When raising a boy, you are most afraid of meeting these three types of parents. If any one of them is included, the child will be miserable.

When the father loves, the mother will be at peace, when the mother is at peace, the son will be at peace, and when the son is at peace, the family will be harmonious, and the family will be in harmony with the past. In the past, it was emphasized that the inside helped the outside and the woman took the lead. The man was busy with his career outside, while the woman was responsible for taking care of the family. Parents treated each other with respect and treated each other as guests, which was very beneficial to the growth of children. Nowadays, when we talk about the influence of the original family, what is the influence of the original family? In fact, it is the influence of parents on their children, their personalities, their way of doing things, and their methods of educating their children, all of which affect their growth, mental health, and character formation. ‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍We always have various expectations for our children and hope that our children will be outstanding and successful. But when we think about the problem from the perspective of children, aren\’t children comparing themselves to their parents? For children, they cannot choose who their parents are. Good parents can make their children outstanding and confident, while irresponsible parents can easily influence their children. When raising a boy, you are most afraid of meeting these three types of parents. If any one of them is included, the child will be miserable! 1. When will my parents respect me? Parents who do not know how to respect cannot raise a self-respecting and confident boy. We often say that boys should stand upright, have self-esteem, self-confidence, and strive for self-improvement. However, children’s self-esteem and self-confidence come from their parents. ‍‍If parents don’t know how to respect their children, don’t believe they are still there, and always think that their children can’t do this well, that can’t be done well, how can their children become confident? ‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍Li Sanqing, played by Huang Xuan in the movie \”Laifu Hotel\” released some time ago, is such a character. Because of his naughty, he was labeled as \”ignorant and bad boy\” by his parents. ‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍ So Li Sanqing started to mess around and often hung out with some young people. Once when he was eating and saw a girl being bullied, Li Sanqing and his friends stepped forward to help and got into a fight. Li Sanqing repeatedly emphasized that he was doing it to save talents. There was a fight, but even his father didn’t believe that Li Sanqing was trying to save people. After he was released from prison, his father still ignored Li Sanqing and even threatened: Without your dirty money, you are not worthy of being my son! ‍‍If parents don’t believe in their children and don’t respect their children, who do you expect to respect their children? Before becoming famous, Li Jiaqi worked as a \”counter sister\” in a cosmetics cabinet. To be precise, she should be a \”counter brother\”. She introduced products to girls who came to buy skin care products and makeup every day, and even put lipstick on her mouth. Test colors for customers. At that time, all the relatives said that Li Jiaqi was not serious and did not do his job properly, and they looked down on Li Jiaqi at all. Only Li Jiaqi\’s parents said: It doesn\’t matter, you don\’t steal or rob, just do the job you like. ‍‍‍‍Both boys and girls are independent individuals and should receive due respect, because children also have self-esteem. As Li Meijin said: The so-called poor students in the class are not really stupid or do not study. They are often the ones who receive the most criticism in the class and are not taken seriously at home. ‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍However, some parents are like this and always feel that their children are their ownAttachments can be beaten, scolded, and ridiculed at will, thinking that the child has no self-esteem. If a mother often treats the child like this, it will make the child have low self-esteem. 2. When will my parents let me make my own choices? Controlling parents cannot raise brave and decisive children. ‍‍‍‍‍‍‍Many parents always feel that they have traveled a lot and have experience, and they always want to arrange their children\’s lives. A friend studied software development in college and stayed in Guangzhou to work after graduation. However, his parents kept calling his friend to ask him to go back to work as a teacher because several people in his family were teachers in school. In the eyes of his parents, this is a job as a teacher. Stability, stability, winter and summer vacations, a house and a car at home, and no expectation of you working hard to make money, why don\’t you want to come back? In the end, my friend refused. He said: If the child must follow the path paved by his parents, it would be better to strangle him to death from the beginning. ‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍Every child has his own path in life, and parents must learn to let go. My colleague Xiao Chen got married in March this year. Even her mother helped choose the groom. Xiao Chen didn’t like it very much. During the blind date, Xiao Chen thought about breaking up several times, but her mother stopped her. She thought the other party was polite. , this is rare. During that time, Xiao Chen always confided his troubles to me from time to time. Finally, Xiao Chen said: Anyway, my mother chose it for me. If I have a bad life in the future, I will blame my mother! There are many such parents in life. They always interfere in their children\’s choices and decisions under the banner of \”being good for their children\” and decide for their children what kind of life they should live. Just like Xiao Chen, who has completely relied on her mother. If you don\’t let me make my own choice, then okay, if things go wrong in the future, I will blame you. Children should have their own lives. If everything is decided by parents and the children are allowed to do what their parents want, then what is the point of the children coming into this world? As Gibran\’s poem said: Your children are not your children. They come through you, but they do not belong to you. Their future is a tomorrow that you can\’t even dream of. ‍‍‍3. My parents made me feel stressed. Their nagging and poor education cannot raise spiritually rich children. ‍‍I often tell parents: No matter whether the family is poor or rich, parents’ love for their children is not high or low, and parents should never impose the hardships of life on their children. ‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍ I have seen a video before. A father told his daughter how hard his job was. He worked in high temperatures every day and was reluctant to turn on the air conditioner during his lunch break. He was so hot that he was sweating profusely. ‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍‍ does not impose your own suffering on the children, this will make the children have low self-esteem, breathlessness, and think of themselves as a burden to the family. ‍‍Some parents like this kind of self-motivating education. They always cry and nag in front of their children, often saying: How much hardship we have suffered to raise you, how much sin we have suffered, etc. This will make the child feelMoving will also make children feel depressed and may even want to escape when they grow up. We all expect our children to be outstanding, especially boys, who will shoulder the responsibility of supporting the family in the future. We expect our children to be responsible, but as a mother, giving our children a sunny and positive image is far more important than nagging them.