When I get old, I won’t help my children take care of them either…

There is such a true story around Taotao G: a girlfriend who had not yet been \”weaned\” before becoming a mother (she was not yet able to take care of herself, lived in her parents\’ house, and worked as a pension), after three years of full-time child care, now she is , Career and child care, life has become like \”other people\’s mother\”. She said: Thanks to my mother for not helping me take care of the children, I bottomed out and truly inspired the explosion of the small universe that had been hidden deep in my heart for many years. She said: \”When I was pregnant, my mother took care of me from head to toe. I always felt that after the child was born, my mother naturally helped to take care of it. My parents-in-law were far away from home, and there were a lot of things that couldn\’t be separated from them, not to mention my own. Emotional intelligence and living ability have always been in arrears. Everyone who has been here told me that it is best for my mother to help take care of the baby! Believe me, that\’s right.\” But after the confinement period, the confinement nanny left. Her biological mother suddenly said to her: \”She is going home too.\” \”Take care of the child by yourself? Are you kidding me? After the maternity leave, I have to go back to work? Do you want me not to work? If I don\’t work, how can I support myself?\” A house, a car, and a baby?\” But my mother seemed like a different person. She no longer had the pampering she once had, and only left one sentence: \”This is your own business. From now on, you are the mother.\” It\’s really \”I don\’t care\” about her… To be honest, she hasn\’t even learned how to take care of children. Because she always felt that grandma would help take care of the child. She cried loudly, felt wronged, had insomnia, and even felt a little hateful. Sometimes she also wondered whether her mother had been in the wrong circle, surrounded by a group of old ladies who were self-conscious and unrestrained, and had been \”brainwashed\”… However, she did not want to give in or plead. She began to breastfeed, change diapers, put her to sleep, do housework, and learn parenting knowledge day and night. Because her husband was busy at work and often worked overtime, he rarely helped. Slowly, she began to feel like a mother. She understands the meaning behind the child\’s every move, will be troubled by the child\’s cry, and will also laugh because of the child\’s laughter. She doesn\’t seem to \”hate\” her mother that much anymore. During a phone call every weekend, she gradually opened up her heart and was willing to communicate with her mother sincerely, instead of making sarcastic remarks. She even began to reflect on how naive she once was. Logically speaking, one is an adult after turning 18, but look at myself, she is already over thirty, but before she became a mother, she was still like a giant baby. Except for a dead salary that she could not eat enough to survive, she still relied on others for everything else. With her natal family. But before that, his mother had been giving without any complaints. A child is a mirror that constantly reflects the imperfect self. When her maternity leave was about to end, she was very confused and confused. When she returned to work, she was worried about finding a nanny to take care of her children when she had no one to take care of them. Besides, the cost of nannying is not low these days. The three melons and two dates I earn from working are just enough to hire a nanny, so I might as well take care of it myself! Is it okay to take care of the children by myself? Can it be done? She asked herself ten thousand times in her heart. Finally, she decided to face the problem head-on and quit her job to take care of her baby. Anyway, my original job was just dawdling around, so it would be better to take on the role of mother first. The children grow up day by day. Apart from the daily activities of eating, drinking, eating and playing,The expenses for amusement parks, toys, and early childhood education are increasing. She wants her children to live a better life, and she also wants to become a strong mother herself. Although her husband\’s income is quite considerable, she wants to give her children better things through her own efforts. She stubbornly believes that for a family to get better and better, what is needed is for the husband and wife to work together to strive in the same direction, instead of one person struggling to move forward and the other person not giving their best, then they will become pig teammates. ? She has been sharing her DIY experience every day since her child started eating complementary food at six months old. After online training, she also obtained the qualification of a health nutritionist and has gained more and more fans. When her children went to kindergarten, she was completely freed from taking care of them, found a job related to children\’s nutrition and health, and returned to the workplace. Today, she feels that her life is very complete, with lovely children, a job she likes, and a harmonious family; she has no conflicts with her mother-in-law, or parenting differences that her husband does not understand. The children love their mother very much, and she has no regrets. , and her original little belly has also turned into a waistline in the past few years, and her eyes are sparkling. She finally understood her mother\’s good intentions: true love is not to take care of you until you grow old, but to let go at the right time. Without her mother\’s \”cruel\” letting go, she would still be in her original position, waiting to get off work every day. She would not be personally involved with her children and fulfill her responsibilities as a mother; nor would she truly understand the meaning of home. The meaning of mother, the meaning of wife. Although during the years when I was working full-time, there were moments of gloom and collapse. Sometimes I was really discouraged and almost suffered from postpartum depression. I went crazy when my child was sick, and I was nervous when my child cried. Being a mother is a year-round job, and I often feel depressed. Because I had to take care of my children and was sleep deprived, those really difficult moments were just hanging on in one breath. But looking back now, she sees that every time she was at the end of her rope, every time she broke down and cried, every time she had a dispute with her husband, they truly reflected the nature of family problems and the problems of everyone. After going through that difficult time, those sleepless nights caused by intestinal colic, and those days when she woke up countless times at night, she seemed to have forgotten; all she could remember was the happiness that her children brought to her. I still remember how crazy she was at that time. In order to prepare various complementary foods for her children, she read books, watched videos, and studied nutrition tutorials. She went from not knowing how to cook to becoming an expert in complementary foods. Her child is growing up day by day, and along with her continuous learning and progress… because she said that she hopes that she will be a role model for her children in the future, and the children will think that their mother is great and will recognize her as a person who works hard in life. This is enough. But now, because she is raising her baby scientifically, she eats the healthiest complementary foods, and she has the closest relationship with her parents. The relationship between her and her husband is like a comrade-in-arms. The most important thing is that she No longer as dependent on others as she once was, she felt guilty and blushing for her selfish thoughts. She understood better her mother\’s true intention of not helping her take care of her children. My mother has taken care of me for 30 years, and I have only taken care of the child for 3 years. Every child is a motherIt’s a piece of my mother’s heart, I’m afraid it will melt if I hold it in my mouth, or it will break if I hold it in my hand. But there will eventually come a day when the child needs to face the world alone. If he has never tasted bitterness, how will he know the taste of sweetness? If he has never failed, how can he know the joy of success? If he has never raised a child himself, how can he understand the true meaning of the word mother? I don’t know who said it, “If you still have the courage and the one you love, don’t give yourself so many reasons, just keep working hard. Don’t expect someone to always be nice to you for no reason, even if it’s Parents can\’t keep giving endlessly.\” When I get old, I won\’t help my children take care of them.