When children do this during the holidays, they are restoring their psychological energy.

When they are at home during the holidays, it is estimated that many parents of middle school students will be anxiously watching their children, watching them sleeping, playing on their mobile phones, and not studying, and it is difficult not to nag them. Think about it from another angle: We only see him at home, but what we don’t see is his state at school. We didn\’t get to experience his life in school. After a long period of such a tight schedule, just a few days of vacation may not be enough to slow down. Therefore, a basic framework should be laid out, and the rest should be treated as if the child is resting in his own way. Parents can suggest some other activities, which may attract their children to participate. But don’t force it. Two days ago, a parent asked how his first-grade child could be made more motivated when she just lays at home during the holidays and doesn\’t like to exercise or study. I think what we should worry about is not how to make her more motivated, but how to make her happier, and what things can make her interested in doing and give her a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction. What we need to understand is: a child who is over-consumed often needs to lie down first, so that the most basic psychological and physiological energy can slowly return to normal levels from negative values, and then gradually accumulate, with a little surplus, he will have the energy to go work. The first thing he can do must be what he likes to do most, and this thing itself will add points to his psychological energy. By continuing to accumulate and add points in this way, he will start to be able to do things that are a bit challenging. This is generally a process. Many children simply don\’t have enough time to return to normal values, and then go back to consuming again. During this process, the parents\’ urging, accusations and criticisms became an additional source of stress, hindering his recovery. Therefore, the more anxious parents are, the more counterproductive the results will be. Parents still think, shouldn’t they use some active and healthy ways to take a rest? I think that depends on the child\’s energy level and what the foundation has been in the past. An active and healthy way of rest requires a foundation. If your child already likes sports or other hobbies, maybe he will keep it. This is also the significance of us cultivating interests and hobbies in children when they are young, leading them to read and do various activities. In short, if you understand this, you probably won\’t be holding back. We provide a space where he can rest and rejuvenate. We also have basic confidence in his vitality and our previous upbringing. We believe that he desires to grow up healthily. We believe that when he has enough mental strength and energy, he will naturally work hard to do so.