When a child makes a mistake, should the parents spank him?

In my own mind, there seems to be only one real spanking of a child. It was when my son was in kindergarten, and the teacher called me to inform me that my son had a stomachache and asked me to take him home early. On the way back, there happened to be a stall selling snowflake ice. The crystal white ice flakes and colorful fruits were very tempting. My son wants to eat. I told him that he had a bad stomach and couldn\’t eat cold food. The son refused to listen and started crying and fussing on the spot. I was cruel and almost dragged him home, no matter how much he resisted. After I got home, I made him stand for a long time and explained the reason carefully to him, saying that I would definitely not buy it for him under such circumstances. But the stubborn son never changed his mind and admitted his mistake. The next day when I picked up my son from school, I passed by the stall again. My son suddenly said: \”Dad, I don\’t want to buy snowflakes today.\”… Many years later, I went to the mall with my son and met a half-year-old boy on the floor. He was rolling around, his parents were at a loss what to do, and many customers were watching. My son smiled and said to me: \”Dad, if you didn\’t hit me back then, would I be like him now?\” In fact, although the child is young, he still has his own thoughts. Many times, the purpose of a child\’s mischief is just to test the adult\’s bottom line. If he finds that this method is ineffective for you, he will not use it in the future. But unfortunately, many parents fail to stick to their bottom line when tested by their children, so that their children discover a \”trick\” to subdue their parents. And when the children grow up and the parents find that they can no longer do this, it is difficult to correct them. Many naughty children are spoiled little by little by their parents. Regarding whether children should be spanked, the author has a unique metaphor: spanking children is a parent\’s \”nuclear weapon\” – let the child know that you have it, but it is best never to use it. At most, spanking the child once (including other forms of punishment) when he is very young can correct the child\’s bad habits and stop making unreasonable demands. When your children make mistakes when they are young, through one or two severe punishments, you can let them know that you have a bottom line that cannot be challenged. At this time, you have a small \”nuclear weapon\” in your hand. And when children understand that their parents will not spoil them, they will definitely not mess with you in the future, and they will no longer express their emotions and attitudes in extreme ways. At this time, any problem can be solved through talking and reasoning, and education will be on the right track. Not every child needs to be spanked, but for those naughty children who act recklessly after ineffective persuasion, spanking once is not a bad idea. There is a saying that goes well, if you don’t hit your child when he makes a mistake when he is young, he may hit you when he grows up. In the past two days, there was another news about a little boy beating his grandma in the street. From the photos taken by netizens, you can see that the little boy clamped his grandmother\’s head with his legs, then beat her with his hands and kicked her with his feet. The passers-by couldn\’t stand it and came to try to dissuade her. The boy actually said, \”Who do you think you are? What right do you have to say anything to me? I used to beat her all the time!\” What\’s even weirder is that when the passers-by pulled the boy away, the grandmother stood there. After getting up, he still didn\’t say a word, even if the child called him \”stupid\”, he was indifferent. But when passers-by educated the little boy, the grandmother began to protect the boy. To put it bluntly, a grandma like this is in trouble with her grandson.You really deserve the beating. I hope the child can wake up grandma and let her know how wrong her doting is. Because your child will one day leave your sight, meet someone he can\’t afford, and even be severely punished by law. At that time, you will find that you have pampered your child to an irreversible point, and what he needs to bear is no longer as simple as a few spanks from the parent. As big as a country or as small as a child, if there is nothing to be afraid of, it will definitely be unscrupulous. Therefore, we must establish a sense of rules and bottom lines in our children from an early age, letting them know that there are some things that you cannot tolerate and what kinds of things cannot be touched. If you make a mistake, you will be punished. This is the most basic rule in this society and must be known to children. Whether it is family or school, blindly emphasizing love, encouragement and praise will only harm children. And when the children don\’t know how to abide by the most basic rules, the more we love them, the deeper the harm will be.