Where the parent’s bottom line is, that’s where the child’s future height will be

For a child, it only takes a few years to form his outlook on life and personality. Parents must seize the precious opportunity to block the evil direction and let him grow up happily. Where the parent\’s bottom line is, that\’s where the child\’s future height will be. 01A few days ago, I saw a piece of news that made me speechless. A teacher in Liangqing District, Nanning City, was in class when a student suddenly fell to the ground because of his chair. So, the teacher walked over from the podium, took the student\’s arm, and wanted him to sit back down. However, an incredible scene happened. The student picked up the umbrella on the ground and hit the teacher on the head. His head and ears bled on the spot. What’s even more surprising is that during the follow-up treatment, the child’s father claimed that the teacher was beaten because he was too close to the child. It means that the teacher must bear the consequences of being beaten, and the reason is so weird that it is almost unbelievable. Nowadays, some parents are worried about their children. No matter what mistakes they make, they firmly believe that they are right, and they have reasons for doing so. In Shanghai, a child bit five children in one day while grabbing toys in a kindergarten. The child\’s father not only refused to apologize, but also asked the parents of the bitten children to reflect: \”Why do my children bite? Please think twice.\” A 22-year-old from Jiangyin The girl was hit in the head by a brick thrown by a naughty child from the roof and died on the spot. But the parents of the naughty child said that it was because the property management failed to clean up the garbage in time. Behind almost every crazy child, there is a parent who has no bottom line. 02 Love without a bottom line is actually a disaster. Li Tianyi is such an example. His father Li Shuangjiang was never willing to punish him. Even if Li Tianyi made a mistake, he really wanted to hit him, but before he could hit him, his tears fell and he couldn\’t do it at all. His mother Meng Ge doted on Li Tianyi in every possible way. When Li Tian was 13 years old, he went to the United States to study and fell in love with ice hockey. Meng Ge allowed him to play in the garage of the community, which led to a conflict. When Li Tian was 14 years old, he wanted to drive. Mengge gave him a BMW despite the fact that the child was underage and had no driver\’s license. Soon, Li Tianyi beat a couple over a traffic dispute. Although all these were settled by Mengge, it also made Li Tianyi think that his parents could handle everything, so he became even crazier and not only did whatever he wanted; he even became indifferent to the law and eventually became the initiator of the gang rape case and was sentenced to ten years in prison. In line with Rousseau\’s words, \”Do you know how to make your child a miserable person? That is to be obedient to him.\” According to reports, Mengge often shed tears later. But if I had known today, why bother in the beginning. Just because parents have no bottom line does not mean that society has no bottom line. If parents don\’t teach their children, sooner or later society will teach them hard lessons. Don\’t wait until then to regret it. The people in this world who should not be forgiven the most are children, and the people who should be least generous are parents. Because the child is still young, he still cannot distinguish between good and evil, beauty and ugliness, right and wrong, so parents need to keep the bottom line, tell him where the boundaries of behavior are, and tell him what public order and good customs are. Because the child is still young and cannot control himself, parents need to keep the bottom line. Use discipline or punishment to suppress the evil parts of his nature and prevent him from going further down the wrong path.Far. 03 In recent years, freedom and releasing children\’s nature have become the golden rule of education for many parents. It seems that as long as they are scolded and disciplined, they will leave a psychological shadow on their children. In fact, allowing parents to have a bottom line does not mean indiscriminate violence, but using appropriate discipline to make children sensible and understand right and wrong. When he recalls it later, he will understand that those punishments are just the price for making mistakes. Zhihu author Yang Meimei once shared the growth story of a friend. This friend was also a naughty child when he was young. He once took a train and made a lot of noise along the way. No matter how much his mother taught him, he didn\’t take it seriously. As a result, his mother took him directly out of the car and said to him, \”I respect your desire to speak, but I also have to respect the rights of other people in the car not to be disturbed. Now, you can say whatever you want. We won’t disturb others. When you finish talking, we will buy tickets and leave at any time!” They stayed at that station for seven hours that day. He cried and rolled, but his mother said unmoved. This is a mistake you made yourself, and you have to bear it yourself. If you cry again, we will stay here until you finish crying. If you are tired of crying, I will have food here and I will not threaten you with crying. I will promise you nothing, not now, nor in the future.\” It wasn\’t until he promised his mother that he would never make any noise or disturb others again that they bought another ticket and left. Since then, the friends have never made any noise or noise in public. There are countless such things in the growth process of friends. For example, being naughty and ringing the neighbor\’s doorbell repeatedly. After apologizing to the neighbor, his mother knocked on his door repeatedly while he was doing his homework until he realized how irritating he was being teased. For another example, when he hit a girl in his class, his mother hit him for the first time, and then told him that boys are stronger than girls, not to bully girls, but to protect girls. Now, this friend has grown into a cheerful and well-educated person. In fact, every child has a good side and an evil side when they are young. The difference lies in how the parents behave. If indulged, the child may be evil-minded. Only through discipline can we produce better flowers. 04 \”Unequal Childhood\” writes: At least to a certain extent, the American elite generally practices collaborative education, which can be roughly understood as \”captivity\”; while the parenting method practiced by the working class and the poor is to allow natural growth. This is what we call \”freezing\”. You see, leaving things alone is just a helpless choice for the American working class and the poor, while the American elite will set clear boundaries in their children\’s education. The final result is that children from the poor class compete with children from the elite class when they grow up, forming an obvious class solidification. There is an ancient Chinese saying that if parents love their children, they will have far-reaching plans. If you still have time to discipline your child, if you don’t want your child to become a crazy person who causes trouble everywhere in the future, or even become a criminal. Of course, there are also skills in discipline: 1. Seize the opportunity when he makes a mistake, deal with it resolutely, never compromise, and let him know that no one in this world can do whatever he wants., there is a price for making mistakes. 2. Lead by example. Parents are role models for their children. Parents who ask their children not to do something must not do it. Only if you set an example can your children follow suit. 3. Grasp the pain points. For some children, violence may not be effective, but if you can grasp the pain points, you will definitely achieve good results. For example, tell him that because you made a mistake, the trip to Sanya that was promised to you will be cancelled. When will you go again, it will depend on your performance. Another example is telling your child that if you don’t make mistakes, your father will promise to watch the latest movie with you. Through rewards and punishments, the possibility of children\’s self-discipline is improved. For a child, it only takes a few years to form his outlook on life and personality. Parents must seize the precious opportunity to block the evil direction and let him grow up happily. Where the parent\’s bottom line is, that\’s where the child\’s future height will be.