Which one should I choose, whether my child no longer wants to live or my child has poor grades?

A little girl was sent to the emergency room who had drunk pesticide. It turned out that the little girl\’s mid-term exam results were not satisfactory, and her mother criticized her a few times. As a result, the child drank pesticide in a fit of anger. Despite the doctors\’ best efforts and two hemoperfusions, the blood drug concentration has not been able to drop, and multiple organs have begun to fail. He still has a month to live at most. Doctors advise parents to take their children out of the hospital so that they can spend the last stage of their lives happily. After hearing this, the mother collapsed and cried: \”I knew she could take medicine, why should I tell her anything? If you didn\’t do well in the exam, you didn\’t do well in the exam, so what can I do…\” This is a TV series A scene from \”Emergency Doctor\”. But in fact, we have heard of similar plots in our lives. News about children who were criticized by their parents for poor grades and got into trouble as a result were often seen in newspapers and on the Internet. When something happens to a child, people\’s first reaction is the same as that mother\’s, realizing that in the face of life, the quality of study is actually secondary. Of course this is true. If there is a choice between a child who no longer wants to live and a child with poor grades, I believe all parents will choose the latter without hesitation. If you push your child to death, no matter how good your grades are, what’s the use! However, life is not a multiple-choice question. If our parents completely think about it from now on, as long as the children are alive and healthy, it does not matter what other aspects are. This is also wrong. On the surface, many current teenage suicides are indeed related to study pressure. But from a deeper level, there is a problem with our children\’s education. Whether it is school education or family education, they only focus on students. Cultural class results, while neglecting the education of young people\’s character, psychology and other aspects. As Dr. Liu in the play said, parents’ criticism of their children and parents’ failure to put pesticides out of their children’s reach are not the crux of the problem. The key is that our overall environment and our entire education do not pay attention to the cultivation of character. Adults are impatient with children, and children threaten adults with death. Even if they can\’t find pesticides, they will think of other ways to survive. Life is bound to face pressure, setbacks, and even grievances. If you commit suicide whenever you don\’t like it, I\’m afraid no matter how many lives you have, it won\’t be enough. Therefore, in the process of educating our children, we cannot just \”choose the lesser of two evils\” to comfort our own educational mistakes. For example, in the same TV series, He Jianyi was very angry when his daughter Mei Mei became pregnant out of wedlock. Jiang Xiaoqi advised him, which one is better if the child is terminally ill? He Jianyi retorted that if children are not allowed to grow up healthily, there is no need to care about anything, and there is no need for education. On the basis of healthy growth, there must be some ideals and ambitions, some rules and principles. I agree with He Jianyi\’s point of view. Pregnancy before marriage is certainly better than terminal illness, but it does not prove that pregnancy before marriage is correct. Similarly, between the child not wanting to live and the child not wanting to learn, of course we would rather choose the child not wanting to learn, but this does not prove that the child does not want to learn is correct. For children\’s mistakes, while we tolerate them, we must also criticize and educate them.Education. Life is above all else, there is no doubt about this. But life is not only about living well, but also about pursuing higher levels of things and receiving education. One of the functions of education is for predecessors to tell future generations their experiences so that they can avoid detours. If we dare not take care of our children because we are afraid that something will happen to them, we will also destroy the children. When children have accidents, it is not because we educate them too much, but because we educate them too little and miss an important link in education. We cannot go from one extreme to another and let our children have their way just because we are afraid that their children will not be able to think clearly. It is the right approach to cultivate a sound personality in your child and give him a certain ability to withstand stress. When he is criticized for something he has done wrong, even if he is really wronged, he will not give up his life easily. This is the right approach. If you just compromise, other problems will still arise. For example, if the little girl miraculously survives, and then the parents no longer dare to care about her and do whatever they want as long as the child is happy, I am afraid that the rest of the child\’s life will be a tragedy.