When my son told me that he liked a female classmate, I said to him…

One night, my son told me a little shyly: \”Mom, Chen Yuxia said that Lin Xiaoyan likes me.\” When I heard this, I laughed and said, \”It\’s not bad if someone likes me!\” Then I asked him: \”Then do you like Lin Xiaoyan? \”She is lazy and has poor grades. Who likes her?\” The son immediately denied it. Later he told me that the person he liked was Shao Jiaqi, a name I had heard him mention countless times. He told me that Shao Jiaqi became a study committee member and often ranked first in exams. On Children’s Day, she specially wore a pink skirt to school. She looked very good with her long hair down… Although from his mouth, I I already knew everything about this girl, but I still asked him deliberately: \”Why do you like her?\” The son immediately listed a series of her advantages: she is beautiful, has good academic performance, has a gentle personality, etc. wait. He also said that many boys in the class liked her, but no one said it. I smiled and said, you have good taste, such an outstanding girl will naturally be liked by many people. So what do you do to make her like you too? In fact, what a ten-year-old child refers to as liking someone is just that they think someone is good-looking or cute, and they like to play with each other and chat more. So, I very calmly started a conversation with my son about liking and being liked. 1. If you like her, you have to work hard to make yourself worthy of her. The person his son likes is Shao Jiaqi, not Lin Xiaoyan. That\’s because Shao Jiaqi is better than Lin Xiaoyan in all aspects. Similarly, if he wants to win Shao Jiaqi\’s favor, he must work hard to become better: improve his academic performance and shorten the gap with Shao Jiaqi; write neatly, and don\’t always be criticized by the teacher for writing too sloppily, otherwise Your image in her mind will be greatly reduced; do your duty as a class cadre, dare to express your opinions, and become the teacher\’s right-hand assistant… The child listened to my analysis and agreed very much, nodding frequently. 2. If you like her, you must let her live a good life in the future. How can we make her live a good life in the future? I asked my son that he went out to work after graduating from junior high school. He worked 11 or 2 hours a day, lived in a large dormitory or a rented house, and rarely came back to see his parents and children once a year, just like the parents of one of his classmates. What do you think? Is life happy? The son shook his head. I said, yes, if you like her, then work hard to get into college, have a job with high salary and good benefits in the future, buy a house in the city, let her live the life she wants, then she will be happy of. Then I used the happy lives of three aunts that he was familiar with and envied as evidence. They all worked in relatively good jobs after being admitted to college, and then found lovers with matching conditions, and they now have a happy life. The child also agreed. . 3. If you like her, you have to pass the test of her parents. I told him that parents are very realistic and hope that their daughters will marry well. What makes a good marriage? On the one hand, it is the financial well-off, and on the other hand, the man has good character. Then based on his actual situation, I pointed out his shortcomings such as sloppy work, lack of respect for elders, and sometimes too much temper, and reminded him that he must correct himself in order to gain the approval of her parents in the future. Needless to say,When he heard this, his son already showed a fearful face and whispered that he just liked to play with her and didn\’t really want to date her. If she can tell me everything exactly, of course I know that he just wants to play with her, so I don’t criticize and stop her, but analyze and guide, making him feel that it is normal to like a good person, and at the same time encourage him. He constantly strives to improve himself. In the end, her son said that he only regards her as a good friend now and will not tell her that he likes her. He will wait until he is admitted to college before starting dating. Maybe he will already like someone else by then… To this I Agree, this is exactly what I want to achieve. It is undeniable that with the popularization of the Internet and the development of social platforms, the phenomenon of puppy love among primary and secondary school students has become more and more serious, which has caused many parents to become disloyal when talking about puppy love. Once they find signs of puppy love in their children, they become furious and intervene and stop them arbitrarily. However, the results are often It\’s counterproductive and leads to constant tragedies. People are emotional animals. Parents should understand that as children grow up, it is normal for them to develop feelings for the opposite sex. What you have to do at this time is to communicate and guide, so that the children will work harder to create a better future for themselves because they have love in their hearts.