It is normal to have ups and downs in life, and adults often have times when they are not in their best moods. Let alone a junior high school student. But although this is a normal phenomenon, you still need to adjust your state back in time, because time at this stage is too expensive. Sometimes, it feels like a slight difference makes a huge difference. So if our classmates are not in the best condition, what do they need from their parents? Long Yingtai, who can understand himself, wrote in \”Take Your Time, My Child\”: \”It is not difficult to see the child\’s world from the mother\’s perspective. What is rare is that the mother will squat down and see the world from the same height as the child – we We are the same life, we respect each other, and we grow together.” Junior high school students will gradually have their own ideas and opinions, and they long to be recognized and understood. There are many reasons for poor learning status, and sometimes they may not even be able to explain it clearly. It may be because you encountered setbacks in school, such as having conflicts with classmates that affected your mood, or you may feel slack after you want to learn but can\’t learn. At this time, if his parents can understand his frustration and can calm down and discuss learning methods with him instead of simply saying \”everyone else can learn it, why can\’t you\”, then maybe they can deal with it more actively Learn about the difficulties in life. Don\’t just blame us. Many times, our classmates are not in good academic condition. In fact, they are already very anxious. What they fear most is unwarranted accusations from their parents. \”Why are you not learning at all?\” \”What are you thinking in your mind?\” Blindly blaming will only make the child more frustrated and resistant. Criticism is needed on the way of growth, but criticism should be directed at the situation and not the person. When a person is in a bad state, it is typically a matter of people. If parents just criticize him severely at this time, this will severely damage the child\’s self-confidence and enthusiasm for learning. Try to understand the problems your child encounters in the learning process, analyze the reasons with him, and encourage him to learn from his failures. This is what you should do! In a warm atmosphere, talents recalibrate more quickly rather than sinking deeper into self-doubt amid accusations. Many parents make the mistake of being able to support themselves mentally, that is, they provide unconditional support materially, but they cannot help spiritually! Yang Jiang said: \”A good education first inspires people\’s interest in learning, their consciousness of learning, cultivates their self-motivation, and guides people to learn and constantly improve themselves.\” Therefore, at least in terms of learning, our classmates sometimes need more than just It is not only material satisfaction, but also the guidance and support of parents in thinking. When you encounter difficulties in learning or feel confused about the future direction of learning, ask them to discuss it together and then provide some useful suggestions and ideas. For example, our classmates have ideas about their future careers, but don’t know how to combine them with their current studies. At this time, we parents should work with him to understand the requirements of relevant occupations, help him to find out what requirements he must meet in order to engage in this occupation in the future, and what he must do now to achieve it. This kind of ideological support will make them feel direction and motivation, and then they can actively adjust their learning status and work hard.Try to improve yourself.
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