When a mother does this, she is truly wealthy.

Last weekend, I had a party with my friends W and Y, who were roommates in high school. They are all married, and they just gave birth to a daughter in the same year, who is 5 years old this year. Because they are good friends, their policies for raising their daughters are also very similar. In two words: they are both materially and spiritually wealthy. On the day of the party, both W and Y brought their daughters. The two girls were dressed in fancy clothes and had stylish hairstyles. After spending a day together, two wealthy girls gave me completely different feelings. Y\’s daughter is generous and energetic, with a warm smile on her lovely face; W\’s daughter is also very sensible and polite, but she lacks some vitality and seems unhappy. Why do they give me such different feelings when they are both wealthy girls? This has something to do with their mothers. The characters of the two daughters are simply replicas of their mothers. Y has always been an optimistic and confident woman, while W has always been a bit depressed. Recently, Stanford University psychologist Ian Gotlib and others have used genetic research to confirm that a mother\’s bad mood will not only affect her daughter\’s ability to withstand stress, but may even accelerate her daughter\’s aging. They surveyed 97 girls aged 10 to 14, half of whom had mothers with a history of depression and half whose mothers did not. The study found that: 1) Girls whose mothers have a history of depression are more likely to be anxious and have poorer stress tolerance; 2) Girls whose mothers have a history of depression have shorter DNA telomeres, which are similar to those of girls who are 6 years older than them. Close (telomeres shorten as we age), which means that if the mother has a history of depression, the biological age of the daughter will be 6 years older than her peers. It turns out that a mother\’s good mood has a significant impact on her daughter\’s psychology and physiology. Therefore, to truly enrich your daughter, you must first start with your mother being in a good mood. Having a mother who is emotionally stable, optimistic and happy as a role model is a priceless \”treasure\” for her daughter\’s growth. Did you leave this \”huge sum\” of money to your daughter? You can start from the following five aspects: 1. One or several hobbies that can be focused on for a long time. After many women become mothers, they will feel that their time and energy are taken up by their children: they are disgraced and can’t even take care of it. They can’t even sit down. There was no time to put on makeup, and my previous hobbies were even thrown aside. In fact, hobbies that you can devote yourself to for a long time are a guarantee to make your life happy. They can even be well combined with taking care of your baby. For example: if you like photography, don’t just post it on Moments. Use a SLR to take more beautiful photos of your baby. By taking photos, I also studied photo retouching and developed new skills. If you like writing, then after you have a child, it would be a good choice to open a personal public account to record your baby\’s growth and insights. 2. The ability to manage a good marriage. Parental love is the best family education. The family is happy and happy, creating the best environment for the healthy growth of children. The couple always quarrels and blames each other. Even if there is gold and silver in the family, the children will be affected by negative energy. A woman who has the ability to manage a good marriage does not never quarrel, but even if she has a conflict with her husband, she will turn it into an opportunity, thereby getting to know the other person better; even if she encounters twists and turns in the marriage, she can drive the other half to grow together. . 3. Stable and high-quality circle of friends and good social supportSystem (the dual material and spiritual support that an individual receives from relatives, friends, classmates, colleagues, etc., and the spiritual support is the most important.) It can not only help us successfully get through the difficulties in life, but also help us survive in good times. It is also a guarantee of happiness and a sense of belonging from interpersonal relationships. We not only need one or two close friends and three or five best friends, but we also need partners who understand, support and share the same goals in various circles. A stable and high-quality circle of friends not only brings fun and surprises to our lives, it also Instruction through words and deeds is also conducive to improving children\’s social skills. 4. A high degree of self-discipline. M. Scott Pike said in the psychology book \”The Road Less Traveled\”: \”Self-discipline is the most important tool to solve life\’s problems, and it is also the most important way to eliminate the pain of life.\” It is difficult. Imagine that a mother who cannot go to bed early, get up early, control her weight, or not lose her temper still asks her children to become self-conscious. Self-discipline allows people to live a confident and advanced life. A mother\’s self-discipline can not only make herself feel refreshed and gain a sense of joy and accomplishment, but also enable her children to develop a regular life schedule and good living habits. 5. Optimistic way of thinking. One thought touches the world. It is said that optimism and sunshine can radiate infinite positive energy. Yes, different mental models affect attitudes, behaviors and other aspects of doing things. Women with a fixed mindset believe that their intelligence, personality and character are inherently fixed. They always regard efforts as meaningless and are prone to giving up easily. Their thoughts tend to be \”I am just such a person\” and \”I am too stupid\”. There is no way\” and \”Who can I blame for my bad life?\”; and people with a growth mindset believe that their intelligence, personality and character are malleable, and their potential is unknown, so they are willing to try and explore, and they can always Continuous self-breakthrough and growth, such mothers are also good at praising and encouraging their children, making themselves and the next generation more brave, confident and perseverant. Maintaining a good mood is an ability. If a mother can do this, she is truly wealthy. Did you do well?