Why do children always feel tired when studying? Parents too!

I met such a student in a tutoring class: a little boy in first grade. He was very handsome and very likable at first glance. But many problems in life and study are surprising. In the first grade, he did his homework without a teacher or parent, so he didn\’t write a word. Even if he was accompanied by someone, he wouldn\’t think about it. He would just wait for the people around him to point out the answer. He would just write and complete the task. . This gave all the teachers in the tutoring class a headache, and a teacher was assigned to help him with his homework every day. On this day, I was very lucky to have my turn. The math questions I did that day were all Yuanjiao type questions. This type of questions is not a problem for children who often go to the store. But for this child, no matter how I explained or gave examples, he couldn\’t understand any of them. I think it\’s not that he doesn\’t know it, but that he\’s too lazy to think about it. When I was talking, he didn\’t seem to listen, as if he was just waiting for the final answer. After finally finishing the day\’s homework, when his mother came to pick him up, I had a conversation with his mother. I learned from his mother’s words that their family conditions were good, so this child was cherished by his grandparents and loved by his grandparents. He was afraid of melting when he held it in his mouth, and he was afraid of freezing when he held it in his hands. As long as he wants something, someone will immediately deliver it to him. When he does something, he never has to think about whether he can do it or what to do if he can\’t do it. There are even things that someone does for him before he even thinks about it. Over time, I developed the habit of being able to use clothes, reach out for food, and open my mouth. Thinking is dispensable to him. I can\’t help but ask such parents, if you can pamper them for a while, can you pamper them for a lifetime? He will eventually leave your wings and go out on his own. At that time, will he resent you for doting on him but not giving him the ability to survive? We must love our children but not dote on them, and we must believe that children have the ability to solve problems on their own. What we want to give our children is not a steady supply of material supplies, but more about letting them learn to survive, learn to judge, and learn how to defeat more problems. difficulty. Nowadays, there are many such parents who not only arrange their children\’s life properly, but also let their children follow their own path in study. The child is like a puppet. If you ask me to learn to dance, I will learn to dance. If I was asked to go to an English remedial class, I would go to an English remedial class…I never had my own ideas and didn\’t know if I was interested in what I was learning. What\’s the use of just studying mechanically? Although you are learning, you are not mastering it. There is also a little boy in fifth grade in the tutoring class. He has dark circles under his eyes and yawns constantly every day. I find it very strange, why is a child so tired every day? He told me that his mother had enrolled him in many classes. After I finished my homework here, I had to go to a writing class to learn to write. I was even busier on Saturdays and Sundays. There were composition classes, English classes, and Mathematical Olympiad classes… I had to rush to classes every day so as not to be late. I went back. My family also assigned me a bunch of questions to do, and I was exhausted every day! I really feel sad for such a child. He is burdened by heavy homework and tutoring classes before he can fully enjoy his childhood. What will happen to him in the rest of his life? He can only spend his time busy and tired. In fact, parents have good intentions and do not want their children to lose at the starting line. But,There is also a choice in learning. It is not something other children can do, but your own children must also do it. Everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses. Why not respect the child\’s wishes and see if he likes to learn and is willing to learn? , are you interested in what you are learning? Therefore, parents should let go, trust their children, respect their children, and not make everything for their children. The road to the future still has to be walked by the children themselves. As a parent, you can only be a guiding light for your children at a certain station, and you should not always be the leader of your children\’s life.