Whether the mother\’s family status is high or not can be seen from the child\’s \”name\”.

Some time ago, my child’s school organized a three-day parent-child outdoor camping activity. It is rare for parents to get together and chat in twos and threes. At first, the topic was just focused on the children, but as the relationship became more familiar, the content of everyone\’s chats became a bit \”gossip\” in nature. During the chat, a parent brought the topic to the relationship between husband and wife, and judged the status of the mother of the child in their respective families based on the way the parents of many children around them interacted with each other and their body movements. Someone took the lead in opening up new ideas, and others responded positively and began to speak enthusiastically. One parent said that whenever a child has any problems, his father is always on the front line, so the mother\’s family status must be very high. Another parent said that if the person carrying luggage and backpacks when going out is the child\’s father, then the mother\’s status in the family will not be low. In short, everyone has different opinions, and based on this, they use examples from other parents to prove their own opinions. But at that time, most of my attention was focused on the children, and from time to time I had to take pictures of Mama Naidou and her mother. So I haven’t deeply participated or thought about this topic. But later after the event, when I returned home and saw the camping list, I recalled what the parents said at the time and realized that it might not be random speculation. Not only that, when I put everyone\’s opinions together and mapped them to the list of this trip, I also discovered an interesting phenomenon: whether the mother\’s status in the family is high or not, in addition to the way the husband and wife get along, and body movements In addition to judgment, you can also tell from the \”name\” of the child, which is basically the same. What\’s going on? Let’s find out together. 01 The relationship between the child\’s name and the mother\’s family status. Generally speaking, children are conceived based on love. Therefore, when we name our children, it not only reflects the parents’ ardent expectations for their children, but also incorporates the feelings of parents into the name. So usually, we can find out the status of the child\’s mother in the family through a child\’s name. ① The mother’s status is detached: the child takes the mother’s surname. Some people say that the tradition from ancient times to the present cannot be easily broken overnight. The same goes for the choice of a child\’s surname. Even from a legal perspective, a child can take either the father\’s or the mother\’s surname. But from a practical point of view, families that can accept their children to \”take their mother\’s surname\” are very rare. Those families that allow children to take their mother\’s surname not only show that the child\’s father and in-laws have enlightened ideas, but also show how much the father values ​​and loves the mother. Therefore, in those families that are able to break down traditional barriers, let their children take their mother\’s surname, and not be shackles by the world, the mother\’s status must be transcendent. ② The mother\’s status is superior: the child\’s name is integrated into the parents\’ name. Everyone says: A husband\’s love for his wife is hidden in every detail. Naming your child is no exception. Families with a harmonious relationship between husband and wife and a high-status mother will definitely consider the opinions of all parties when naming their children, and put enough effort into the name of the child to the greatest extent possible.\”Dog food\” full of love. So many loving couples have come up with a wonderful way to incorporate the parents\’ names into their children\’s names. For example, on the list of parent-child spring outings, I saw a child named \”Zhang Muchen\”, and his name is a fusion of his parents\’ surnames, with the word \”Mu\” mixed in, which is pronounced as \”Mu\”, which means affection. The extent is evident. Therefore, when it comes to naming a child, if it can show the mother\’s imprint, then generally speaking, the father cares about the mother, and it can also show that the mother\’s status in the family is extraordinary. ③The mother\’s status is average: the child\’s name has little to do with it. Normally, naming a child is a very cautious matter in the family, so basically the whole family is pooled in the hope that the child\’s name will win at the starting line. Therefore, in this process, we will see the issue of the level of \”voice\” of family members. If the mother\’s status in the family is not high, then even after the hardships of ten months of pregnancy and the birth of the child, her opinions may not be cared about or taken seriously. In this way, whether the child\’s first name or nickname may not have much to do with her. Therefore, a child\’s name is sometimes an external signal of family relationships, from which we can obtain a lot of information. However, it is worth noting that in life, every family\’s situation is different, so we cannot generalize about the child\’s name and the mother\’s family status. But having said that, the role of the mother, the high or low status in the family, often determines the direction of a family, and will also have a profound impact on the children. 02What impact will the mother’s status have? Some people say that mother is the soul of a family and plays a key role in protecting the warmth and peace of the family. I deeply agree. A mother who is loved by her husband, respected by her in-laws, and has a high family status will have at least two profound impacts on the family. The first aspect: The status of the mother determines the atmosphere of the family. Recently, \”Come on!\” The TV series \”Mom\” is a hit on all major platforms. The mother He Xiaohan played by Dong Jie makes people feel heartache across the screen. Outside, she is the mother who dares to argue with others. But at home, she is a \”useless\” daughter-in-law in the eyes of her mother-in-law, and a \”useless\” mother in the eyes of her children. Even my academic background is often criticized and belittled by my mother-in-law. Whenever a child falls down, her mother-in-law will put a big hat on her, blaming her for not doing anything and not even looking after the child. The heavy pressure from his family made He Xiaohan live in endless depression and pain. And her daughter also became extremely timid at home because of her mother\’s obedience, and sometimes she didn\’t even dare to take a breath. But despite this, her husband also pretended to be deaf and dumb, using his mobile phone and busy working to escape from the various injustices his wife encountered. I am reminded of what writer Li Yueliang said: What a woman longs for most in her life is love and understanding. If you cannot have even the most basic care and kindness at home, then how can you talk about happiness? If things go on like this, such a family can only fall into a huge negative energy field and become resentful.Very heavy and constant grievances. On the contrary, if the mother can be valued and loved, then the mother will exude a kind of light and tenderness from the inside out, and these can change the atmosphere of a home and fill every member of the family with it. In the midst of vitality and warmth. Second aspect: The mother’s status determines the child’s future. I saw a video before that was quite touching. In the video, a mother is wiping the table with paper towels, while the child beside her is not strict and keeps ordering her to \”hurry up.\” Upon hearing the child\’s bad attitude, the father, who was busy working aside, immediately put away his cell phone, seriously pointed out his daughter\’s problem, and showed his daughter how to speak correctly to her mother. After it was over, she also asked her daughter to apologize to her mother for her unreasonable behavior just now. Seeing this, I suddenly felt an inexplicable sense of power. While I was happy for this mother, I was also happy for the child in the video. Just think about it, if the mother has no status in this family, then when the child speaks impatiently to the mother in a commanding tone, no one will intervene, and it will gradually become normal. Over time, children who grow up under this kind of education will inevitably become arrogant and domineering. In the end, you have to pay a heavy price in society for the punishment and education you failed to get from your parents. Therefore, if those mothers with high family status can get the support and affirmation of their husbands, they can get twice the result with half the effort in educating their children, so that their children\’s growth can be better nourished and they will become more and more promising. In fact, the importance of mother in the family is much higher than we imagine. I remembered a story I accidentally saw before: A father asked Professor Medina, a famous American neuroscientist, for advice: How can his son be admitted to Harvard University? Faced with this problem, Professor Medina did not give any methods to improve performance, nor did he list or elaborate on various test preparation techniques. He just replied lightly: From now on, go home and love your wife well. Yes, mother is the soul of the family. If you want your children to be successful and your family to run better, the best way to invest is to enrich and treat your mother well. Only in this way can children grow up in an atmosphere of love and patience, and only in this way can mothers use their gentleness and virtuousness to provide a steady stream of sunshine and energy for the family. Finally, I would like to ask everyone, what do you think is the most important impact of a mother’s status on a family?