When training your child to maintain concentration, you must avoid this pitfall

One day a year ago, I took Yuebao to watch a children\’s show, and there was a little girl about 5 years old sitting next to me. The little girl is more lively and active, squirming in her seat and always tentatively saying hello to Yue Bao. How to cultivate children\’s concentration? Lin Wei: The person who gave your child the amazing concentration to accompany the little girl was her grandmother. She seemed to be troubled by the little girl’s liveliness and kept urging her: Sit down quickly, it’s about to start. Sit tight and stop running around. You are a kid who doesn\’t know how to sit properly. Look at this young lady (referring to Yue Bao), she is so steady that she looks like a girl. After a while, the children\’s play started, and the little girl finally calmed down and stared at the stage intently. At this time, it was grandma who became active: Niuniu, have a drink of water. Can\’t go to the toilet? Oh, this calf is really interesting, isn\’t it? When you grow up, grandma will send you to learn acting, and you can go on the big stage like them. OK? Although Niuniu ignored her grandma, she slowly began to become unable to sit still in her seat. Sometimes she stood up, sometimes knelt on the chair, and sometimes kept twisting her body, so grandma started nagging her again and again to sit down. By the end, I was a little bored. How could this be a children\’s show? It was more lively off stage than on stage. If someone told me that this girl will not focus on her studies when she grows up, I would not be surprised. Especially if she is raised by such a grandma, the child will easily have messy thinking, cannot calm down, and is easily agitated. I wonder if you have ever met such parents. They always like to talk in their children\’s ears non-stop when they are doing things. Take online classes as an example. In order to make their children listen carefully, some parents move a chair to sit next to their children and listen with them. The starting point was good, but how did they do it? While the children were taking online classes, they asked: Do you understand? Do you remember what the teacher said? This sentence is very important, please write it down in your notebook! The teacher asked a question, why didn\’t you answer it? Hello! How many times have I told you? Your pen holding posture is wrong again. Some parents cannot accept their children listening to the class in a confused manner or occasionally taking their eyes off the screen. They feel that their children are distracted. It is certainly not a good habit for a child to be distracted, but if he makes a little movement, you remind him, and if he is not sitting up straight, you will nag him. Instead, you will keep making noise in his ear, which is better than him twisting and twisting. Playing with a pencil can distract him more easily. In fact, young children have limited time to concentrate, let alone in a relatively relaxed environment like home. So, it\’s not a serious matter if they are a little more relaxed at home than at school. If you suspect that they are not paying attention to the class, you can test them with a few questions at the end of the class. If they cannot answer the questions, tell them to pay attention in class. The effect will be much better than reminding them endlessly. Focused attention is the foundation of all creative work and deep experience. If your child cannot concentrate for long periods of time, focus all your attention on one focal point, then their experience of the external world will be very shallow, and they will also lack the ability to be creative and think deeply. Concentration is not cultivated, but nurtured. When children do things, whether we can provide them with a quiet environment, and whether we can do it without disturbing, correcting, or judging, will affect whether the children can focus on doing things when they grow up. Therefore, if you find that your child is not focused on studying or doing things, you must not rush to correct it. Instead, you should take a step back and let the child face his distraction independently until he can find a focus and stabilize it. We need to distinguish clearly, is the child not focusing, or is the child not focusing on what you want him to focus on? If it’s the former, we should start with the child’s interests. When your child is doing something he likes, don\’t disturb him and let him fully experience the feeling of being fully focused. Only then can he transfer this feeling to other things. If it is the latter, you must start from the learning goals and learning interests, and attention should not be taken as the blame. A full set of logical thinking training questions and concentration training for children aged 2-6 years old, Little Octopus, a master of whole-brain development, PDF 20G