Whether your child has a good personality or not, you can tell by looking at these 4 points!

\”The honest man will suffer a secret loss, but the crying child will get milk!\” My cousin yelled angrily yesterday. She is well-known in the company as a good person with a gentle, easy-going personality and a bodhisattva heart. She will not refuse anyone who asks her for help. However, she was doing the hardest and most tiring work, but promotion and salary increase were always insulated from her. She couldn\’t understand why she was inferior to others? Picture source: \”Suspicious Clouds of Son-Changing\” I have always believed that character determines destiny. A survey by Cornell University in the United States analyzed the \”easy-going\” characteristics of workplace employees and found that employees with easy-going personalities were paid 18% less than employees with \”prickly\” personalities. What happened to my cousin was ultimately caused by her \”pleasant\” personality. Facing all the requests of others, I dare not refuse, turning myself into a snake oil, and I don\’t know how to fight for opportunities for myself. The book \”The Power of Character\” says that success does not depend on talent or even hard work itself, but is closely related to character. The seven key traits for a child\’s success are: perseverance, self-control, curiosity, responsibility, optimism, enthusiasm and social skills. Many parents believe that personality is innate and difficult to change, but this is not the case. Psychologist Professor Li Meijin said that personality is innate, but character is not. Character is a social behavior pattern formed through interactions between people in acquired education. She also emphasized: \”Character education is more important than ability education!\” A truly good character can handle relationships with oneself peacefully and handle relationships with others wisely. My child, as you grow up, your mother hopes that these four traits can be internalized into your character and externalized into your behavior. Act decisively without looking ahead or behind. Not long ago, a police video of a seven-year-old boy hit the screen. The parents suddenly left home without telling the little boy. He was frightened and frightened at home alone. He felt that he might be in \”danger\”, so he decisively called the police. The logic is clear and the articulation is clear, which can be called textbook level: the reason why this little boy is still so rational in the panic is that the courage in his bones allows him to defeat fear. I am really impressed by his calm and experienced attitude in answering various questions from the police! TED speaker Reshma Saujani said that people do not have to be perfect, but they must be brave. And I think that being brave alone is not enough. I want my children to be smart and courageous people. A 2-year-old girl plays on a trampoline in Manchester, England. Suddenly, a white truck passed by. The driver took out donuts and tried to lure the girl into the truck. The girl did not realize the danger and continued to play on the trampoline. At this time, the 8-year-old sister saw it. She ran over without hesitation, picked up her sister and ran home. I really like this witty girl. At such a young age, she can make quick judgments when faced with emergencies, which not only protects herself but also her sister. My child, my mother hopes that you will be able to remain calm when faced with danger in the future, do things without hesitation, see the right opportunity, and take decisive action. A child who acts decisively must have a strong inner aura when he grows up, possess leadership skills, be able to calmly deal with various bad situations, and must be a person who can be trusted. Picture source: \”Cattle Herding Class\”\”Spring\”: Stick to the end and never give up. In the program \”Hello Dad\”, boxing champion Zou Shiming once said something that made me cry. \”I am not the best, but I must be the hardest working.\” Zou Shiming said that he is a person who never makes decisions easily, and once he makes a decision, he will stick to it. Practicing boxing was a decision he made when he was 14 years old, and he has been working hard for this till now. He had problems with his eyes as early as 15 years ago. The eye bones were cracked and a nerve was stuck in the seam, causing double vision in his left eye. Although he was \”scarred\”, he did not give up easily. A light of perseverance that refuses to admit defeat, is not afraid of pain, and gets up when he falls has been supporting him. He risked Zou Shiming becoming \”Zou blind\” and won the golden belt. When it comes to children, he said that as a father, the most important thing is to convey a sense of value to his children and let them know that they should suffer losses as early as possible. A fall, a bump, or a physical injury can be healed quickly, but a broken glass heart cannot be put back together. My child, my mother also hopes that you will not give up easily. If you fall, get up by yourself. If you make a choice, stick to it. A persevering and unyielding character will be even more powerful, allowing you to shine brightly on the road to pursuing your dreams. Be positive and optimistic and turn resistance into motivation. Balzac said: Setbacks are like a stone. For the weak, it is a stumbling block, stopping you from moving forward; but for the strong, it is a stepping stone, allowing you to stand higher. My neighbor\’s grandma is a miserable person. During the famine years, her husband starved to death, leaving behind four hungry children and several dilapidated mud houses. However, despite such a situation, their family was filled with cheerful laughter all day long. \”Life has been so hard. If I don\’t smile, my life will be hopeless.\” Later, her four children all had a good future with their own hands. When my grandma celebrated her 80th birthday, her youngest daughter, who was already a university professor, said with emotion: My mother’s optimism allowed us to see a glimmer of light in the difficult years. That light illuminated our childhood and guided us in the difficult years. , moving forward with hope. This legacy of optimism is moving. Hawking suffered from Lou Gehrig\’s disease when he was 21 years old. He was paralyzed, unable to speak, and only three fingers in his body could move. When a reporter asked him: \”The disease has locked you in a wheelchair forever, don\’t you think fate has made you lose too much?\” He calmly typed five sentences with three fingers: My fingers can still move, and my brain can still move. Can also think. I have ideals that I pursue throughout my life, and I have relatives and friends who love me and me. I still have a grateful heart! When he finished typing the last word, the audience burst into applause! A person with an optimistic and positive attitude can cope with the hardships of life and remain calm and calm in good times and bad. This spirit of neither being humble nor being arrogant, but embracing life with a smile, will also infect those around you. My child, my mother hopes that you can become a positive and sunny person, able to enjoy the best and withstand the worst. Run under the sun, fearless in wind and rain. Good people do not bully, evil people do not fear. Some people say that character is a more important asset than IQ. A good character, understood from another level, is a kind of wisdom. Big recentlyIn the popular \”Story of Yanxi Palace\”, Wei Yingluo was able to fight back decisively when she was bullied and warned the other person: \”I, Wei Yingluo, am born with a bad temper and am not easy to mess with.\” When her friends were bullied, she was able to help her. He has saved many times and taught him the secret of survival: \”People should be kind and know how to protect themselves.\” Kindness has its own edge, gentleness and strength. I’m talking about people with Wei Yingluo’s personality. Such style and confidence make relatives happy to admire him and enemies to fear him. When I was in junior high school, a begging uncle came to the school gate and pitifully asked me for 2 yuan. At that time, my weekly living expenses were only 10 yuan. But in the end I couldn\’t bear it and gave him the only 2 yuan I had. The guard told me that this man was a \”professional beggar\” and did not deserve sympathy. Later, a few times, he pestered me for money again, but I refused decisively. Unexpectedly, he actually yelled: \”You are cruel and stingy, and you will die!\” I couldn\’t get angry, so I yelled back: \”You are strong, but you are too lazy to eat.\” Aren’t you embarrassed to go to work and ask for money from students?” When I said this, he was startled at first, then walked away angrily, and never looked for me again. At that moment, I finally understood that people can be kind, but they also need to have some edge. My child, this world is not only filled with truth, goodness and beauty, but also ugliness and evil. I hope that you will have a sharp edge in your character. When you meet the weak, you will lend a helping hand, and when you meet the bully, you will not be afraid of trouble. I will not offend anyone unless they offend me; if someone offends me, he will be killed no matter how far away he is. You can protect yourself in times of difficulty and escape from danger in times of difficulty. Don\’t be so cold that you freeze others, and don\’t be so warm that you burn yourself. Character determines destiny, and parents determine character. In the book \”Special Cruelty, Special Love\”, Jewish mother Sarah said that the essence of her education is \”character shaping\”. She has been working hard to help her children develop independent, strong and optimistic characters. It is this kind of character that allows her children to always maintain a strong posture in the fierce social competition. Both sons became business elites before the age of 30. Dear baby, your parents have no demands or expectations for you. Our biggest wish is that you can become a child with a healthy mind and body and a sound personality. May you be forgiving to yourself and others, warm and sunny, resolute and courageous, neither bullied nor deceived by others, always have an innocent heart for the world, and go to the end of the world with your sword. That\’s enough.