When a daughter says: \”Mom, I want to marry dad…\”

Colleague A said: \”Children these days are so precocious. My son started falling in love when he was only 3 years old. If there is anything delicious or fun at home, I always prepare a copy to take to the kindergarten and give it to his girlfriend Sissi. Share. She also said that when she grows up, she wants to marry Sissi.\” Colleague B also sighed: \”My daughter says she wants to marry my husband every day. As long as my husband walks in the door after work, she will stick to her. If she catches up with overtime, she can Wait until 11 o\’clock at night. Do you think opposites attract?\” In fact, children are neither precocious nor opposites attract, but children have entered one of the most important sensitive periods in their childhood – the sensitive period of marriage. Some children begin to enter the initial stage of the sensitive period of marriage when they are 3 years old. They began to have a strong interest in interpersonal relationships, had a preliminary ignorant awareness of marriage and emotions, and began to conduct a series of explorations. At this time, girls will be particularly attached to their father, and boys will be particularly attached to their mothers. These Electra (Oedipus) performances are actually their initial understanding and reflection of gender roles and the opposite sex. It is also a process in which they practice their ability to get along with each other. After they practice with their parents, they will slowly develop to the opposite sex other than their parents. For example: when children want to play with a certain friend or like a certain friend, they may say that they want to marry him or be with him… In fact, this is a way for them to express their inner emotions, which is simple and Beauty is not as complicated as we think. This period is a necessary process for children to understand social relationships. Some time ago, I watched a video from Japan. A wedding company in Japan organized children to participate in a \”mock wedding.\” Although it was a \”simulation,\” the process and ceremony were the same as a real wedding. Every link was completed to the letter: entering the venue, exchanging rings. , kissing each other, and finally releasing balloons and tossing bouquets. The children were happily spreading flowers and congratulating each other while watching carefully. When they saw the \”groom kissing the bride\”, some were surprised, some covered their mouths, and some covered their eyes shyly. The parents beside them were extremely calm and did not show any concern. The meaning of covering a child\’s eyes. A little boy immediately said: \”I also want to have a wedding like this in the future.\” A little girl said: \”Although I have to leave my mother, I still want to try to get married.\” Many netizens said: Is it okay to promote this to primary school students? Is it too early? The famous educator Suhomlinsky said: \”The problem of love is a major issue in the formation of personality.\” Love needs to be learned, and no one is born knowing how to love. Love is also a required course in everyone\’s life, and it is closely related to a happy life in the future. The best education is to let children touch and experience the world by themselves, so that they can understand the true taste of happiness and tears, and thus have the ability to love and become better versions of themselves. Learning to interact with the opposite sex is a mirror of growth and can help children develop the ability to love. When my son was 5 years old, there was a period of time when he particularly liked saving money and counting money. He had to count the money every night before going to bed. One day, I asked him: Why do you like money so much? He said: I want to save money to buy a ring for Qiqi and let her marry me. I held back my smile: Then mom can just buy it for you.But he shook his head: No, I have to rely on myself. But a few days later, he sadly told me: Qiqi won’t marry me anymore, she doesn’t like me anymore, she likes Tongtong. I was just about to comfort him when I heard my son say: Then I will go and like Xuanxuan. I hugged my son: Mom supports your decision. The son used his own way to experience the ignorant emotions, and in the process he slowly learned how to deal with emotions. As Sun Ruixue said: In the sensitive period of marriage, what a child develops and accomplishes in a few months may not be solved by an adult in ten years or a lifetime. A survey from the United States shows that when children first have a good impression of the opposite sex, or have a yearning for \”marriage\”, and this emotion is accepted and protected by their parents, their future emotional relationships will be affected. Smoother. Du Jiang once disguised himself as a woman in \”Mr. Heels\”. For this reason, he specially explained to Uhem: Now I know you still don\’t understand what happened. I just want to tell you that dad was acting. Dad is a boy, and you have to be a real man. You can only do such things for the woman you love. But Huo Siyan said from the side: I don’t think you should say that, you can also just be happy for the boy or girl you love. In the sensitive period of children\’s marriage, what is most needed is the same: parents love their children tolerantly, and the children will love this colorful world even more in the future. Tolerance is also a kind of protection, allowing children to have more space, learn a better outlook on love and marriage, and gain rich emotional experiences from it. Once, directors Xu Zheng and Ning Hao got together and were having fun. Ning Hao\’s son suddenly hugged Xu Zheng\’s two-year-old daughter and kissed her. Xu Zheng changed his face in a second and said to Ning Hao seriously: \”Let you Son, stay away from my daughter.\” Ning Hao couldn\’t laugh or cry: \”What can you understand when you are only two years old?\” In fact, for children in the sensitive period of marriage, the correct guidance from their parents is like a lamp on the sea at night, which can guide them The future direction will not deviate from the track or go astray. Both boys and girls need us to tell them what they should do and what they should not do. Where no one can touch you, be sure to say no when it’s time to say no. For example, when two fathers, Du Jiang and Liu Genghong, were dealing with the incident of \”Uh-huh, I kissed Little Puff\”, Du Jiang taught his son not to kiss others casually, while Liu Genghong taught his daughter that if someone wants to kiss you, they must go through their father\’s approval first. agree. What these two fathers did is worth learning from parents all over the world. We must let our children establish a principle: any love must respect others and not hurt oneself. Wu Zhihong said in \”Why Family Hurts People\”: We will subconsciously regard our parents as the prototype of love, and look for lovers based on this prototype. The father\’s attitude towards mother and marriage directly affects the child\’s attitude towards the opposite sex and marriage. The way parents get along is often how their children treat the opposite sex and marriage when they grow up. Wu Zun, a trendy baby daddy, is recognized as a model husband. He once said on the show: \”I don\’t want my daughter to be embarrassed when she grows up. I hope my daughter can be very proud to say when she grows up, look at my parents.Damn feelings! \”The more a father loves and respects his mother, and the more responsibilities he takes in the family, the more his children will be able to understand the true meaning of the relationship between men and women, and understand what good love is and what a happy marriage is. Being a parent is a journey that no one can achieve overnight. Every child comes into this world lonely and immature. They all grow up in constant exploration. They all need us to treat them with care and care, accompany them to face the wind and rain together, and experience every bit of their growth together. .