Why do I allow my children to watch Ultraman?

Ogawa is a huge fan of Ultraman. He couldn\’t remember what kind of coincidence, but after watching \”Ultraman Tega\” for the first time, he fell in love with Ultraman completely. I\’ve been debating whether to ban him from watching Ultraman. In addition to worrying about the bad effects on his eyes if he watches too much, he is also worried about the possible impact of \”violent\” content on him. Later, I didn’t allow him to have access to TV series, books, toys and other Ultraman-related things for a period of time. But this \”isolation\” policy did not extinguish his enthusiasm for Ultraman. When he sees Ultraman dolls in a toy store, he always expresses extreme longing in his eyes; occasionally he goes to his aunt\’s house and watches an episode of Ultraman with his cousin, feeling as ecstatic as winning a jackpot. Seeing him like this, I couldn\’t help but think: Why should I kill my child\’s first love? Why does he like it so much? Should Ultraman really be banned completely? I don’t know how much Ogawa loves Ultraman. But I know that of all the Ultramans released by Tsuburaya Productions in the past 50 years, he can clearly distinguish each one, and each one can introduce their birthplace, combat capabilities, etc. in detail. There are so many monsters, and he remembers their names (most of them are four characters) and their special moves. When he was 3 years old, he could sing several Ultraman theme songs in Japanese. He often holds Ultraman and monsters alone and makes up stories while playing, which is very real. Why does he like it so much? After observing for a long time, I discovered: First, there is a superhero living in his heart. In monster-fighting games, he is always Ultraman, and others can only play monsters. It has been proven over and over again that Ultraman is an invincible hero and can definitely defeat monsters. It is easier for us adults to understand children if we think about ourselves. In real life, most of us are small and our power is limited or even meager. When we feel powerless, do we also fantasize about a superhero saving us from fire and water, or simply being bitten by a mutated spider and transforming into a superhero like Spider-Man? Children, like us, also have the desire to pursue strong power, especially boys with more male hormones. He also hopes that he can have super powers and do things that ordinary children and even adults cannot do. Second, he likes such \”scrambling\” games. As a boy, he likes sports and needs to release his energy and emotions. The pretend game of Ultraman and Monsters is just what he wants. Mothers who have boys at home all have this experience. Those \”stinky boys\” will not go to sleep peacefully until they exhaust their last bit of strength and energy; they just like to \”fight\”, including knives, guns, and sticks. , It really doesn’t work, it’s not fun just running. This is what boys should be like, active and aggressive, loving heroes and wanting to be heroes. It is difficult for us to change, and we should not deliberately change. I also think of myself as a child. My mother was very strict with me. She only allowed me to read as many books as I wanted. If there were not enough books at home, she would give me money to go out and rent books to read (oops, I accidentally exposed my age). But she will review the content of the book in advance, and books that are too outrageous are not allowed to be read. At that time, I really read everything, novels, history, documentary literature… during the summer vacation in sixth grade of elementary school.During that time, in addition to eating and sleeping, I finished reading \”The Legend of the Condor Heroes\” in three days and three nights (girls also have hero complexes and yearn for the world); when I was in junior high school, I read a lot of novels by Qiong Yao and Xi Juan, and at that time I read \”Huan Zhu Ge Ge\”. I just thought, if this is made into a TV series, it will definitely be popular (you have the foresight). Later, I grew up healthy and strong, and I am very grateful for the freedom my mother gave me. Allowing does not mean laissez-faire, and some safeguards are needed… Thinking about it this way, I will no longer prohibit Ogawa from accessing Ultraman\’s TV series, toys and books. But allowing does not mean letting go. I have also established some safeguards. For example, strictly limit time. Ogawa watches Ultraman TV series at most once a week. If he doesn\’t ask for it himself, we won\’t take the initiative to show it to him. Many times, because he has so many things he wants to do, he often cannot remember to watch any videos for a week, including Ultraman; his iPad often runs out of power for weeks. For example, cultivate his diverse interests. Although Ogawa likes Ultraman, it does not hinder his love for \”Paw Patrol\” and \”Peppa Pig\”; he also likes to watch BBC science documentaries, including the English \”Pulse of the Earth\” and \”The Origin of Life\” He loves playing chess, drawing and reading. When he has a wide range of interests, he is not completely dependent on any one of them. For example, help him distinguish between virtuality and reality. I would watch Ultraman with Ogawa and tell him clearly that it was a science fiction film. Ultraman is played by humans, and the monsters are also played by humans. Sometimes they even deliberately pointed out the \”fraudulent\” or obviously problematic areas in the video to let him understand that it was not real and was just an act. For example, guide him to focus on the \”good\” side. To be honest, Ultraman\’s content conception and dialogue design are quite positive (compared to a lot of internet jargon in some domestic cartoons, it\’s much better). I will actively guide Ogawa to pay more attention to the \”good\” aspects such as Ultraman\’s bravery, selfless help, and emphasis on friendship and family; and downplay the focus of Ultraman\’s fight scenes with monsters. Although Xiaochuan likes to play \”killing monsters\” games, he knows \”boundaries\” very well and he will never take the initiative to attack other children. When he plays the Ultraman Monster Fighting game with his friends, he will tell the rules in advance, \”It\’s just a game, it\’s fake. Don\’t hit me, and I won\’t hit you!\” For example, create a healthy family environment for him. . A certain study found that the more stressed and helpless children feel at home and school, the more likely they are to turn to superheroes to change their \”misfortune.\” We should create a warm and harmonious family environment for him, take the initiative to communicate with him, and let him understand that no matter what happens, his parents are his eternal backing and family is his strongest support. We often say that we should respect children. Sometimes we should start by respecting the child\’s interests and understanding his hobbies. Of course, we need to help him get rid of bad hobbies completely, but for hobbies that are within control, after establishing appropriate protection barriers, let the child enjoy happiness and satisfaction!