When a child gets into trouble at school, parents can kill three birds with one stone with this solution!

Nina muttered as soon as school was over, and the expression on her face directly expressed two words: \”dissatisfaction.\” Seeing her like that, I couldn\’t help but ask her what\’s wrong? As a result, the dissatisfaction turned into a tone of grievance: \”Mom, my glasses are broken.\” \”Glasses are broken? The new glasses your mother just gave you last week are broken? No way, how come it is so fast! ” I asked my daughter Nina. At the same time, I was thinking in my head that in order to protect my children’s eyes, I specifically found an optical store with good reputation and quality. Considering that children are playful, the quality of the glasses provided is also relatively good and cannot be damaged under normal circumstances. of. But I didn\’t expect that within just one week, there would be a problem with my glasses. Nina quickly told me that the glasses were not damaged by herself, but by a classmate named Lin Tao. It turns out that after lunch, some parents always send their children to school early due to work reasons. These children are those who arrive early. This group of children is not fixed. Today it is you or it may be him tomorrow, and the number is not large. Since the teacher was not in the classroom at that time, for the sake of safety, the teachers told the students to come to school as early as possible according to the normal time stipulated by the school. If it is really special circumstances, if you arrive early, you can study by yourself in the classroom, read a book or practice calligraphy. This is not allowed. Running around or doing other dangerous things. But some little boys still like to do little tricks while the teacher is away. Today at noon, Lin Tao arrived at school relatively early. When there were three or four little boys in the classroom, Lin Tao and those little boys gathered together to play Magic Fleet while the classmates hadn’t arrived yet and the teacher wasn’t present. game. When he was playing, Lin Tao would drag the tables and chairs in the classroom at will, using them as obstacles to block other people\’s attacks on him. Dragging and dragging, one of them used too much force and knocked down several tables at once. And one of these tables was Nina\’s. Since Nina\’s eyes were not very near-sighted, she followed the doctor\’s advice and only wore them when the teacher was giving lectures. She took them off at ordinary times and put them in the glasses case. Because the table was overturned, the glasses case was brought out, and the table was smashed underneath, completely broken. So when my daughter Nina came to the classroom, her classmates told her the cause and effect of the incident. So her daughter Nina took the crushed glasses and asked Lin Tao if he had damaged her glasses, and if she wanted him to apologize. But I didn\’t expect that Lin Tao just refused to admit it. It happened that their class teacher came at this time, and after asking other students and surveillance videos, Lin Tao admitted. The teacher severely criticized Lin Tao and told Lin Tao to tell his parents what happened. After listening to what my daughter Nina said, I said that since the teacher severely criticized him and told his parents about it, I believed that his parents would also discipline him. Although the glasses are broken, it is not your fault, so your mother will not blame you and help you go to the optical shop to get new ones. But Nina was dissatisfied when I said this. She asked Lin Tao to give her new glasses as compensation. My reason is that if Lin Tao took the initiative to apologize to her, then she would not be angry and would not have to compensate. But now Lin Tao not only did not apologize to her, but also refused to admit that heHe only admitted that he had broken his glasses when the teacher came. So she was angry, and she felt that the glasses we bought for her cost a lot of money, so why should we let us spend more? Nina pestered me and asked me to call Lin Tao\’s parents and ask for new glasses in return. Listening to her rationale, I didn\’t argue, but I needed to think about it. In fact, the reason why I replied to my daughter in this way was that, firstly, I felt that the child was right, and secondly, I was also thinking about the child\’s affairs and how adults should get involved. In the evening, maybe the teacher or Lin Tao told his parents what happened. Before I could find him, Lin Tao\’s mother chatted with me privately in the class group. She first expressed her apology for what her child had done, and then asked me how much the glasses cost, and agreed to give the money to me tomorrow. By this time, I had called Nina in front of the computer and showed her the apologetic words. I asked Nina if Lin Tao still needed compensation from him. Nina then said with slight satisfaction: \”Don\’t let him compensate me. Mom, didn\’t you still teach me to be merciful and merciful, but never allow it a second time, otherwise he will have to compensate me a hundred times.\” .” Listening to Nina’s reply, I gave Nina a thumbs up! Originally, I was thinking about how adults can participate to satisfy the children and resolve the matter reasonably. Now Lin Tao\’s mother\’s active participation lets me know how to proceed. Originally, if Lin Tao\’s parents were silent or unreasonable, then I would have just made a phone call and followed my daughter\’s request. Originally, this was reasonable. But now that Lin Tao\’s mother has taken the initiative to express her apology to me, I don\’t need to mention the issue of compensation. Lin Tao can just take the initiative to apologize to Nina tomorrow. So I replied to Lin Tao’s mother with my thoughts. But I didn\’t expect that when school was over the next day, Lin Tao\’s mother was waiting for me with Lin Tao. I have to ask Lin Tao to give me the money. I said no, as long as the child admits his mistake, I don’t want the money. As I said that, I put the money into her hand. But Lin Tao\’s mother told me that maybe the money was not enough to compensate for the glasses, but I had to take the money. It was not a matter of more money or less, but because she wanted her children to know that she had done something wrong. First, you have to take the initiative to admit your mistakes. Second, if you make a mistake, you should accept punishment and bear corresponding responsibilities. Third, remember this lesson and never do it again. So no matter how much or how little the money is, I will accept it. This is a good thing for Lin Tao. Lin Tao\’s mother thinks that maybe he is young and doesn\’t understand the truth, but when he grows up, he will understand that this matter has nothing to do with money. It has something to do with his life. It depends on whether he is a person who dares to take responsibility. . After listening to Lin Tao\’s mother, I accepted the money from Lin Tao. When I came back, I took the opportunity to teach my daughter to take responsibility for things she did wrong. Later, I used the money Lin Tao’s mother compensated to buy a gift for Lin Tao. The purpose of buying the gift was to encourage him to be a young man who dares to take responsibility. But Lin Tao’s mother’s words actually touched me deeply. Many times, we only ask children to admit their mistakes on the surface, but we never think about whether the children will actually remember and change them. Lin Tao\’s mother is indeed right. It is important for children to learn to face it, learn to take responsibility, and warn themselves not to do it again. From now on heWe still have a long way to grow. It is important to learn the above three points and be responsible for your own life!