three days, why should I send my child to a kindergarten? I\’m really busy and don\’t have time to attend events. If I can\’t ask for leave, I won\’t go to the event. Outcome: Parents are increasingly unable to keep up with the times, children are becoming increasingly lonely and indifferent, and have more and more problems. 05 When picking up and dropping off their children from school, wise parents ask their children: Honey, did you encounter anything interesting in the kindergarten today? Baby, did you have fun in kindergarten today? Baby, you built building blocks with the children today, and the teacher praised you! Mom is so happy for you! Baby, today the teacher told mom that you sing so beautifully. Can you sing to mom when you get home? Baby, do you have any work today? Outcome: The child gains a sense of accomplishment and likes going to kindergarten more and more. Weird parents ask their children: Honey, did the teacher criticize you today? You tell the truth! Baby, did any child hit you today? You tell mom, mom will give it to youTake it out! Today the teacher told my mother that you were disobedient in kindergarten. What\’s going on? Did you learn something like this in kindergarten today? Outcome: Parents continue to reinforce negatively, and children dislike going to kindergarten less and less. A good teacher may be able to influence a child for three to five years, but the influence of parents lasts a lifetime! Children are not the teacher’s, they are yours. Parents are always their children’s first teachers and their children’s eternal role models. Parents have different attitudes towards kindergarten work and children\’s life, and they have different impacts on their children, either promoting their children\’s growth or hindering their children\’s growth. What kind of person parents hope their children can become in the future, parents should first be what kind of person they are. Parents whose children have already entered kindergarten, or are about to enter kindergarten: From now on, let us strive to be a \”model\” parent and draw a perfect end to the three years of kindergarten for our children!