Many families have a lot of troubles about their children. For a family, you are the roots of the tree and the children are the flowers. If there is a problem with the flowers, there is probably a problem with the roots of the tree. The problems that parents often \”see\” in their children are actually their own problems \”flowering\” in their children. Children are our projection screens. In essence, there are no children with problems, only parents with problems. , parents represent the \”head\” and children represent the \”heart\”. The controller is the mind, and children are usually free minds. They flow like water and are difficult to control. This makes the more you want to catch, control, and control, the less you can grasp, control, and control. There was a popular variety show in the past few years called \”Metamorphosis\”, in which everyone During the period, a pair of rebellious and well-behaved children exchanged identities and exchanged living environments to experience each other\’s lives, in order to achieve the purpose of changing their rebellious psychology and allow them to successfully \”transform\”. Those parents think their child is a problematic child, is that really the case? In front of a child, we always play God unconsciously. We know what is best for him, we know what path is best for him, and in the long run of his life, do you really know what is best for your child? Use your \”knowledge\” to control your child, let him follow the path you paved, and impose on him what you think is good or right. That is simply hijacking. You are hijacking his life and freedom because we ourselves There is fear. When we demand or expect from another individual, it can make us feel deeper and tighter with the other person, making ourselves feel safe. Invisibly, we want children in the name of love or being good to him. Work towards the goals and ideals we want. This is not true love! True love is like the sun that gives light and heat to all things. You don’t expect him, you don’t ask him to be different from his original self, and you don’t try to transform or correct him. True love is completely unconditional. Specifically: We do not have an outer child, only an inner child. Your attitude towards your inner child is your relationship with your outer child. If your relationship with your child is chaotic, deal with it. Just your relationship with your beliefs. When you have no problem, the whole world\’s problems end. If I find that there is a problem in the world, it must be that I still have a problem.
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