When a child is crying and shouting to buy, buy, buy, how to teach him to distinguish between \”want\” and \”need\”?

What I share here is my \”combat experience\”, and it really works. Sisters who have to walk around the toy section of the mall or Toys R Us, please raise your hands?! I\’m really scared. I\’m worried that my child will plunge into it and never be able to pull it away. He will want to buy whatever he sees, and will cry and fuss if he doesn\’t buy it. In the end, he will have to pick up one item before he can leave. At that time, I said it was \”my favorite\” (actually there are a lot of similar or even identical ones at home), but after a while I didn\’t know where to throw them away. After a long battle of wits and courage with Ogawa, I finally understood that the key to solving the problem is to let him understand the difference between \”what he wants\” and \”what he needs\”. Be willing and insistent on saying \”no\” to your children. Research has found that children who are over-spoiled and get everything they want are more dissatisfied with life and more likely to develop depression. Think about it, objectively, it is impossible for anyone to get everything they want. Children who are accustomed to getting everything they want will be more frustrated or even angry when faced with \”not getting\”. We have always wanted to help Xiaochuan establish such a life attitude and pursue a quality material life, but never be burdened by it. Therefore, we try our best to provide him with everything he needs so that he can live a peaceful and worry-free life. But also make it clear to him that he won’t get everything he wants even if we can afford it. Faced with Ogawa\’s various purchase and purchase requests, we often say \”No\”, and once we say it, we will stick to it. As we shared before, strive to be an \”authoritative parent\” who responds positively and positively to your children\’s requests, but \”gently insists\” on principles. It\’s not some surprising and clever trick, it\’s just a matter of following the truth. For example, \”We have a certain amount of money. If we spend 100 yuan to buy this toy today, we will spend 100 less elsewhere. Which place would you rather spend less? Eat less fruit or learn ice hockey less often?\” Generally speaking, Next time, Xiaochuan will rationally give up buying toys because he knows which ones he really needs. (Some mothers said before that their children would be bored to death if they were willing to listen to us talking about a lot of truths. I want to say that if you treat your children simply and roughly all the time, thinking that they don’t understand, they will not understand.) Of course, children will not suddenly change their gender, and they will be willing to listen to our reasoning. The development or change of all behavioral patterns is not achieved overnight, and requires a long period of subtle influence.) Supermarket shopping is an excellent learning opportunity. I want to teach children Distinguish between \”wants\” and \”needs\” and don\’t miss this excellent learning opportunity of supermarket shopping. Every time before going to the supermarket, Xiaochuan and I would decide what to buy, make a list in our minds, and sometimes write it down. When I go to the supermarket, Xiaochuan will enthusiastically help me find what I want to buy (I don’t understand why children like going to the supermarket so much). Sometimes when he passes by the snack area and sees candies and potato chips, he will look at them greedily and mutter about buying them. I would ask him: \”Is this on our list? It doesn\’t seem to be! It means we don\’t need it now. We can only buy what we need!\” At the beginning, OgawaThey will also be reluctant and insist on buying. But with my persistence and reasoning over time, he gradually accepted the rules of the list, and later even started to supervise me. When I see a product on sale and want to stock up, I will be reminded: \”Mom, this is not on the list. We don\’t need it now, so we can\’t buy it!\” Let the children spend their own money to buy what they want. Older children, Try getting them to pay for what they want. Xiaochuan has his own piggy bank, which contains the pocket money we usually give him. Now we\’re trying to let him decide how to spend his money. For example, buy some small toys, snacks, etc. Sometimes, we will guide him to consume rationally. Xiaochuan likes to buy \”Funny Eggs\” very much. They are not expensive at 8 yuan each. But I bought a lot one after another, but most of the chocolates inside were not eaten, and the small toys were thrown away after playing with them for a while. Later, when he wanted to buy again, I persuaded him: \”You obviously don\’t like eating chocolate, and you lose the small toys after playing with them for a while. It\’s better to save the money to buy funny eggs and buy one you really like. Lego. A Wonderful Egg costs 8 yuan, and a box of Lego costs 100 (his favorite small box of Lego Knights). Isn’t it better to buy 12 fewer Wonderful Eggs and buy a box of Lego?” But most Sometimes, we let him make his own decisions and bear the consequences. Every time we go out to play, we will give him some pocket money (or quota) to buy what he wants, including food, toys, and souvenirs. One time when he went to Xiangshan, he insisted on buying a red leaf card and spent all the 10 yuan we gave him in one go. Later, I saw the hand-woven \”grass dragon\” and had no money to buy it. I regretted it so much that I blamed myself: \”I knew I wouldn\’t spend money randomly before, but now I don\’t have money to buy more interesting things.\” Slowly, The child knows what he really needs and what he only wants temporarily. Read picture books with your children. You can also try reading picture books about \”wants\” and \”needs\” with your children, such as: 1. \”Those Shoes\” (The Best Shoes), author: Maribeth Boelts, a popular school style Expensive new sneakers, the little boy Jeremy really wants a pair. But his grandma told him that their family\’s finances could only allow him to buy what he \”needs\”, not what he \”wanted\”. He was very disappointed, but he felt a little comforted when he saw that one of his classmates couldn\’t even change his shoes when the soles were torn. Grandma took him to a thrift store and found a pair of shoes he wanted. Although the size was a bit small, he reluctantly bought them. But his sore feet always reminded Jeremy that these shoes did not bring him happiness. As a result, Jeremy quickly realized that warm boots, a dear grandma, and a chance to help a friend were worth much more than what he wanted. 2. Lily Learns about Wants and Needs, by Lisa Bullard. Lily wants a new bicycle, a new raincoat, and ice cream. But which of these many things does she really need? As Lily and her dad drove around the city, she quickly discovered that wants and needs are fundamentally different. She picked out things that were necessary for people to live. She even reminded Dad that he didn’t need to buy root beer at all! Having said so much, there is actually another most important aspect: as parents, can we distinguish between what we need and what we want?